[quote=Zexious;4443562]Golden--You make a lot of interesting points, for sure![,quote]
Thanks, I do try and get people to think and not just react, LOL sadly I sometimes fail, or my point is misunderstood.
Do you think people are just too sensitive these days? While others are just too blunt?
I think it is far easier on the internet to be both oversensitive, because you react with what you think you read, or you put your own interpretation on what is said, rather than ask for clarification. I also think that people may lose their sensitivity filter because of the anonymity of the internet when they are posting.
But to me the fundamental here is that plus size riders are not, and should never be excused or given a pass because they are big. It should be acceptable to say that you need a bigger horse, as I say we say it to kids growing out of ponies, if it is a fact. It should not be done in a denigrating way, but in a factual way, if that makes sense.
Anyway, if I would see someone post a mis-match in rider weight to horse, I'd say so. But the vast majority of people .... that's not going to be a new concept. As I said above, you already know if you are a plus-sized rider. It's not going to be new information for me to say it. And what one person views as an honest reply, the next person would view as rude. But sometimes, pictures just do not tell us the whole picture.
Yes, it'd be easy to say: Well if you are plus-sized, why don't you lose weight? But we all know it is not that easy.
This is true, we do know how big we are, it's not like you are going to say to me "You're fat" and I'm going to look in the mirror and say "WOW, you're right, how did I not know?"
But on the flipside, it's not fair to ignore the issue and just keep riding, either. And before anyone jumps on me for that comment, I remind you all about my earlier post again when I mention I lost 70#'s so that I *could* start riding again. I now weigh 220, so do the math. When I weighed close to 300# I did NOT ride. With only a few brief exceptions (a few trail rides on drafts, and a few walkabouts) I didn't ride for over 15 years, actually.
You say that like you maybe believe that Deb Bennet is correct that 250 pounds is the maximum any horse can carry? While yes we would all do better to lose weight, if we are carrying extra, 300 pounds is not a limit, it does cut down the amount of horses that are available to you. Every 10 pounds you lose means more horses become available to you.
There are some great pics here somewhere of the Hiphophorseman The Horse Forum - View Profile: HipHopHorseman
he is a BIG guy, I mean tall and solid, but I have no issues with him riding, with the pics he posted. He will have far less mounts to choose from than the 100 pound teenager, but he found a good one!