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MoonlightEm 01-30-2012 07:00 PM

Tell Me if this is fair...
At our barn, my friend, who I rode with every day, had an accident - fell off and injured her head. The doctor has forbidden her to ride. She wants to keep her horse and has enlisted another person to ride him. The original agreement was that this person would ride with me (this is all for free) to make up for my no longer having my riding companion. Well, time has passed and this person is now riding with another person from the barn - doesn't call me and is still riding for FREE! She doesn't pay a dime and yet we boarders all pay $800 a month. I arrive at the barn and find out she has ridden with someone else. Would you be ticked if you were paying $800 and someone was riding for free and being subsidized by the owner? Maybe I'm jut being petty. Perhaps it's no different than a mom paying for her daughter to ride. Please tell me if I'm being peevish and small.

BarrelracingArabian 01-30-2012 07:04 PM

Well if there is a specific agreement that she is to ride with you then I would tell the owner of the horse that she is not following the rules. However if she did not have a contract setting the rules than there really is nothing you can do about it as long as the owner of the horse is ok with it.

waresbear 01-30-2012 07:07 PM

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This is an agreement between the horse's owner & the person enlisted to ride the horse, that she must ride with you? Then contact the owner and tell her that she is not riding with you. It's the owner's responsibility to enforce the agreement, not yours, unless you are paying her board.

MoonlightEm 01-30-2012 07:13 PM

Ya, seems like there is NOTHING I can do! This woman has landed a marvelous deal for herself. She gets to ride for free as much as she wants as owner is paying the board. I have to just butt out and try not to be too miffed. Thanks for the feedback. I'm just being resentful and letting my ego get in the way. I have to let go and let live.

waresbear 01-30-2012 07:17 PM

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Maybe try and find someone else to ride with. I am thinking the owner just wants her horse exercised so instead of paying someone to do that, she let this person do it for free.

thesilverspear 01-31-2012 01:46 PM

That's life. Some people "luck out" and get a ride for free for a wee while, and some of us pay for the maintenance of our own horses. Part of owning a horse. Here's my perspective on it: I was living abroad for about three months and a friend of mine rode my horse for free. I kept paying board on her and my friend paid for shoes and that was it. Sure, I could have found someone to lease my horse while I was in Ireland, but to be honest, that was far more hassle and I was very particular about who I entrusted my horse to while I was 8000 miles away. When I was trying to get my act together to go abroad and finishing a semester at uni, I just could not also get my head around searching for a leaser who would have been some random person off the internet or someone on the university's riding team who I did not know very well, yet my friend, who couldn't afford to pay me for a lease but who I 100% trusted with my horse's care, was happy to ride her and take responsibility for her. Fine. I was happy and not stressed about my horse while I was away. A head injury is far more stress to deal with than a jolly across the Atlantic for a summer, so I imagine your friend is just happy her horse is getting exercise and attention.

wetrain17 01-31-2012 04:13 PM

IMO, I wouldnt see a problem with it as long as I was getting board for the horse. Things happen and I understand the owner wanting to keep their horse in shape. I dont think its a big deal who this new person rides with or with anyone for that matter. I would think its more important for the horse to stay in work then to coordinate schedules all the time.

skittlesfirehawk 01-31-2012 07:03 PM

[QUOTE]to make up for my no longer having my riding companion

so your issue is no longer having a ridding partner that to me sounds petty.Do you know the girl?Did you two get along?Maybe she found someone she is friends with and would rather ride with her.If your mad because you no longer have a ridding partner maybe you could find someone else.You could try asking her why she doesn't want to ride with you.

themacpack 01-31-2012 07:09 PM

I think you are making this about you when it isn't *shrugs*

themacpack 01-31-2012 07:33 PM

This agreement is between the horse's owner and the person doing the riding. It is up to the horse's owner whether or not there is a problem with what is going on.

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