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        07-01-2014, 09:29 PM
      #1
    Foal
    trouble balancing family and horses

    Anybody else have trouble and thus tips with balancing family and horses? My husband is learning to like them, but still jealous. My son is too little to be left in the yard or stay put while I work the girls so their work has been minimal lately. And my folks and inlaws think that I should be ashamed for having horses instead of more babies so while they'll watch my son while i'm in class if it has to do with the horses it is more difficult to convince them to watch him. I'm starting to feel really bad about it, but I just don't fuunction properly without horses in my life. And my hubs has some health issues that prevent too much interaction with the horses or he'd probably be out more as he is a big animal lover. Anywho, anybody ever had luck reconciling all this horse hatred?
         
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        07-01-2014, 10:03 PM
      #2
    Weanling
    Balancing family and horses is a challenge especially if you don't have support of you family. Luckily my husband is supportive of my horse life, I had the horses before I had him, so he knew what he was getting into. Horse are just part of our lives so I have never had to deal with family not being supportive.

    You just have to do the best you can and don't feel guilty for spending time with your horses, as long as your son is being cared for no need for the guilt. On the other hand don't feel guilt if you don't get to spend as much time as you would like with your horses, as long as they are getting fed and able to be turned out for exercise they will be fine. Your son will be in school soon enough, and will grow more independent maybe he will even get into the horses and it will be something you can do together.

    Maybe you could find a teenager or older tween who would be willing to watch your son in exchange for riding time, or if you could pay them for a few hours a week that way your family is off the hook and your horses would get more time.
         
        07-02-2014, 06:22 AM
      #3
    Foal
    Yes I do. I've always put the family first and lately, we've had some issues come up that have had me put off riding yet again. I find it tough because people I know are moving ahead in riding and living the dream so to speak. I'm not happy and know I need to do something about it-a paradigm shift so to speak. Just went on youtube, you probably know about the Ted talks, there was an inspirational speech about making sure you find a support group, even a group of loosely knit friends who "get" it and support you. Find the big problem is time, always finances in this sport and interruptions-especially when it comes to a family. Think maybe a plan, sport psychologist, budget-maybe all of it. Any ideas, please share. Good Luck to you. Try to live the dream if that's what makes you happy. I'm glad you posted this.
         
        07-02-2014, 07:12 AM
      #4
    Weanling
    My hubby helps out with dinner duty and some house chores, while I get the training horses handled. I use the crockpot for many dinners and he just has to maybe heat up a veggie. When my girls were little, I just set up the pack and play playpen about 10 feet off the fence of my riding area. They had toys or napped in it. By the time they reached school age, they were old enough to occupy themselves and would either play in the yard or ride their horses. These days they are up with me and get a ride in before school.
         

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