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Kelly22790 10-26-2011 11:21 AM

Have you ever broken up with someone because you had too many other things going on?
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Have you ever broken up with someone, who you truly loved, because you thought you did not have time for a relationship or just had too many other things going on in your life?
If so:

Why did you do it?

How old were you at the time?

Did you regret it?

Did you get back together with the person? After how long?

What were the outside circumstances?

Did you not believe that this person could be there for you and give you your space at the same time?

Do you believe in perfect timing?

Thanks in advance.

Sunny 10-26-2011 11:56 AM

I'm not going to fill out the entire thing because it's a short and simple situation.

My boyfriend and I live three hours away. We had been together for over two years when I moved.
I am a full-time college student and I have my horse, of course.
He is a part time student and he has a part time job.

It was getting extremely hard to see each other, and we were always stressed.

After being apart for four months, we mutually decided to call it quits.

That lasted for 10 hours. We just couldn't do it. We couldn't live without each other, we had been together for too long and loved each other way too much to just throw it away after four months of long distance.

Now, we're happier than ever and he's moving in at the end of this year. :-) :wink:
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Lis 10-26-2011 12:05 PM


Why did you do it? Because we were too young and not mature enough (me especially) to deal with a relationship while I had a lot of crap going on in my life that was hard enough to deal with without the demands of a relationship.

How old were you at the time? 16 at the time.

Did you regret it? Very much so because we had been close for years.

Did you get back together with the person? After how long? Err yes and no, we're back at the stage now where we could be in a relationship but due to new circumstances we're not and it's been 3 years of rebuilding our friendship.

What were the outside circumstances? I was severely depressed, my parents were splitting and my relationship with my Dad was in pieces. I was switching schools because I was being bullied so I was in a really bad place.

Did you not believe that this person could be there for you and give you your space at the same time? Yes he could but I couldn't give the energy needed to support the relationship.

Do you believe in perfect timing? Kind of.

Whisper22 10-26-2011 12:08 PM

I've never done this, but I've had it done to me. It doesn't feel good, but if this is what you truly need to make you happy at the moment, then you need to do what's right for you. Just keep in mind that this guy you LOVE, may not wait around until you're ready. I didn't and when the guy showed back up months later, ready to jump back in, I had moved on and was really happy with someone else.
I wouldn't make a decision like that unless it was very obvious the relationship wasn't working.

LetAGrlShowU 10-26-2011 12:17 PM

How old are you OP? Just wondering because in my eyes if you love someone, there is a way to make it work. After all, thats what love is all about. Relationships are never easy, even without added outside stresses, but with work and communication, its all doable.

If you are young.. under 21ish... do what you need to do. If you are older, i'd say its not love if you're willing to part ways. This is strictly my opinion.

Kelly22790 10-26-2011 12:25 PM

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I actually am on the being broken up with side of this. I just need some reassurance that his reason is real. In the beginning of our relationship I thought about leaving because I thought I needed to sort things out with myself first. However, there was a point when I finally realized that he loved me as I am and I cOuld be with him and work on my "issues" at the same time. And from that point on that's what I did. I put everything I had into it. I know he cares for me and is hurting too (he was crying and it took him 3 weeks to make up his mind) but I'm still having a hard time understanding. I am not a needy girlfriend by any means, I'm pretty much as understanding and easy going as they come... So I just don't understand why he thinks he can't stay with me and fix things at the same time. If he wanted to not talk for a month or two but still be together, I could do that. I just have a problem with the idea of breaking up because I guess I believe breaking up means it is over for good. He has trust issues and jealousy issues. Anger issues... A lot of things. But I've never said anything about them because I know he will get through them. He says it is not fair to me or to him for him to be in a relationship right now. He says it would be different if we could live together but we can't quite yet... Still building our money up. He said if he is going to be in a relationship he'd want it to be with me because I am everything he wants. Yet, he says all this but is still leaving? I am so confused and hurt.

Kelly22790 10-26-2011 12:26 PM

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I am 21 turning 22 in February.

Saddlebag 10-26-2011 12:31 PM

In my case, when I got a job out of town, living on a ranch, breaking ponies, the guy showed up, made all sorts of accusations, made trouble for me and I lost my job. OK, next job, again out of town, similar circumstances, guy showed up again with same accusations. Again lost my job. I found out he and his friends had stolen gas from the neighboring farm and let the remainder just run out on the ground. I reported him to the police. End of that romance. Never looked back.

Katesrider011 10-26-2011 12:36 PM

I personally don't do dating.

But I did once about five years ago an it didn't work out. Haven't dated since and haven't cared to.

I haven't regretted my decision a bit, she is still good friends with me and that's all that matters.

MNCOWGIRL 10-26-2011 12:51 PM

Yes, but that was because I was 16, and he lived 4 hours away. Lobg distance relationships dont work.

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