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CupidCanter 11-11-2011 10:54 PM

Is my barn not right for me?
In my riding lessons, I'm always in a really small arena with AT LEAST 3 or 4 other girls, which almost all of them are a lot younger than me. I've been riding with this instructor for about two months now, and I have hardly even TROTTED.

It's partly because of the small arena and the number of us in there. But sometimes we play silly games and I just wish I could practice!

It's so very frustrating, I could be a lot further by now but I don't get enough time in to practice.

I'm confused and sad and I don't know what to think.

Dreamcatcher Arabians 11-11-2011 11:21 PM

Sounds like if you have to ask the question you already know the answer.

Saskia 11-12-2011 06:21 AM

If you're not gaining what you want from your lessons then obviously its not working.

If you move to a new place, be sure that you tell the instructor what you are looking for and what you want to achieve. Some people do just go riding for the social/fun aspect, if you're looking to just practice your riding make that clear so there are no misunderstandings.

MudPaint 11-12-2011 08:46 AM

If you really like your current trainer, sit down and talk to him/her about your goals. Explain clearly and without pointing fingers or whining.

Write down your goals with your trainer, set a plan as to how you're going to get there. Perhaps there is another night for you to take lessons that has a more advanced class, or you're in this group for a reason. I don't say this to be mean, but she is the trainer, and in her eyes you're not ready to move up to the next block. But sitting down and talking may make these things clear.

If you can afford it, perhaps getting private lessons, or a semi private lesson may help you advance.

catsandhorses 11-12-2011 01:23 PM

I agree with talking with your trainer first about your goals.

But what I've learned over the years is that when your lessons are becoming increasingly frustrating then it is time to move on. Lessons should be fun, challenging and rewarding. If you are not progressing because of arena space issues or a coach's lack of initiative, then it is a waste of the student's time and money. Good coaches are hard to find but they are worth the time and effort to search until you've found the right one.

jinxremoving 11-12-2011 07:02 PM

I agree with everyone else, you need to express your concerns to your instructor and see what's going on. Ask what the point of the games are? Are they beneficial to your riding? I sometimes do "games" once in a blue moon during a lesson, but if it became a frequent thing I would put an end to it.

Just my two cents... but if you can barely trot after 2 months of lessons then something is either wrong with your instructor or yourself. I have heard of people taking a very long time to pick up the trot but 2 months seems a bit excessive in my opinion.

tinyliny 11-12-2011 07:57 PM

Riding lessons are too expensive for them to be a waste of time. If it means spending MORE to go private, I would suggest it . It sounds that currently you are basically throwing your money away, if actual learning is your goal.

Alwaysbehind 11-14-2011 11:39 AM


Originally Posted by tinyliny (Post 1231260)
Riding lessons are too expensive for them to be a waste of time.

No riding lesson is truly a waste of time. Though the OP is not feeling like she is getting anything, she is getting saddle time. And that does count.

I do agree with the others that suggest it is time to sit down and discuss your goals with your instructor.

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