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        07-11-2012, 03:05 PM
      #1
    Foal
    That's it!

    I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!

    This is complete and utter bull. All of it.

    I decided to lease out my horse, as I can't get out to the barn as frequently to ride any more (got a new job). So I put out an ad, had several responses, and combed through them pretty thoroughly. I picked out one lady who seemed perfect; a middle aged woman who had taken time off from horses to have kids, and wanted a quiet horse to get back into the saddle with. Perfect, right?

    So, I set up a meeting at my barn, and she came out. When she realized that I was the owner, her jaw dropped. I went out to get my horse, and bring him in. When I got back, she asked me how old I was, how long I'd had him, and then, how much I weigh. Now, I'm too bloody afraid to get into the scale to begin with, let alone tell a perfect strange how tubby I am. So I side stepped the question awkwardly, and moved on.

    I got my boy all tacked up, and she said she wanted to get on first (to see how he is unworked, with an unfamiliar rider on), which I thought was okay, as I do that when I view horses too. So she rode him, a bit rusty, but my boy is forgiving, and she loved him. Then she asked if I could get up and show her "what he can do". So obviously, I obliged.

    I WTC'd him, and he was an angel, I showed off his side passes, turns on the forehand and haunches, and finally, I decided to pop him over a small jump (it was maybe 2ft, if that). She actually gasped so loud when I was approaching the jump that I heard her. We went up and over beautifully, nothing amiss at all. So I popped off, and she came running up to me from the fence. She felt my horse all over, and was tisking the whole time. Finally she stood up and said to me "You know jumping can be hard on horses' backs. Especially if the rider is, uhm, not fit."

    I just about hit the bloody roof. I cannot believe someone would say that.

    So, last night, after having a good cry about it I figured out that I'm done.

    Enough with being the fat girl, I'm going to embark on my journey.

    So! I need diet and exercise ideas, as I've only ever done crash diets. And exercise and I are not well acquainted.
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        07-11-2012, 04:09 PM
      #2
    Showing
    For her, ignorance is not bliss as she is going to really hurt people without meaning to.

    But I am happy that you are looking to become even more fit than you are now It takes a lot of fitness (more than people think) to ride a horse well!
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        07-11-2012, 04:09 PM
      #3
    Weanling
    Ugh! How rude!

    I figured you meant you were done with advertising for leasers because there were problems with THEM...

    My advice for getting more fit would be to find a good program that you could commit to and that will offer you moral support. Depending on your personality - that might mean you join a gym and take some classes or sign up for an online weightloss program.

    Meanwhile - did you actually lease to this woman or did you tell her to take a hike?
         
        07-12-2012, 05:17 AM
      #4
    Yearling
    OMG! You DO realize that there is NOTHING WRONG with you and SO MUCH WRONG with that "person" whom you had the misfortune to run into that I cannot even go into it here...She clearly needs a good lesson in manners. *And the NERVE!! SHE WANTED to lease YOUR HORSE!!

    Please, please tell us you did NOT lease to that horrid person?

    As for diet and exercise, there are about a million variations on the basic methods which WORK long-term, but honestly, calories in > than calories out! Basic math...In general...start just "thinking" about small changes...baby steps you know? Make the most healthful choices for foods compared to whatever you already eat (even if you have a REALLY healthy diet NOW, just make changes to SLIGHTLY SMALLER portions of the same healthful, beneficial foods)--cut out the empty calories and look toward mainly non-processed foods; eat things that cause naturally larger amounts of, um, "stool" on a very regular basis...OH! Not depriving yourself is super important, (don't go NUTS and think "I am on a DIET!! I MUST ONLY EAT PERFECTLY OR I HAVE FAILED!!)<---won't work for more than a few days to a month if you try an "all or nothing" attitude rather than an all over lifestyle change, and you CAN'T FAIL if you look at the whole process as simply generally getting MORE healthy (even if you already ARE healthy!), it's win/win!!

    Just be smart and thoughtful about what you put in your mouth...Remember...move, move, move! It's tougher in a way for you than someone who is more sedentary, as I bet cardiovascularly you are super-fit, (if you can ride well and often enough to properly care for a horse you OWN; even if you are riding a bit less lately, you are likely in very good shape heart/lung-wise, even if you are heavier than you feel you should be) so when you exercise, you'll have to push your body a bit harder than those who are not fit to begin with because for some forms of fat/calorie burning you need to get your heart rate up to a certain level...if you are already fit, the heart can take much more activity w/o elevating in rate much...you will always have positive results from exercise for your body regardless, but in order to burn the MOST calories and/or fat, it can take higher levels of activity...

