My friend keeps making rude comments about my weight.

RandysWifey · 11-21-2012, 12:28 PM

My whole family is on the plus side of the spectrum and if ANYONE talked to my family like that (especially my sister who is my best friend) they would find themselves with my fist coming towards there throat. It is NO ONE'S right to degrade you-regardless of a lease that I assume you are paying for.

Dustbunny · 11-21-2012, 02:10 PM

I think you made the right choice.
Good luck with finding another horse to lease...and a better friend.

horsietori · 12-16-2012, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by redhorse86

Ever since my friend lost 40 lbs she has become rude and obnoxious.

Maybe you need to REMIND her that she was once heavier? Maybe show her some pictures of herself BEFORE the loss of 40 pounds. END THE "FRIENDSHIP" asap and the lease.

littrella · 12-25-2012, 06:31 PM

[QUOTE=afatgirlafathorse;1766931] I consider myself to be a friend who builds others up, gives of my time and my emotion and has genuine sincere empathy for them. QUOTE]

That is what a true friend is. They suport, help & motivate you, not tear you down.

gogaited · 12-28-2012, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by redhorse86

Ever since my friend lost 40 lbs she has become rude and obnoxious. I lease one of her horses and she basically said to my face that I'm to fat to ride her horse. She has actually asked me what I weigh and that she has the right to discuss my weight because I ride her horse. So I joined her gym with her and all she does is harass me about my diet and she calls me lazy. And she had the nerve to tell my trainer at the gym that my husband is a piece of work and that he is intentionally sabotaging me losing weight. So I stay fat because if I'm not fat anymore he would lose me. Then one day I was talking about taking lessons and she said her trainer would tell me I was to big to ride her horse. Now I know I freaking need to lose weight. I'm not stupid I am 5"3 and weigh over 200lbs I ride her 15 hand Morgan who has a narrow build. She is always throwing that damn 20% of the horses body weight in my face. It is getting to the point that I don't even want to ride anymore. I am seriously considering ending the lease because I am sick of all her crap.

Ya think? And she is not your friend.

redhorse86 · 12-28-2012, 10:42 PM

Just to update everyone I have found a new barn and two new horses to ride. I don't have to pay anything she just wants the horses ridden.

Barrel Baby · 12-28-2012, 10:53 PM

Wooow that sounds great!!!!

Le007 · 01-07-2013, 11:00 PM

Honey, you need a new friend. This lady's true colors are showing. (of course, you know at some level it is HER insecurity that makes her act this way to you)

Be kind, (because you are not like her) and tell her it is painful for you to spend time with her. Find some great new friend to spend your time with and there are other barns and horses!!

Saddlebag · 01-14-2013, 08:55 AM

On the other hand, she is aware of the health dangers of obesity and she may be afraid of losing you because you are on that road. Tact and diplomacy isn't her forte but her interest in your losing weight seems genuine.

Eileen · 01-18-2013, 04:50 PM

Maybe your "friend" needs a reality check. Do you have a picture of her when she weighed 40 lbs more?

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