Dee it's really hard to tell from that pic how suited Dancer and you are, in fact it's very hard to tell from any picture.
More pics from me
Here I am on Fancy, my first time on a horse in a long time, this is my little beginner friendly weight carrying Haflinger
So many people told me that we looked like a good match, and she looked fine for me, just on a set of these pics. Truth is she wasn't fine, she had to brace when I got on, and she is not happy with a heavier rider on her.
I knew that which is one of the reasons I bought Appy Gilmore there.
When I posted this pic
It caused quite a debate among a load of people I didn't know and who didn't know me or Mr G, and they deemed that I was to heavy for him...wrong, the reason that I'm smiling so much in the pic is that he didn't have to brace when I got on, and he rode the same for me as he did for the lightweight I was buying him from.
As larger riders we are always seeking some sort of validation about if our horse can carry is, truth is the onlt one who can truthfully tell you that is the horse themselves.
Be totally honest with yourself, and watch and listen to your horse, let a smaller rider have a go and compare their way of going. Involve a trusted and experienced friend to watch these things as well, it will give you a far truer picture than asking people on a message board