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post #21 of 40 Old 08-25-2013, 04:46 PM
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Eat less, move more, repeat as needed...but most of us don't find it so simple. You'll have friends who will encourage you to go out to eat, or work that prevents you from running, or you hate running and find it hard to find something you enjoy enough to move A LOT. And meanwhile, cutting back in eating results in your body becoming more efficient, and...well, as someone who has had a lifetime battle with fat, I wish it was all just willpower.

When I cut back too much on eating, I get severe headaches. Once they start, they will stay for 12 hours and 800 mg of ibuprofen just makes the headache laugh. I love jogging, and jogged for 40 years before taking a tumble off Mia and hurting my back. Started up again in March, and have finally healed enough after 4+ years to keep jogging, but starting again at 55 is a challenge.

Add in work schedules, environment, health, etc...and it isn't as simple as it sounds. The underlined rule works, but it isn't always completely practical.

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post #22 of 40 Old 08-25-2013, 09:06 PM Thread Starter
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Lol Joe, I didn't mean anything by it. I just thought it was funny how you stated it, though I do understand what you're saying now. Well, I've done well today! I still am able to consume almost 1,000 calories because of all the work/exercise I've had, yay!
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post #23 of 40 Old 08-25-2013, 09:19 PM
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it is not always about what you DON"T eat, but about what you do eat. If you insist that you eat two vegetables and two fruits every day, always, then you can often pretty much eat what you want beyond that. I don't mean go crazy and binge, but as long as you make yourself eat the fruits and veggies first, the rest will often fall into place.

I can become a very compulsive overeater, but as long as I am actually eating veggies and fruits, I find that I am not nearly as bad with all the rest.

Try it. do two weeks where no matter what you eat two veggies (can be a salad and a steamed veggie) and two fruits , raw, daily. no matter what. even if you are not hungry.
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I've worked with a lot of different personal trainers, and been on a lot of different types of eating plans.

Exercise is very important (making sure you do both cardio and weights) but WHAT YOU EAT is about 80% of the battle. What you eat is extrememly important!

I myself am guilty of snacking because I'm bored. Either give yourself something healthy to snack on (baby carrots, celery sticks, broccoli florets ...... with NO dressing) or else give your fingers something to do (learn to knit in front of the TV, or do scrapbooking, or massage your BF's shoulders, LOL).

Remember that CHANGE takes TIME. You took, what, 7 months to put on the extra weight? So expect it to take 7 months to get rid of it. There is no rush!

Baby steps --> replace one can of pop with a bottle of water the first week.
Replace the French Fries with fresh fruit or veggies the second week.
Switch from white bread to whole grain bread the third week.

Eat small meals throughout the day. Don't let yourself have a big dinner plate; instead use a medium-sized salad plate. You eat less if you have a smaller plate!

Have veggies with every single meal; and do not load them with butter or dressing. The "extras" are what loads on calories, so use them very sparingly!

If you go out to eat, when you get your food, immdiately ask for a to-go box and put half of your meal in the to-go box (because they always give waaaaay too much in restaurants).

Remember that every day is a NEW day. So what if you ate 5 candy bars the day before? Today is a new day!

Go ahead and LET yourself have a little splurge every day. Instead of eating a huge piece of chocolate cake, have a small sliver. That way, you still satisfy your sweet tooth, without over-doing it. If you constantly deny yourself of yummy things, you'll binge on it eventually.

Don't think of losing weight as a "diet". It's impossible to be on a diet forever. Instead, make PERMANENT lifestlye changes. Encourage your BF to make the same changes so that you are encouraged when you are around him too.

And lastly, but most importantly --> DON'T GIVE A RATS @$$ to what other people think. Do what you need to do for YOU. Don't do it for anyone else.

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post #25 of 40 Old 08-25-2013, 10:07 PM
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Oh, and after you have eaten something, but you still feel hungry, ALWAYS make yourself wait 15 to 20 minutes before eating more. It's takes that long for your brain to register that you are full. It also is useful if you make yourself drink a big glass of water too. That fluid will help you feel full too.
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post #26 of 40 Old 08-26-2013, 07:19 AM Thread Starter
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Wow, great advice. Thanks!
French fries are definitely my weakness...
I swear I can eat 2 larges and skip the burger but still be happy LOL
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post #27 of 40 Old 08-26-2013, 11:10 AM
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if you have your veggie and fruit portion, then by all means, eat the french fries.
you will start wanting them less. it jsut happens.
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post #28 of 40 Old 08-28-2013, 12:26 PM
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I feel the same way. I ride an Arabian and i'm always afraid of people laughing at me because she's so petite (but strong) and i'm not skinny. I, luckily, board her at a friends house and shes always nice to me, but when I go camping I feel judged. All the other riders are so skinny! And i exercise pretty regularly, I ride at least 4 times a week.
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post #29 of 40 Old 08-28-2013, 12:45 PM
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I came in to say basically what everyone else has said. Download MyFitnessPal, which it looks like you've done-- it really holds you accountable as you get to see the nutritional value on the stuff you're eating. Eat smaller meals throughout the day. Gradually remove the bad stuff from your diet. Don't try to eliminate all at once. It's just overwhelming that way and, if you're anything like me, it'll just make you more likely to give up altogether. Also, if you've just eaten and you feel the need to eat something more, drink water.

Lastly, people can be so rude! You look fine to me. Don't let others' insecurities with themselves muddle your thoughts of yourself. As long as you're healthy, that's all that matters.
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post #30 of 40 Old 08-28-2013, 03:12 PM
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I'm sure I'm repeating some of what others have said, but I just wanted to throw in my 2cents.

First off, make sure you are losing weight for yourself, if you are doing it for other people you are more likely to give up when it gets tough.

Secondly, you can't view this as a diet. Diets don't work. You have to make permanent changes to the way you eat, or else you will just put all the weight back on (or more!).

I recommend you look up clean eating, and see if that is right for you. Clean eating means no processed foods, and foods with extra additives. A clean diet consists of lots of fruits and veggies, whole unprocessed grains, whole meats (not ground processed meats), and nuts and seeds. (I'm sure there is some things I'm missing so I recommend you look it up if you are interested)

You don't have to change your diet all at once, take small steps. For example, one week you can drop soda, the next chips and pretzels and such, the next fast food, and so on.

Dropping foods from your diet does not mean you can never eat them again, allow yourself to have a small indulgence every week or so. That could be a slice of cheesecake from your favorite bakery, or maybe a dinner out.

Don't eat when you are doing something else, sit down, and just eat. Eat slowly, and focus on every bite. Think about the taste and texture of your food. This will help you feel satisfied on a smaller amount of food.

I'm not sure of the nature of your eating disorder, but if you think calorie counting will cause your ED to reappear, I recommend you avoid it. Instead practice intuitive eating, this means that you eat only when you are truly hungry (not just bored), and you stop as soon as you feel full (not stuffed, just satisfied). It takes some time for you to get in tune with this, but once you do this really does work.

Find a form of exercise you really enjoy, be it hiking, biking, kickboxing, running, dance, whatever you love. Maybe give heavy lifting a try. It won't cause you to bulk, it will just tone you up, and give your metabolism a boost. It's also really great for your body, and can be an amazing confidence booster!

Almost forgot! Drink lots of water, aim for a gallon a day. If you are not drinking enough water, your body will retain what you do drink, causing you to hold onto excess weight.

Lastly, don't give up. Losing weight is hard, but it is worth it. I hope you find this helpful, good luck :)
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