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post #51 of 55 Old 03-12-2013, 02:10 AM
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Originally Posted by SlideStop View Post
Well for a starts "informing everyone" helps build a network of support and a place to get advice and assurance from. Especially if you lack that in your daily life. I know for me its rough that my girlfriend loves to talk about Cadbury eggs and eat Mac and cheese in front of me and my mom calls me a fat arse at any given opportunity. It's nice to come here and see "wow, so and so is doing it so can I" or "oh, this worked for that person. Maybe I'll try it" or heaven forbid a "good job slide, keep up the work!".

Why do you think this is something we should sweep under the rug? Would you tell an alcoholic to shut up and suffer/go through recovery alone?

Not for nothing, this argument can be flipped right around to say "your just unhappy because we have found some motivation for change instead of just excepting ourself as obese/over weight".
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Nonono sorry. I'm not saying ignore it I'm saying why justify it to every one else? If you want to that's brilliant but I won't be going around telling everyone I'm on a diet because that's just me
And I love the motivation here, it is awesome! It's just nice to see something different that's all

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post #52 of 55 Old 03-12-2013, 02:11 AM
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Originally Posted by tinyliny View Post
I'm pretty much kidding with the Debby Downer exclusive thread. First time I've ever thought of myself as a DD.

What I really liked about the OP was her saying that you don't have to say "I'm dieting, " or "I'm trying to lose some weight" , in otherwords, make some kind of excuse or qualifier for your size, in order to feel comfortable with other people.
That is so true, and a good thing to be reminded of.

I am sure that I am occasionalll guilty fo plugging in that comment of "I'm trying to loose weight", in a feeble attempt to somehow make myself appear more worthy. My friends are such good friends, they are happy if I'm on that road, but they like me for who I am now.
thank you! You are much better at explaining things than I haha This is what I was trying to say. NOT trying to 'sweep it under the rug'

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post #53 of 55 Old 03-28-2013, 02:05 PM
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Well, I'm new to the forum, but wanted to throw a couple cents in anyway....

I just turned 35 this week and I am overweight- obese by the 'standard'. I don't 'feel' fat most of the time (I hover around 200 lately) and still do everything I want to physically do. I work at a barn cleaning stalls and other chores that involve lifting feed bags, etc- not to mention my own chores at home. I try to eat healthy and drink water and all that jazz. Would like to lose some weight, well heck yeah. Am I unhappy and miserable the way I am right now? Nope.

I agree that a lot of being at a healthy weight is accepting yourself exactly where you are, be it 350lbs or 150lbs. If you have health issues compounded by your weight, then by all means, you should make a concentrated effort to help yourself. But I for one don't feel the need to look a certain way or weigh a certain amount to be acceptable in society. You should do what is right for YOU.

I don't think the OP meant to imply that anyone is misguided or wrong for not being comfortable/happy/satisfied with their weight.

So there's my rant. :)

And by the way, I think all of your pictures are great! :)

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I agree that a lot of being at a healthy weight is accepting yourself exactly where you are, be it 350lbs or 150lbs.
Accepting yourself doesn't mean you have to love the weight you are.

Also, being 350lbs is in no way, shape or form healthly. Your at risk for:
Heart & vascular diseases: Hypertension, heart attack, heart failure
Diabetes: vision loss, limb loss, death from hypoglycemia
Stroke: carries various complications
Musculoskeletal problems

Obesity is a risk factor or comorbidity for many disease. These are the only ones I can think of off the top of my.

Loving yourself is good and can give you the power to change. You don't have to "accept" being over weight like a dying animals lays down to accept death.
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Alright, first I'd like to say that I respect and admire all of you, and in now way am I talking to any one person in this thread, and I really don't want to offend anyone. This is just my opinion and my experience.

I'd like to address the whole health thing. What is the definition of health?

Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
-From the World Health Organization. This is the definition I learned in health class.

I feel that too many of us are focusing completely on the "physical" aspect and not enough on the "mental and social" aspects.

I honestly believe that you need to learn to love yourself, no matter your weight. It's important to remember that losing weight will not magically fix all your issues. I've lost 39 pounds since my highest weight, where I had horrible self-esteem. Guess what? I still have horrible self-esteem.

And I see so many people judging people for their health. It's sad.

First, body weight is just one part of the puzzle that is an individual's health. We've all seen skinny people who can stay skinny and eat whatever junk they want with no exercise. Just because they are skinny, does that mean they are "healthy"? Absolutely not. Say it with me: you can't look at a person and know their exact health.

Second, a person's value is not in how healthy they are. Being unhealthy does not make a person worth any less, less worthy of praise for their good qualities, etc.

Being healthy is important to a lot of people, I totally get it! It's important to me! But for some people, their health isn't their number one priority.

Loving yourself is important. Believe me. Until you love yourself, so many mental and social issues we associate with being over-weight won't change.
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