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        07-14-2012, 07:11 PM
      #11
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Daisy25    
    Ugh! How rude!

    I figured you meant you were done with advertising for leasers because there were problems with THEM...

    My advice for getting more fit would be to find a good program that you could commit to and that will offer you moral support. Depending on your personality - that might mean you join a gym and take some classes or sign up for an online weightloss program.

    Meanwhile - did you actually lease to this woman or did you tell her to take a hike?

    Nope, I didn't. She actually called me a couple days ago to ask if she could lease him, I simply told her that I was "unable to find someone that would fit both me and my horse."

    And I'm currently in the process of trying Weight Watchers :)
         
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        07-14-2012, 07:13 PM
      #12
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Back2Horseback    
    OMG! You DO realize that there is NOTHING WRONG with you and SO MUCH WRONG with that "person" whom you had the misfortune to run into that I cannot even go into it here...She clearly needs a good lesson in manners. *And the NERVE!! SHE WANTED to lease YOUR HORSE!!

    Please, please tell us you did NOT lease to that horrid person?

    As for diet and exercise, there are about a million variations on the basic methods which WORK long-term, but honestly, calories in > than calories out! Basic math...In general...start just "thinking" about small changes...baby steps you know? Make the most healthful choices for foods compared to whatever you already eat (even if you have a REALLY healthy diet NOW, just make changes to SLIGHTLY SMALLER portions of the same healthful, beneficial foods)--cut out the empty calories and look toward mainly non-processed foods; eat things that cause naturally larger amounts of, um, "stool" on a very regular basis...OH! Not depriving yourself is super important, (don't go NUTS and think "I am on a DIET!! I MUST ONLY EAT PERFECTLY OR I HAVE FAILED!!)<---won't work for more than a few days to a month if you try an "all or nothing" attitude rather than an all over lifestyle change, and you CAN'T FAIL if you look at the whole process as simply generally getting MORE healthy (even if you already ARE healthy!), it's win/win!!

    Just be smart and thoughtful about what you put in your mouth...Remember...move, move, move! It's tougher in a way for you than someone who is more sedentary, as I bet cardiovascularly you are super-fit, (if you can ride well and often enough to properly care for a horse you OWN; even if you are riding a bit less lately, you are likely in very good shape heart/lung-wise, even if you are heavier than you feel you should be) so when you exercise, you'll have to push your body a bit harder than those who are not fit to begin with because for some forms of fat/calorie burning you need to get your heart rate up to a certain level...if you are already fit, the heart can take much more activity w/o elevating in rate much...you will always have positive results from exercise for your body regardless, but in order to burn the MOST calories and/or fat, it can take higher levels of activity...

    I have tons of tips (my husband is, like, Mr. Physical Fitness/holistic health and natural foods GURU!--try living with THAT for a bit! Ha! ), and I am more than happy to share them if you like...I applaud you for wanting to be the fittest you can be, (I know I work towards that continuously...one can always do better in every area, right?) but, considering what happened, be sure it is YOU who is unhappy with how you look/feel and such, and not some SNOBBY, rude joke of a person!

    NOBODY has the right to cause another person to feel badly about themselves...NOBODY! Major cyber hugs to you!!!!

    Thank you so much for the support! :) Makes me feel loads better. And no, I didn't lease to her, I've received a few phone calls from her though, asking to lease him. I just giggle softly to myself when her name comes up on my phone :p
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        07-14-2012, 07:15 PM
      #13
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by la volpe    
    Ugh. Her comment just disgusts me. I cannot believe some people.
    It's unfortunate that she said that to you, but good for you for starting the weight loss! It's such an awesome feeling when you shed the pounds! You're going to do awesome c:

    I'm not good with weight loss on my own. I always cheat and then give up pretty quickly. As I've mentioned before in other threads, I'm on Jenny Craig and it's made a HUGE difference in my weight. I love the support the girls give me and it's really simple. I don't have to change much, but it really has motivated me to start working out more [whereas on my own I'd avoid it at all costs]. If you find doing this on your own too difficult, I'd recommend trying a weight loss program or getting a friend or family member to help you out and offer support c:
    Thanks! I've actually joined Weight Watchers since, and its really helpful. Everyone's really supportive, and like you said, the program really motivates me! :)
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        07-14-2012, 07:18 PM
      #14
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by uflrh9y    
    First off ((BIG HUGS))!!!!! Putting aside this woman being a total @#%*&, she obviously doesn't know about horses. That to me is enough for you to not take a word of her's with any more then a grain of salt. So why listen to her about anything?

    If you are ready to lose weight and get healthy, please do it for yourself and not because some witch with a big mouth and a small brain made you. You will be doomed to fail and feel even worse about yourself. I started Weight Watchers last April, not because I felt bad about myself (which is when I usually started diets in the past and surprise surprise they all failed!) but because I was feeling good. I was ready to get healthy and ready to put me first, and it has worked. I also realized that weight loss is not a steady thing. You will lose weight and you will gain some, along the way. I had to find ways to get over the feeling of depression whenever I had a gain because that is usually when I would just give up.

    Last but not least, we didn't gain this weight in one week. One month. One year. So how can we expect it to come off in that amount of time?

    If you don;t want to do a program, then just start by writing down everything you eat and by making small changes, but not all at once.

