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post #31 of 41 Old 12-11-2012, 12:13 PM
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The mother who said this clearly has self-esteem issues. She can only feel good about herself while cutting others down. Her comment says way more about her than it does you! Do NOT give an ounce of credence to anything she said to you. Swat that comment away as if it were nothing more than an irritating fly and hold your head up high.
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post #32 of 41 Old 12-11-2012, 05:40 PM
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I don't even know how to respond to that... not 100% sure I want to sign my daughter up for 4-H after that story! I can say, people ask me how I get on my horse... I'm 6'1" tall, my horse is an 18.1hh Belgian draft horse, and for the record, I am NOT a small man. I have had the occasionally barbie-esque gal ask me why I have a draft, and my reply was simply this: "Lady, no matter how big my butt gets, it will still look small on this horse!"
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post #33 of 41 Old 12-16-2012, 06:26 PM
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Originally Posted by MapleAir View Post
Hey everyone,

I was in a situation the other day that still makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up.

I'm a 4-H leader, end 20's and have been riding for 20+ years. I'm always trying to set a good example for the kids at 4-H (wearing a helmet, showing them extra stuff, showing off good horsemanship etc) and we were discussing different types of saddles the other day.

I have a few new kids in my group which I think is great because naturally, the ones who have been in 4-H longer help them out and everyone advances together. Anyway, here I am, showing them my English and Western saddles of different makes and styles and discussing the differences, what they do while riding etc. One of my older kids recognized my brand new English saddle and pointed out that this was the saddle we used when I led them around on my own horse. One of the present mothers squeeles (not in delight) "You don't seriously ride, do you?" Me (in that moment just a bit baffled): "Of course I do. Why do you think I'm a 4-H leader and have 3 different saddles?" With a disgusted look, the mother snorts: "Well, being a leader, I thought you'd have more common sense than to park that huge arse of yours on a helpless horse." Only for the sake of the kids could I manage to stay calm and not hurt anyone.

For real? Talk like that in front of a group of 8-12 year olds? Your won 2 kids amongst them? To someone who donates their time to educate your kids?

I'm sure others have experienced comments like that as well. What do you say in a situation like that?
First of all, what an ungreatful BI**H!!! How RUDE!!! You spend all YOUR time helping HER children and you get treated like that??? I would say "I'm so sorry you feel you have to say rude things to others in front of children and I hope it makes you feel better about yourself. Maybe you would like to show us how to post correctly for an hour? I have over 20 years of knowing how to PREVENT injuries to my horse. If you feel so strongly about me, then please leave."

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post #34 of 41 Old 12-28-2012, 09:41 PM
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I've been thin and I've been fat. People are shallow and weak minded. Fat people are the only "group" left where it is still socially acceptable to berate and humiliate.
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post #35 of 41 Old 12-28-2012, 10:45 PM
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what a terrible thing to say!!! what is wrong with people these days??? Glad you handled it well! dont listen to her!!!!

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post #36 of 41 Old 01-07-2013, 10:57 PM
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There is no accounting for why some people have no manners. My first thought, an adult that acts poorly as she did- must WANT to be the center of attention. So, if she ever does it again, let her BE the center of attention.
I would stop what I'm doing and ask her if she has something to say to you outloud? Let her repeat her comment. Then, proceed to tell all the children why being rude and making unkind comments is a form of bullying. It's something they should not do.
Then, simply proceed.
Hold your head up and be who you are. Don't allow someone that kind of power over you. : )
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post #37 of 41 Old 01-30-2013, 05:40 PM
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How dare she! Let's see her get up on a horse and do what you can do!
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post #38 of 41 Old 02-01-2013, 05:18 PM
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Rude comment..

I would have to say after making a comment such as that, its pretty obvious who was the "huge arse" in that situation. Ride on my friend
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post #39 of 41 Old 02-02-2013, 02:49 PM
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I think parents should be banned from kids' activities...Little League, dance class, riding lessons. Sheesh! What a rude woman. But try not to give her any room in your head. Best to continue on as if she doesn't exist. I think that is the best example you can set for the kids in your group.
However, if she does interfere or if her attitude does spill over to her kids then you may have to take steps for the benefit of the group. Hopefully that will not happen.

If you ever find yourself in a fair fight, it's because your tactics suck. ~ Marine 1SGT J. Reifinger
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post #40 of 41 Old 02-12-2013, 01:39 PM
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I can't imagine this being an easy situation and I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through this.

The mom is being a bully, and I'd make sure that everyone in the group parents and children alike are all told that bullying by anyone will not be tolerated. Maybe she will get a warning and if it happens again she can wait in her vehicle while the kids get to participate in the class. It's not fair to kick them out but with all the anti-bullying stuff going on out there maybe she just needs to know that's essentially what she is. Maybe pointing that out to her will help her to realize what she did was wrong...because I bet you she hasn't thought of her comment since it came out of her mouth.
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