Alright, first I'd like to say that I respect and admire all of you, and in now way am I talking to any one person in this thread, and I really don't want to offend anyone. This is just my opinion and my experience.
I'd like to address the whole health thing. What is the definition of health?
Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.
-From the World Health Organization. This is the definition I learned in health class.
I feel that too many of us are focusing completely on the "physical" aspect and not enough on the "mental and social" aspects.
I honestly believe that you need to learn to love yourself, no matter your weight. It's important to remember that losing weight will not magically fix all your issues. I've lost 39 pounds since my highest weight, where I had horrible self-esteem. Guess what? I still have horrible self-esteem.
And I see so many people judging people for their health. It's sad.
First, body weight is just one part of the puzzle that is an individual's health. We've all seen skinny people who can stay skinny and eat whatever junk they want with no exercise. Just because they are skinny, does that mean they are "healthy"? Absolutely not. Say it with me: you can't look at a person and know their exact health.
Second, a person's value is not in how healthy they are.
Being unhealthy does not make a person worth any less, less worthy of praise for their good qualities, etc.
Being healthy is important to a lot of people, I totally get it! It's important to me! But for some people, their health isn't their number one priority.
Loving yourself is important. Believe me. Until you love yourself, so many mental and social issues we associate with being over-weight won't change.