    Has there ever been a weight loss thread on HF? Maybe we could start one and check in with each other each day (or each week)? I know I am in!

    Oh, and if you ended up leasing your horse to that smegma of a woman, I will walk to Ontario and beat you with a dressage whip! ;) lol What you weight is one small part of the thousands of things that make up the wonderful person you are. Don't let some vile abscess make you feel like it is all you are.

    THANK YOU! Your comment made me so hopeful, and so supported! :) I didn't lease to her, she continues to bother me to allow her to lease though! Heheh, and I feel like that's a win on my end ;P

    I've joined Weight Watchers, but I'm totally down for the thread on here, that'd be a great help! :)

    Thanks so much for your support, it means so much to me :)
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        07-14-2012, 07:24 PM
      #15
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by ChristineNJ    
    Yikes, don't know what to say about this except that some stables have a weight limit and do not let riders ride their horses if they are above the weight limit....I don't know how much you weight or how big your horse is...not enough information here to comment on the person that wanted to lease your horse.
    Yes, I realize some barns have weight limits, but this is MY personal horse. I've owned him for 4 years, and he's never, ever had an issue. He's a big, burly dude who can pack around people much larger than I.

    She was commenting on MY weight, and I found it extremely offensive. One reason being, she was coming into a place that's my territory, and wanting me to allow her to use something very precious of mine; and yet she insulted me. I feel that's unacceptable.
         
        07-14-2012, 07:25 PM
      #16
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by Puddintat    
    How rude!! If you want to lose weight for YOU, that's great and I wish you the best of luck. However, losing weight because of others is not a great reason and in the end it probably won't work. I'm in the same boat.

    I sure hope you told that lady to take a hike.
    She is definitely not leasing my horse! Lol. And I feel that she was the last straw for me to realise something needed to be done. I'm making healthier decisions that will not only positively effect me, but my horse also :)

    Thanks for the support :) I really appreciate it!
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        07-14-2012, 07:47 PM
      #17
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by Randella    
    THANK YOU! Your comment made me so hopeful, and so supported! :) I didn't lease to her, she continues to bother me to allow her to lease though! Heheh, and I feel like that's a win on my end ;P

    I've joined Weight Watchers, but I'm totally down for the thread on here, that'd be a great help! :)

    Thanks so much for your support, it means so much to me :)
    Yay, awesome! Did you join WW online or the meetings? I do the online and they have a message board there, too that is very helpful. I don't think you have to be an online member to join and post on the message board, though.

    But I think a forum for weight loss here would be awesome cause we are all horse people. I'm kind of new to this forum, but I will start it. Do I have to ask admin first? The more people you have in your corner and the more people you are accountable to, the better.

    ETA: I noticed that there is a Riders Weight Loss Support thread already, should we just post on that or start a new one?
         
        07-14-2012, 08:00 PM
      #18
    Trained
    Remember while you on your weight loss journey that you are doing it for you because you deserve it. The witch may have been the kick start, but to keep it going turn your thoughts into positive ones.

    Just think in a little while you'll be thinner and she'll still be a bitch
         
        07-14-2012, 09:01 PM
      #19
    Trained
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    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    Remember while you on your weight loss journey that you are doing it for you because you deserve it. The witch may have been the kick start, but to keep it going turn your thoughts into positive ones.

    Just think in a little while you'll be thinner and she'll still be a bitch
    LOL!!!! So true!!! OP, good on for joining a weight loss program! In future when someone makes a derogatory comment
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        07-14-2012, 09:07 PM
      #20
    Showing
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    Remember while you on your weight loss journey that you are doing it for you because you deserve it. The witch may have been the kick start, but to keep it going turn your thoughts into positive ones.

    Just think in a little while you'll be thinner and she'll still be a bitch
    Ehh.. I agree with the first part but calling her a bitch helps nobody. Some people truly worry about horses and don't take into account other's feelings. I'm sure she didn't mean to offend and she's probably confused as to why you aren't considering her for the lease.

    Someone people truly are ignorant of how their words affect others and are blinded by what they feel is truth. I used to think ALL people using a whip while lunging was cruel so I would be mad at those that did it (cause I'd seen a few people at shows smack their horse with it without really having a reason to??) But anyway I learned that the whip is a tool not a weapon and things began to make sense.

    Now if I went up to those using whips while lunging, I would have pissed off a LOT of people and I would have been the bitch. It's just I was ignorant and didn't realize it.

    Ya know? She'll realize one day that what she says about horses jumping and riders that seem heavy to her is untrue.

    Sometimes the best thing to do is be straight up honest, which it's your choice (the OP) if you want to be. I wouldn't have been quiet when she said that to me I would have aid "you know, I've had my vet tell me tha my horse is in prime physical condition and can support me just fine. So what you said was not only hurtful but untrue"

    But that's just me. I like to help people in various ways.

    But thought I would contribute my thoughts. There are too many angry people in this world when it could be fixed or at least confirmed (as in agree to disagree) with simple communication.

    ~~~

    That being said, like I said I am very happy that you are working on bettering your health :) That's awesome, and I'm all for it! Sometimes we need the right kind of motivation. I didn't consider I could get healthier (aka asthma and weight) until I found a reason to: horses.

    Hugs!
         

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