The trouble with not being married... son when he lost his "wife" who was really his life partner and my oldest granddaughter in a car accident, had to go to court to get custody of his surviving granddaughter. Yes, they all lived in the same home and no it was not because family members were against it. Just part of the law. Very sad really... I just had a family friend commit suicide a week ago today. Leaving behind his partner of 7 years and their two children and two of hers. It is ugly as his parents think they are more family than the family since they were not married.