Well said GoldenHorse. There is a world of difference between accepting/loving who you are, and accepting/loving being overweight as part of who you are. Simply saying that I'm fat is a fact, something that can and will be changed! Me being fat has nothing to do with who I am. I am way more than a number on a scale, measuring tape, or any other device that tells me something that I already know, I need to make some changes.
That being said, I do realize that poor self-image/self-confidence often accompanies being overweight even by small amounts. I'm going to tell you something I figured out a while back. Someone only has power over you if you allow them to. Stand up for yourself, even if you don't buy into what you're saying at the moment, you will eventually. Confidence is not some mysterious force that only certain people can have, we all have the right to it. Even if it means telling yourself repeatedly that you matter, you're beautiful/handsome, you're confident, smart, whatever, you'll start to believe it where before you didn't. Replace your negative self talk with positive, in stead of saying I'm fat when you catch a glimps of yourself in the mirror, say I'm in better shape today than I was yesterday, and I'll be in better shape tomorrow than I am today. Say something that will improve you instead of insult you. The simple act of changing how you look at yourself, will often give you the courage to change what you see. But it will also change how others see you too.
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