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Emma7442 06-19-2008 04:53 AM

Getting angry at my horse
I hate to admit this, I know that being a rider you should never get angry at the horse but sometimes I just can't help it. It's not like I have anger problems or anything, I can just get so frustrated. On a bad day we might do a jump horribly, or he just refuses to canter I usually end up jabbing at my reins or calling him names.

Me and my horse usually get on fine, but on a bad day I can get really angry with him, even if it inst his fault. (I know that's unfair)

Do you have any ideas to help me relax more if were having one of those days and nothing seems to go right?

Thanks :)

sempre_cantando 06-19-2008 05:18 AM

a short message from me coz I can't type due to my cut finger :cry:

Remind yourself of why you ride in the first place - to have fun!!!! If things aren't going right, don't keep trying but have a break until you cool down and are ready 2 try again. The only exception to this is if he's really misbehaving and you don't want to reward this bad behaviour.

kitten_Val 06-19-2008 06:49 AM

Sit quietly and breath hard. In, out, in, out, for while. :) I have the same problem (I'm getting too nervous or mad too fast :( ), and it helps to relax. Also horse can feel it and relaxes too.

mell 06-19-2008 08:14 AM

not sure if this will help but this is what i do when i get like that. I get off and sit. yep sit untill i feel better. lol

Angel_Leaguer 06-19-2008 09:21 AM

Horses know when you are upset... just try to push through it without blowing up. I would recommened not getting off the horse to relax until you have made your horse behave (if you are trying something new and the horse isnt getting it then go back to what you were doing before stopping. They may just not get what you are asking) Also if my horse behaved I will take the saddle off at the arena and walk the horse back to the stall where I will do a nice full body brushing before turning out (reward) and if the ride didnt go too good they get to carry the saddle back and get enough brushing to prevent saddle sore type stuff and then they stay tied a bit longer before getting turned out. There isnt the whole petting and scratching either (punishment) After doing this enough they start to really catch on, and horses really do what to please their owner...

Not sure if this makes sense but I dont think just jumping off when you are mad helps things. If your horse continues to upset you then maybe you need to get a trainer to help you through a few lessons to see where the disconnect is between you and your horse.

Small_Town_Girl 06-19-2008 10:20 AM

Always remember, your horse is your friend...he is your partner,
you are a team when riding, you are going to make mistakes
along your journey together. When you fall off a horse, you gotta
get back up on the saddle, meaning you gotta keep on trying.

Enjoy riding your horse and like everyone else said BREATHE
and think happy thoughts! :P

PoptartShop 06-19-2008 12:04 PM

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Just try to stay calm...breathe, relax, take a deep breath. ;) To cool off, maybe just walk (while on your horse) around the arena for a little bit, then start working again. :D

my2geldings 06-19-2008 07:54 PM

Remember that "There are only problems riders, not problem horses". Everything that you do will affect the way your horse reacts and will do or not do something you ask him. Getting frustrated at him isn't fair at all because chances are he is getting confused at the mixed signals you are giving him. I'm sure he's trying the best he can with the information he is receiving.

Take a deep breath and pull yourself together.

horsey*kisses 06-19-2008 09:21 PM

i know exactaly what you're talking about i get mad at my horse all the time and sometimes slip and yank or jab a bit i have a really bad temper so sometimes it just all spills out and i take it out on the closest person, but im getting better at controlling it lol
i usually just keep my horse going, or i have him turn circles for a minute to calm him down and i take deep breaths and calm down, then think 'why did he do that?' or 'why did he not do that' when i come to a conclusion i try again, or i walk away and leave that activity for a day when both him and i are more cooperative with each other,
i try not to put him away when both of us are mad at each other, sometimes i do, but i always go see him later when i have calmed down and apologize or talk with him a little,
also a good tip is when you want to yell really loud at him and yank and jab and completly fall off your rocker take a quick deep breath and do the exact opposite, let your voice get real quiet and let your hands relax so the reins are relaxed and stretch your legs out and place them gently on his/her sides and just sit in one spot, for a few minutes letting your anger fall out of your ears or something, think of something funny he/she did then ask him/her to try again
wow this is long lol
*throws cookie if you read all the way to the bottom*
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! and come up with your own calming strategies, every one and every horse is different

Emma7442 06-19-2008 11:56 PM

Thanks for the help everyone

I had a private lesson with my horse, it was short but it was REALLY helpful, and the lady was really nice (she was chesters old owner) I learnt about using my voice more then my hands. Its funny cause the lesson went so well then the day after i tried it again and totally messed up the job!

I guess everyone has their days.......

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