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        03-10-2013, 04:12 PM
      #11
    Green Broke
    Yay!! Another nurse :) well I'm just a meer student for the next year! I'm extremely worried about my joints. My foot recently developed plantars faciitis from rugby...yes, I could play fine but my foot wasn't able to handle the stress. But yes, very sad, scary and most of all undignifing when a patient so is large they can't get out of bed to use the bathroom, let alone clean themselves. That's all disease aside of course.
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        03-10-2013, 04:56 PM
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    I have been fat for something like 22 years, (I am now almost 55), for the most part. Sure, I dieted the weight off , and gained it back with it's new extra pounds. I also had (have) a good life. I do everything a nonobese person does. I did/do not allow being fat to stop me. Dancing, swimming, riding, badminton, hiking, you name it. Being fat always made those things more difficult for me than for my skinny-minny friends, but I actually felt perversely proud of the fact that even though I was well overweight, I could still hold my own in all those activities. Just like my skinny friends playing badminton with a 50 lb pack on their backs. Just try that! I soldiered on. But . . .

    Now here comes the big HOWEVER. ..

    It cannot go on forever. You cannot deny the weight and its' effects on your body or the toll it takes. You have to work harder and harder to overcome it, and it wears you down, joint by joint.

    Most of the pictures posted show young people .. You cannot get back your knees once they are trashed. And, you will find that the thing you love most in the world - riding- will become harder to do, more painful and you will be less able to do it. Of course, age itself plays a part, but I hate to say this, but being fat will make you age harder than those who are not fat for many years of their life. AND, the longer you are fat, the harder it is to take the weight off. The older you get, the harder it is to take the weight off.

    Sure, you should most definitely love yourself and immerse yourself in life without self hate or shame. But, try to keep in mind the very far distant future.
    Think of it this way; "if it's hard to take off weight now (and it surely is), will it be easier next year? (I assure you it won't). Do I want hard or harder?"
         
        03-10-2013, 05:12 PM
      #13
    Started
    I do like the idea of acceptance and body positivity, I'm huge in the world of fitness on tumblr and it's a common theme, something that is much debated. Yes, body positivity is a great thing, and you cannot lead a healthy life style if you're constantly putting yourself down about your weight. I'm a firm believer that it's not healthy to be over weight, it's not healthy to be underweight, and it's not healthy to be at your 'perfect' weight if you're still afraid of calories (note afraid, not conscious). So yes, accepting your body is one gigantic leap to being a healthy person, but too often I see 'body positivity' carrying over into using it as an excuse to not try to achieve health in the rest of your life. At 5 ft, my highest weight was 150 pounds. I wore an XL shirt and felt like a 90 year old women, not fun when you're in your teens. Riding hurt, falling hurt, now I'm down 30 pounds and have a decent amount of muscle, but my body still hurts because it wasn't built to carry that much weight and I've pretty much mucked up some of my joints for the rest of my life... at 19 years old.

    The idea of being positive about yourself and accepting your body is a good one, if you're still conscious.
         
        03-10-2013, 05:24 PM
      #14
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    It's all relative as to what feels like unbearably fat. I am something like 205. I'd be thrilled to be 150. I would be thrilled to be 175. Twenty years ago, that would not be so thrilling.

    I do agree, wholeheartedly, with what the OP said about loving yourself. I love the way she said, "you don't do favors for someone you dislike, so you won't take care of yourself if you don't like/love yourself" or something along those lines. So, so true!
         
        03-10-2013, 05:37 PM
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    Foal
    I really think my intent in posting this thread was lost... in a pretty significant way. Sorry guys, I tried!
         
        03-10-2013, 05:41 PM
      #16
    Trained
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by afatgirlafathorse    
    I really think my intent in posting this thread was lost... in a pretty significant way. Sorry guys, I tried!
    Sorry if we lost your way!

    I'm not totally sure what responses you wanted, but we all don't feel the same about our weight, and we are all in different places in our heads and our hearts.
         
        03-10-2013, 06:01 PM
      #17
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    I don't think your intent was lost at all. I think everybody agrees that body positivity is a good thing, but some people do represent it in the desire to lose weight, etcetc.
         
        03-10-2013, 06:03 PM
      #18
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by afatgirlafathorse    
    I really think my intent in posting this thread was lost... in a pretty significant way. Sorry guys, I tried!
    I think your point is certainly heard and defiantly valid!! Loving yourself, no matter what makes you different, is very important! But, its a small piece of the puzzle that makes up "health".
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        03-10-2013, 06:17 PM
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    Originally Posted by afatgirlafathorse    
    I really think my intent in posting this thread was lost... in a pretty significant way. Sorry guys, I tried!

    You wanted people to be happy with and like the person they are, and to not feel that they have to say "I am trying to lose weight" in order to feel validated for the perfectly valuable person they are.

    I agree 100%. 1000%.

    On that line, I really dislike it when people (including myself) say this all the time. Either work on losing weight, or don't but don't go around saying that all the time when you aren't really doing it. "Trying" to do something, and "Doing" something are not the same.

    I made my post not to get back to the "pounds" thing, but to ever so slightly counter the idea of the so-called "Fat Serenity". This is where you convince yourself that you are happy where you are. All good and well. Yes, be happy where you are. But don't fool yourself that you can ride as well at 260 lbs as you could at 160lbs. And don't fool yourself that you won't be overweight forever, that someday you'll do something about it, by "magic". Yeah, if your young and fat you can still do pretty much anything you want to do. But my point is that even though you don't realize it at the time, you are raising the cost that you have to pay in 20 years time.
    How much are you willing to pay later for being serene about your obesity now.?
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        03-10-2013, 06:21 PM
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    Originally Posted by tinyliny    

    On that line, I really dislike it when people (including myself) say this all the time. Either work on losing weight, or don't but don't go around saying that all the time when you aren't really doing it. "Trying" to do something, and "Doing" something are not the same.
    Yup, if you are happy at your weight, do not make excuses, embrace it and love it. If you aren't happy, change it I've spent a lot of time mumbling about losing weight, and never doing it. Now I am doing something about it, because I have positive goals to aim at.
         

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