OMG! You DO realize that there is NOTHING WRONG with you and SO MUCH WRONG with that "person" whom you had the misfortune to run into that I cannot even go into it here...She clearly needs a good lesson in manners. *And the NERVE
!! SHE WANTED
to lease YOUR HORSE
tell us you did NOT lease to that horrid person?
As for diet and exercise, there are about a million variations on the basic methods which WORK long-term, but honestly, calories in > than calories out! Basic math...In general...start just "thinking" about small changes...baby steps you know? Make the most healthful choices for foods compared to whatever you already eat (even if you have a REALLY healthy diet NOW, just make changes to SLIGHTLY SMALLER portions of the same healthful, beneficial foods)--cut out the empty calories and look toward mainly non-processed foods; eat things that cause naturally larger amounts of, um, "stool" on a very regular basis...OH! Not depriving yourself is super important, (don't go NUTS and think "I am on a DIET!! I MUST ONLY EAT PERFECTLY OR I HAVE FAILED!!)<---won't work for more than a few days to a month if you try an "all or nothing" attitude rather than an all over lifestyle change, and you CAN'T FAIL if you look at the whole process as simply generally getting MORE healthy (even if you already ARE healthy!), it's win/win!!
Just be smart and thoughtful about what you put in your mouth...Remember...move, move, move! It's tougher in a way
for you than someone who is more sedentary, as I bet cardiovascularly you are super-fit, (if you can ride well and often enough to properly care for a horse you OWN; even if you are riding a bit less lately, you are likely in very good shape heart/lung-wise, even if you are heavier than you feel you should be) so when you exercise, you'll have to push your body a bit harder than those who are not fit to begin with because for some forms of fat/calorie burning you need to get your heart rate up to a certain level...if you are already fit, the heart can take much more activity w/o elevating in rate much...you will always have positive results from exercise for your body regardless, but in order to burn the MOST calories and/or fat, it can take higher levels of activity...
I have tons of tips
(my husband is, like, Mr. Physical Fitness/holistic health and natural foods GURU!--try living with THAT for a bit! Ha!
), and I am more than happy to share them if you like...I applaud you for wanting to be the fittest you can be, (I know I work towards that
continuously...one can always do better in every
area, right?) but, considering what happened, be sure it is YOU who is unhappy with how you look/feel and such, and not some SNOBBY, rude joke of a person
NOBODY has the right to cause another person to feel badly about themselves...NOBODY!
Major cyber hugs to you!!!!