    I have tons of tips (my husband is, like, Mr. Physical Fitness/holistic health and natural foods GURU!--try living with THAT for a bit! Ha! ), and I am more than happy to share them if you like...I applaud you for wanting to be the fittest you can be, (I know I work towards that continuously...one can always do better in every area, right?) but, considering what happened, be sure it is YOU who is unhappy with how you look/feel and such, and not some SNOBBY, rude joke of a person!

    NOBODY has the right to cause another person to feel badly about themselves...NOBODY! Major cyber hugs to you!!!!
         
        07-12-2012, 10:30 PM
      #5
    Yearling
    Just looked at my post...duh...I must've been more than half asleep!! What I MEANT YOU SAY WAS: CALORIES IN < CALORIES OUT (less than, NOT GREATER THAN)....major apologies for incorrect info and looking like a total dork brain!:0)
         
        07-13-2012, 10:18 PM
      #6
    Foal
    Ugh. Her comment just disgusts me. I cannot believe some people.
    It's unfortunate that she said that to you, but good for you for starting the weight loss! It's such an awesome feeling when you shed the pounds! You're going to do awesome c:

    I'm not good with weight loss on my own. I always cheat and then give up pretty quickly. As I've mentioned before in other threads, I'm on Jenny Craig and it's made a HUGE difference in my weight. I love the support the girls give me and it's really simple. I don't have to change much, but it really has motivated me to start working out more [whereas on my own I'd avoid it at all costs]. If you find doing this on your own too difficult, I'd recommend trying a weight loss program or getting a friend or family member to help you out and offer support c:
         
        07-14-2012, 10:27 AM
      #7
    Weanling
    First off ((BIG HUGS))!!!!! Putting aside this woman being a total @#%*&, she obviously doesn't know about horses. That to me is enough for you to not take a word of her's with any more then a grain of salt. So why listen to her about anything?

    If you are ready to lose weight and get healthy, please do it for yourself and not because some witch with a big mouth and a small brain made you. You will be doomed to fail and feel even worse about yourself. I started Weight Watchers last April, not because I felt bad about myself (which is when I usually started diets in the past and surprise surprise they all failed!) but because I was feeling good. I was ready to get healthy and ready to put me first, and it has worked. I also realized that weight loss is not a steady thing. You will lose weight and you will gain some, along the way. I had to find ways to get over the feeling of depression whenever I had a gain because that is usually when I would just give up.

    Last but not least, we didn't gain this weight in one week. One month. One year. So how can we expect it to come off in that amount of time?

    If you don;t want to do a program, then just start by writing down everything you eat and by making small changes, but not all at once.

    Has there ever been a weight loss thread on HF? Maybe we could start one and check in with each other each day (or each week)? I know I am in!

    Oh, and if you ended up leasing your horse to that smegma of a woman, I will walk to Ontario and beat you with a dressage whip! ;) lol What you weight is one small part of the thousands of things that make up the wonderful person you are. Don't let some vile abscess make you feel like it is all you are.
         
        07-14-2012, 11:47 AM
      #8
    Foal
    Yikes, don't know what to say about this except that some stables have a weight limit and do not let riders ride their horses if they are above the weight limit....I don't know how much you weight or how big your horse is...not enough information here to comment on the person that wanted to lease your horse.
         
        07-14-2012, 12:19 PM
      #9
    Weanling
    How rude!! If you want to lose weight for YOU, that's great and I wish you the best of luck. However, losing weight because of others is not a great reason and in the end it probably won't work. I'm in the same boat.

    I sure hope you told that lady to take a hike.
         
        07-14-2012, 06:09 PM
      #10
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel    
    For her, ignorance is not bliss as she is going to really hurt people without meaning to.

    But I am happy that you are looking to become even more fit than you are now It takes a lot of fitness (more than people think) to ride a horse well!
    Thank you, and goodness knows it takes fitness, I just about died today in the saddle, sitting at nearly 40C here! I literally melted out of the saddle at the end! :p
         

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