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post #21 of 55 Old 03-10-2013, 06:29 PM
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And one reason I might be harping on this rather harshly (please excuse me. I am usually not so direct and "mean") is that my own weight is the cause of the knee and lower back problems that are now threatening my ability to ride and to walk anywhere of any real distance. I NEVER thought it would actually come to that. Not me. I could always keep up , even being way overweight I could outride some of my skinny friends. Now, I am seeing a very frightening spectre of being unable to actually ride. OMG. That is simply unacceptable. but, my knee is pretty trashed, and so is my lower back, and if you think being 50+ lbs overweight for 20+ years didn't have somethign to dowith that, then you are fooling yourself.

It's not too late for me to change. Am I willing? well, a lot more than a year ago, becuase it's one year more critical. Will even this threat of being unable to ride or walk well be enough to make me do what it takes? not sure. Overeating is a POWERFUL addiction. and the older you get, the less food it takes to make you fat, so you have to eat even less to lose weight. People always said that to me, but it never really seemed true until now. I doubt it's possible for a person to really realize these things purely by another person warning them of the impending nature of them. one has to walk the path themselves to feel the stones.
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I think there is a big difference between loving yourself, and loving the fact that you are overweight, or even being ok with it. The smallest that I have ever been was 180, and at 5'5" that is still overweight, but I was literally rock solid, nothing moved, and I had a 24" waist. I look in the mirror now, and wonder wth happened? But one thing that no one can take from me, is my confidence. I can, will, and do still walk into a room or situation like I own it. Does that mean that I'm happy with being fat? Hell no. But I do love and respect myself enough to walk in with my head held high. When I say that I'm working on losing weight, I mean it and will do what I have to. I'm never going to offer that phrase to anyone in an attempt to justfy my existance, because at the end of the day I really don't care what they think of me. It only matters what I think of me, and whatever I'm doing to lose weight, get fit, get healthy, etc etc is between me, my body, my mind, and no one else. The way I look at it, is if someone doesn't like me simply because I'm fat, they are missing everything else that I am, and it's their loss, not mine.
I understand completely why this thread was began. We are more than our numbers, and we have to love ourselves enough to change, but we don't have to love the fact that we're overweight. You can love yourself, and not love your circumstances. Life happens, it knocks you down, well you can choose to cowboy/cowgirl up or you can lay in the dirt. Get up, dust yourself off, and keep pushing forward.
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i think there is a big difference between loving yourself, and loving the fact that you are overweight, or even being ok with it. The smallest that i have ever been was 180, and at 5'5" that is still overweight, but i was literally rock solid, nothing moved, and i had a 24" waist. I look in the mirror now, and wonder wth happened? But one thing that no one can take from me, is my confidence. I can, will, and do still walk into a room or situation like i own it. Does that mean that i'm happy with being fat? Hell no. But i do love and respect myself enough to walk in with my head held high. When i say that i'm working on losing weight, i mean it and will do what i have to. I'm never going to offer that phrase to anyone in an attempt to justfy my existance, because at the end of the day i really don't care what they think of me. It only matters what i think of me, and whatever i'm doing to lose weight, get fit, get healthy, etc etc is between me, my body, my mind, and no one else. The way i look at it, is if someone doesn't like me simply because i'm fat, they are missing everything else that i am, and it's their loss, not mine.
I understand completely why this thread was began. We are more than our numbers, and we have to love ourselves enough to change, but we don't have to love the fact that we're overweight. You can love yourself, and not love your circumstances. Life happens, it knocks you down, well you can choose to cowboy/cowgirl up or you can lay in the dirt. Get up, dust yourself off, and keep pushing forward.
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Thank you Tiny.
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I don't really have anything to add. Just- excellent post PaintedFury!
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I don't really have anything to add. Just- excellent post PaintedFury!
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and you look beautiful my dear!

I think the point of this thread was just to deter people away from the "I need to lose weight to be happy/ride" attitude. So what if you do or think you do? We can also talk about how beautiful we are in our own skin, BESIDES focusing on weight loss.
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I'm 5'7" and 230-ish pounds. Six months ago, I weighed 170-ish (but mostly muscle, as I was wearing a size 12). I haven't changed anything in my eating habits (if anything, I'm eating better) and I'm definitely more active (my job now requires it as I wash cars all day). I have a great life that I love. I have an amazing boyfriend, an awesome family, ridiculously incredible friends, and a pretty okay job.

Do I love who I am as a person? You bet your boots! I've got stuff I need to work on, but so does everyone (unless you ask my boyfriend...he thinks he's perfect lol).

Do I love who I am physically? Hell no!

Can/do I accept myself as I am physically right now? Not a chance in hell.

And here's why not...

1) I drive a 1983 Ford Thunderbird Heritage. This is a car that sits low to the ground. I have a VERY hard time getting into and out of my car, especially if it's sitting on any sort of an incline.

2) I can't wear my uniform pants. I had to trade them in for a bigger size (size 46 in men's...they don't have women's) and they are still too small. I wore a pair on Saturday and I literally have a bruise across my stomach from the waistband.

3) I get winded walking across the parking lot. Where I used to be able to go on a 5 mile hike over rough terrain and barely get winded, I now can barely walk a half mile on a manicured trail before I'm spent.

4) We're just not even gonna get into my (non-existent) sex life.

I could go on, but I won't. My point is that I cannot and do not accept myself at this weight.

That being said, I do need to get checked out medically because I can feel that something isn't...right...with my body.
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