First, LOTS of hugs!! DO NOT PANIC!!! I've been here before.
Here are my suggesions, and I believe they will help you. =D
1) Eat very slowly. Your brain registers a full stomach 20 minutes after you begin a meal. If you're eating in a rush, like at breakfast, cut the volume in 1/2, instead. You are probably eating to match your bf's meal, and he probably needs more calories than you do. It's a pretty common problem.
2) Get a calorie counter. There are many online.
3) Do a "diet awareness week". You write down everything that goes into your mouth. Do this M-F, then tally the calories you have eaten every day to see what you're eating. You need ~ 2,000 calories/day to maintain your current weight, so you are looking to reduce that amount in order to begin a weight loss.
4) Keep a calorie diary. DO NOT beat yourself up if you miss a day, or a meal bc you are monitoring your eating habits, not looking for a perfect record. You need to do a LOT of exercise to increase your daily maintenance intake, so look for the # calories you need to maintain or reduce your weight at rest.
5) DON'T look to lose more than 1 pound/week. Better yet, look to lose no more than 2 pounds/month. The idea is to make permanent eating changes,
and your body will fight you if you starve it.
6) Force yourself to eight 8 ounces of water every day. Get used to lukewarm water in a water bottle. Sometimes we feel hungry when our body is really thirsty. No other drink will substitute for water,
so you don't have to drink something else. I like to cut lemons and squeeze them in my water, but it's just me.
7) Eat out ONLY at the grocery store. Most stores now have baked chicken and some other meals that are either ready to eat or require minimum cooking. Even though they might be higher in calories than you would put together, they are much lower in calories than any fast food places. Avoid any fried foods. They are highly breaded.
Golden Corral, and many other buffets have some of the highest calorie foods out there bc there are fried foods with sugar on meat,
and a lot of other extras in their other foods. I know bc we ate at the one in Carbondale, IL when we drove our youngest back to Law School after break last Sunday. It is cheaper to add sugar and fat for them.
ONE alternative is KFC's baked chicken, but I'd buy just that
, and eat salad you make yourself.
8) Find a low calorie food or foods that you can pig out on. One of mine is fresh watermelon, and I'll eat a LOT at one sitting. But it doesn't make me gain weight...just run to the rr a lot!
9) Keep your favorite treat, like chocolate, in small portions, and treat yourself often IN SMALL AMOUNTS.
This will keep your mind off of them.
For the past year I have been losing weight so slowly
that only my family has noticed. All other women that I know have done the quick weight loss, enjoyed the acclaim, but honestly, I'm sure most will gain it back again, which nobody
wants. My DH has had a relapse on his diet, but he eats out 3x/week, what with a regular business lunch, a lawyer's lunch and a K of P (men's club) lunch every week. I haven't eaten dinner out more than 3x this last month, and I've dropped one size in my jeans.