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    03-09-2012, 04:48 PM
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Foal
Okay.. never mind.. confidence is shot!!

I talked to two different people at two different barns in my area and I told them I weighed around 169 and they said I was too heavy for their horses.. they said their horses could only take about 120lbs :(
I am SO glad I asked before showing up

At this point I just feel like buying my own horse so I don't have to deal with this. I know how to ride.. I just wanted to ease back into it.
     
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    03-09-2012, 04:54 PM
  #2
Yearling
Seriously? Are they only allowing children to take lessons? Rude.
     
    03-09-2012, 04:57 PM
  #3
Super Moderator
Perhaps if the horses were itty bitty ponies. But last I knew, most men weight far more than 120lbs.
     
    03-09-2012, 05:00 PM
  #4
Ink
Weanling
Heck, most grown women weigh more than 120 lbs. That's ridiculously low for a weight limit.
     
    03-09-2012, 05:04 PM
  #5
Foal
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Originally Posted by Ink    
Heck, most grown women weigh more than 120 lbs. That's ridiculously low for a weight limit.
I know right??
I am just nervous to call anyone else now!! What bad luck for someone who had weight confidence problems to begin with.

I will have to preface every conversation with my weight so I don't waste anyone's time.
     
    03-09-2012, 05:12 PM
  #6
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by sassaflash    
I talked to two different people at two different barns in my area and I told them I weighed around 169 and they said I was too heavy for their horses.. they said their horses could only take about 120lbs :(
I am SO glad I asked before showing up

At this point I just feel like buying my own horse so I don't have to deal with this. I know how to ride.. I just wanted to ease back into it.
Are these MINI horses or what! Good grief!

Don't let this get you down. You weigh much less than I, and my mare is 15.2 and has no problem carrying me for many miles.
     
    03-09-2012, 06:05 PM
  #7
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Originally Posted by sassaflash    
I talked to two different people at two different barns in my area and I told them I weighed around 169 and they said I was too heavy for their horses.. they said their horses could only take about 120lbs :(
That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard of...... 169 lbs. Is nothing.......

I could believe one Barn being wacko, but two Barns?

120lbs Rider Weight?, were the Horses 7 hands tall and 300lbs


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    03-09-2012, 06:18 PM
  #8
Weanling
If you can afford it, go find a good horse trader (they are out there, but they can be hard to find - I know one if you are in the Pacific Northwest) who will find you a horse to suit your skill level, get in a barn with lots of other people of like riding personalities and get your own horse.

Heck - if you live near me I would let you come out and meet and play with mine. 169 lbs, he wouldn't even know he had a person on his back!

I have only met one person for whom I thought was justified in saying, no I am not going to ride until I lose weight. My husband combined a medical condition with depression and gained 300 pounds. He has been slowly taking it off, but as he currently weighs in at over 500 pounds, he refuses to ride. I can agreee with that. That doesn't mean he doesn't come out and play with my horse and my daughter's filly. He just doesn't ride.

He will drive with me, but I dont' have a workign cart right now.

So, unless you look like him, you are NOT too heavy to ride. The filly in these pics is 14.2 hand arab - 2 1/2 years old. Hubby is 6'6".



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    03-09-2012, 09:39 PM
  #9
Yearling
That's absolute nonsense if they're saying their horses can't handle more than 120 lbs. If that's the case, then I'm too fat to ride, too...and I wear a size 4. By any chance, were these hunter barns that you were calling? I'm wondering if this was more about them trying to keep up some sort of ridiculous "image" (i.e. Only wafer thin riders), & not actually about the health of the horse. Because 169 lbs is NOT too big to ride...not even close! If you lived in FL, I'd tell you to come out to my barn! Both my trainer & the barn owner are larger women (& larger than you), so you'd certainly not find any of that ridiculousness with us!
     
    03-09-2012, 10:07 PM
  #10
Teen Forum Moderator
One thing that hasn't been mentioned is that they, like many riding places, might be using older+smaller horses as their lesson mounts.
If so, it's probably nothing against you at all.

I weigh 145lbs and I'm at the top of the weight spectrum I'd feel comfortable putting on my mare for long periods (I do use her to teach lessons to children). My reasoning for it is that she's 27, she's conformationally weak in her back, and she's 14.1hh.
After a day of me riding her, even at just a walk, she acts sore and tired which leads me to believe that I'm close to the top of what she can carry without really stressing her body.

I don't let people over 160lbs ride Lacey because I don't feel like it's fair to her at her age. She has enough aches and pains just carrying herself around.
Another issue for me is that Lacey is difficult to fit a saddle to. Therefore, any pressure points are completely multiplied the heavier her rider is. It's nothing against the people, it's all Lacey. I have to put her and her well being before anyone and their feelings, no matter what they weigh.


Of course, if this place has young, large, strong backed horses and they're telling you you can't ride, psh! That's silly!

But, what I'm trying to say is that if you haven't been there, seen their horses, and seen their set up, please don't assume that it's something against you/your weight. They're a business, they need to keep their horses as sound and healthy as possible and if their horses are old, that probably includes limiting the weight of the rider.

I'm sorry you had to experience that rejection, in any case. And for the record, 169lbs isn't that much at all.
The next time I might not mention your weight. People are oftentimes skewed one way or another to what a weight physically appears like. They might be visualizing a much different kind of 169lbs, yknow?
People always assume I'm around 120lbs when they just see me and they are super shocked when I tell them I nearly weight 150lbs.

I doubt they'll have a person-scale at the barn (if they do - sketchy!) and if it's a huge issue for them, they can just ask you weight when they see you. If it doesn't come up, I don't think anything needs to be said.

Good luck finding barn!

If it makes you feel better, I've ben trying to find a barn for lessons and no one wants to take me because I've been riding for quite a while but still want to ride a lesson horse (I don't have a trailer to bring Lacey and even if I did, I want to learn on a horse that knows what it's doing more than I do! Haha).
     

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