I am an overweight rider, and it feels awful to look at all the skinny riders. What i'd give to lose weight! I'm trying so hard, and i've only gotten this way because I used to struggle with anorexia before I started riding. That made me gain 20 kgs in 2 years! No one tells me I shouldn't ride because of my weight, but i'm starting to think they want to.I have been losing, but its just so hard...
My riding position is a bit odd. My dad used to get drunk and beat me when I was young, so now I have a hunched back in a defense position because Im used to it!!! (i've talked to a physiotherapist) I also think it has to do with my weight... I feel that I've just given up... and the worst part is going to the tack store. Whenever I go, Im given dirty looks by the saleswomen, I feel awful knowing I can't wear the pretty normal sized pants like everyone else, and that I have to use all these "granny" colors. In my country there aren't special stores for plus sized riders, so I have to buy and wear the ugliest colors, because all the pretty, flatering colors, are meant for thin people...
I've lost so much confidence in myself... any advice... similiar stories???
Well first of all Welcome to the forum Horse Lover Andy
You should not be so hard on your self. You don't look all that heavy to me
I am sorry for the abuse you have had in the past
I have also struggled with my weight all my life
Now I eat smaller quantities and I ride my indoor bike
I started at 198 and now I am 184,
I am just getting back into riding again after a few years
Of not riding
Welcome to the forum Randy :) and your very beautiful and don't look overweight. And the people that say you can't ride of your weight are jerks! And for the lady at the tack shop giving you dirty looks well she's a bloody wanker! And you don't need to fit into tiny skinny jeans either, I don't have a small waist compared to the bean stalk of kids at the school! HAH And im a guy so im limited as to breeches and stuff when it comes to riding but I don't want to see my self in white beeches. And if you could you can check online for riding stuff that's were I get my breeches and stuff. I think a gal in plaid is pretty flattering ;) ha ha. Good luck and cute horse you got there too :)
The Western tack shop where I go have some women there who
Are larger and are very helpful
There is another tack shop where I went to look at boots and
The women never even knew I was there until I said something and they
Said they did not have anything in my size
I an only a 16 and my shoe/boot size is a 8 1/2
you are deffinately not to big!! When I start feeling self consious(sp) when riding or talking to a group of people I have learned to just tell myself I am just as good as everyone else and it has actually worked for me:O you just have to stay positive and ALWAYS look for the positive side, it eventually becomes natural:)
You are just as pretty as the "skinny" people... and hey, you have more curves;)
"Confidence comes not from always being right, but not fearing to be wrong"~ Peter T. Mcintyre Posted via Mobile Device
The thing is, with this weight thing, it can be really difficult to look past other people's opinions. At the end of the day, if riding makes you happy and you are an appropriate match with your horse (certainly looks so from the pic you posted!), it doesn't matter what other people think. It is easier said than done to stop thinking about what other people think, though.