I get what it means to follow through on my threats, I have 3 kids, plus watch another 3 that aren't mine. I would go insane if all they did was walk all over me.
In this particular situation, I want to see H ride just as me much as she wants to ride, and she knows that. I keep giving her the benefit of the doubt, as well as her instructor, that she will handle it how she sees fit during the lesson. I see now that I may need to step in and let her instructor know she will not offend me if she needs to be a little harsher with H, but I do want the lessons to be her territory. I can do my part by talking to her at home, or canceling a couple lessons to get my point across.
Ironically enough, H was actually tested to be placed in a gifted class next year because of her talking. While she does get in trouble quite a bit for talking when she's not supposed to, her teacher said she is always leading these in depth discussions with her class, which led to her being tested. She's a thinker, and much like her dad, needs to know everything.
I do appreciate the concern, and I completely agree, that's why I came here. I will take the advice and try to be better myself.
My son is a chatter also. His lessons are an hour as well. He instructor tell them what they are going to work on & if they all work on the "lesson" then the last 15 minutes or so are "games". All 3 in his group really consentrate on "work" so they can get to their "games".
That's a great idea, I'll mention it to her instructor.