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post #11 of 17 Old 10-01-2012, 01:24 AM
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While the vast majority of child abuse/child sexual abuse cases involve someone known to the child, don't discount the dangers of strangers either. I was molested in my childhood by a perfect stranger. I was taught stranger-danger and all that but it wouldn't have helped, I didn't approach him and really had no way of preventing it (and nor did my parents, he was very sly about it).

And yes, AlexS, kids of single mums, especially those in more desperate (financially and/or emotionally) circumstances who may be blinded to the dangers by a deep desire to get out of their current situation, tend to be targeted by these creeps. I can see myself being an incredibly paranoid parent when I finally have kids...
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post #12 of 17 Old 10-01-2012, 01:48 AM
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I was seeking pepperspray for myself (long story) and I read the reviews on a cute pink one. Apparently a lot of parents purchased the same spray for their kids (i'm talking 6-8 year olds and over). Some even purchased matching tasers.

... Not a bad idea. I thought it was funny, at first. Not bad...

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post #13 of 17 Old 10-01-2012, 02:42 AM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by Delfina View Post
I don't agree with the entirety of that article.

I babysit my friend's and then neighbor kids all the time. This apparently makes me a pervert??

Geez.... I thought it was just because I really like toddlers and don't have any of my own any more and really like the part where I get to play for a few hours and then when they are cranky, tired, whiney-butts, they go HOME!

I am pretty sure the author was referring to people that are only interested in your kids, not in you socially.

WRONG!! My kids know that if ANYONE comes up to them for any reason that they are a "stranger" and they are to say nothing and immediately get myself or hubby. They won't stick around long enough for someone to introduce themselves, you start approaching them and they are leaving. Ask the friend of my boarder who was borrowing her trailer and didn't want to walk ALL the way up to the house and let me know like my boarder told him to (she had lost my phone number). He was introduced to my 20 Gauge after he tried to approach my eldest who went running for the house "Mommy, strange guy in our driveway and he tried to talk to me!"

Adults giving kids "gifts"? I'd be calling the authorities on 98% of the adults my kids have come into contact with. Every last teacher, coach, babysitter and so forth have bestowed countless quantities of "stuff" upon us. Noe if one child is being singled out to receive items that the rest isn't, then yes that would be worrisome but giving the whole group of kids stuff is not.
I think the reasons you listed are prime examples of why we should teach kids to use their judgement of people not just all strangers. Anyone who tries to put them in a situation they don't feel comfortable with, or who wants them to keep a secret from their parents.
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post #14 of 17 Old 10-03-2012, 03:33 PM
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I'm not sure if the story has reached overseas, but a little 5 year old girl in Wales has been abducted. :( They have arrested a man who is known to the family, but as of yet they have not found the little girl.

Keep a little person named April Jones in yous thoughts, and prayers if you are religious. I'm crossing my fingers and toes for a safe return.

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post #15 of 17 Old 10-04-2012, 10:45 AM
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Maybe this is why the old adage "Kids should be seen and not heard" came about.
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post #16 of 17 Old 10-04-2012, 02:38 PM
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while "stranger danger " gets all the publicity, people might wanna look at facts, It aint the strangers that are the danger its the people you know.
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post #17 of 17 Old 10-04-2012, 03:00 PM
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I think there is a couple of reasons why folks want to believe it's "strangers" that are the "danger" ...

1. We always hear about abductions, and stranger abductions always make the big news.

2. We don't hear about the majority of molestations .. because they take place at home or in another "safe" place, by people that are known and trusted by the family ... if not a member of the family.

3. We don't hear about these molestations because the vast majority of them are never reported, and are only known because the victims are seeking psychological help or healing YEARS later.

4. We WANT to believe that it's only strangers, because otherwise we would realize that we really don't KNOW most people, and it calls our judgement into question.

While I think it IS important to teach our children how to be as safe as possible around people they don't know .. it is equally important to warn them what to do if ANYONE, including people they know and love, touches them inappropriately or asks them to keep secrets from other trusted members of the family.

I continue to be flabbergasted by the number of women and men that I meet that were physically and sexually abused by biological members of their own families when they were children..
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