If you've never ridden before, aren't in shape, and weigh something like 300lbs, you should probably consider the gym before getting on a horse. That doesn't necessarily mean lose weight, just that you should be able to carry yourself in the saddle, ie be fit. It is very possible to be fit and heavy, even fit and fat at the same time. I always feel very sorry for little, under muscled horses with very heavy, sloppy riders. It looks like torture.
They're living animals, not a bicycle or a 4 wheeler.
Very good point, and one we often overlook, just come back to mind now I am attending therapy to get this body going again, I have a lot of fitness work to do while it is cold out, fit and fat is much easier to cope with than floppy and fat
That said, I think nearly anyone can ride a well built horse at the walk for short periods of time. Also, you certainly aren't torturing Mr Gibbs. He looks perfectly comfortable with you, and as long as you both build up to faster gaits, I bet you'll be fine. The bay looks like she doesn't quite have the required fitness, but I bet with some work on the lunge line and shorter walking sessions with you, she'd get there. If your posting trot is steady, I imagine short trotting sessions would be ok too. You don't seem like the type to just hop on her and go trotting down the trail for 8 hours straight or anything. It all comes down to being conscious of your weight and fitness level and the comfort and fitness of your horse. Being 100lbs isn't required for riding, but you do have to structure your riding differently than a 100lb teenager. Sounds like you know this and are doing your best, have an appropriate horse, and are taking things slow. *hugs* People can be mean.
Yeah, Gibbs is and will be fine, he is my way back to bravery, fitness and all sorts of things, I thank God that I have him. The bay Arab, we will continue working on our relationship on teh ground, and I am aiming that my confidence, and fitness arrive in about 30 pounds less time!! Then I will feel good about starting with her.
Ironically the thing that upset me so much was not an attack on my size and weight, but the accusation that I was attacking someone else over theirs. The person who I was negative about, wel a lot of her issues are not weight related, you find unreliable and unpleasant people both skinny fat and somewhere in between. But I remain convinced that it is not in the best (something can't remember the word) of the larger riders to overlook issues that do happen.
Again I want to start this sentence with 'sorry' but it is not needed, It is a fact that some people are too big for the horse they are riding, and I don't that helps to pretend that isn't so. Same with tack, if your backside is overhanging your saddle, then you should be upgrading t a bigger one, or shrinking back into the one you have
Again, the pics were just for reference, I can't imagine that there is anyone that thinks that all 4 pics show a good horse and rider match
I know that there will be some who believe that none are a good match.
Most people seem to say #2 isn't OK, and there is a split decision on #3.
When it comes down to it, we will all make out own decisions, but it is always good to have feedback to either take on board or ignore as we choose. This from another plus sized rider....
Hating on other large people is essentially hating on yourself - I hope you've got a good therapist, if not, find one. Good luck in your journey to being a better person. I hope you will begin it soon.
Has me so upset that I am still churned up about it.