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        03-12-2012, 12:45 PM
    Originally Posted by Palomine    
    While I think the 120 is a bit low, I have to commend barns that will set a limit. The wear and tear on a horses back is something many overweight riders simply don't want to hear, both in terms of their saddle fit, or the soreness issues the horse may be having.

    And it could also be that by setting limit this low, they are avoiding the "I only weigh 10 lbs more" deal too.

    And without seeing you of course I can't be sure, but is your balance badly off because of your weight. If you are 6 ft tall, and 169? Big difference from being 5 ft tall and 169 and your gait may show that?

    Many variables here, as well as barn may have had horses ruined due to someone's weight and not be willing to chance that again.

    And something else to consider is this.

    They may have had such bad experiences with overweight riders they are simply not willing to deal with them anymore. What I am talking about, is the rider is not improving due more than anything else, to their weight.

    They aren't posting, they are hauling themselves out of the saddle by the reins. Their weight issues ruin the saddles, since they are over the cantle and pommel, and the horses are sore backed after these riders are on them.

    And those riders? 9 times out of 10 will reject any criticism about their riding, and refuse to do anything to correct it too. Or play the "oh you are mean" card when it is pointed out that weight does make a difference.

    Not saying you are one of these, but the odds are very high that they have had people like that, and are simply avoiding it at all costs in the future.
    I completely agree with everything you said. Never in a million years would I want to ruin a horses back, that's the reason why I even brought up my weight over the phone :)
    It's just odd because I e-mailed them beforehand asking if they offered adult lessons to which they said yes. After doing some research I think the instructor I called was a youth instructor. So not sure who e-mailed me back, but it wasn't her.

    I have since found a handful of places that will let me ride! Now I just need to arrange for a babysitter for my daughter so I can

    For the record, here is a body shot of me from a few months ago. I've lost 10lbs since then. (I have been documenting my weight loss since I started at 210)

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        03-12-2012, 01:07 PM
    Green Broke
    I am SO glad to hear you didn't let the first two places put you off for good - and that you have found some barns that are more open-minded. So excited for you - can't wait to hear all about your first lesson!
        03-12-2012, 01:30 PM
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    Wow, that seems ridiculous!

    Do you think I am a heavy person? Too heavy to ride their horses?

    By their standards I am. I am between 135-140 on any given day.
        03-12-2012, 03:08 PM
    Originally Posted by Allison Finch    
    Wow, that seems ridiculous!

    Do you think I am a heavy person? Too heavy to ride their horses?

    By their standards I am. I am between 135-140 on any given day.
    Not at all!
    I think though, as others pointed out, maybe they are using itty bitty ponies or older horses with back problems.. I don't know because I didn't ask.
    It took me a bit not to take it personally but now I am feeling fine now that I have crawled out of my "self pity" hole lol
        03-12-2012, 03:16 PM
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    As for little horses, they are often tougher than their bigger cousins. I think it is a foolish thing to have a lesson program that is so limited.

    I suspect they just like teaching kids and not adults. Teaching adults can be "challenging" in its own right.
        03-12-2012, 05:05 PM
    I don't have a problem with barns having weight limits, I really don't. I don't think it's "mean" or anything like that... but the problem is that everybody has a very different idea of what 120 or 150 or even 250lbs looks like. Not just that, but it looks very different on different bodies. I'd almost want them to have a scale at the barn - especially when they have such a low weight limit.

    I'm so glad you found someone that is willing to work with you.
        03-12-2012, 07:36 PM
    Off topic, but Sassaflash you have ultra cute toes!!!
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        03-12-2012, 08:24 PM
    Originally Posted by yadlim    
    If you can afford it, go find a good horse trader (they are out there, but they can be hard to find - I know one if you are in the Pacific Northwest) who will find you a horse to suit your skill level, get in a barn with lots of other people of like riding personalities and get your own horse.

    Heck - if you live near me I would let you come out and meet and play with mine. 169 lbs, he wouldn't even know he had a person on his back!

    I have only met one person for whom I thought was justified in saying, no I am not going to ride until I lose weight. My husband combined a medical condition with depression and gained 300 pounds. He has been slowly taking it off, but as he currently weighs in at over 500 pounds, he refuses to ride. I can agreee with that. That doesn't mean he doesn't come out and play with my horse and my daughter's filly. He just doesn't ride.

    He will drive with me, but I dont' have a workign cart right now.

    So, unless you look like him, you are NOT too heavy to ride. The filly in these pics is 14.2 hand arab - 2 1/2 years old. Hubby is 6'6".

    Hey yadlim, I hope your husband is on the road to recovery. It is hard to watch a loved one struggle with illness. I wish you well.
        03-12-2012, 08:31 PM
    Originally Posted by waresbear    
    Off topic, but Sassaflash you have ultra cute toes!!!
    Lol waresbear, I had to go back and check out sassaflash's toes after you posted that.
        03-13-2012, 12:14 AM
    Originally Posted by waresbear    
    Off topic, but Sassaflash you have ultra cute toes!!!
    lol!! Thanks.. I have tiny short & fat toes lol

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