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hberrie 04-30-2012 10:24 PM

Thinking about changing barns
I am at a barn that was very peaceful during the winter months, but now that it's show season I miss my time alone with my horse. I work full time and have 2 kids and Fri and Sat nights were my time with my horse. Now here is alot of traffic. I love the barn and owners and the other boarders , but am considering going to a privately owned quiet barn cause that seems where I would be happiest. What do you think? I like having other horse people to talk to, but I don't like having to share my horse time with others. Does that make sense to anyone?

mildot 04-30-2012 10:33 PM

Can you help me out here? What exactly do you mean by " I don't like having to share my horse time with others"?

Do you get denied used of the arena during training or lessons?

Do people constantly bug you when all you want to do is ride?

Personally, I can shut out everything around me if I want to concentrate on schooling my horse. My only attention drift comes from keeping track of others' physical location to avoid a wreck.

Sure, I'll say hello to others who are also schooling their horses, but like me they are there to work.

Other times, I go out trail riding with other barn mates whose main interest is that.

And sometimes, like today, I'll go on a hack by myself after an arena workout for the both of us to unwind and relax.

Skyseternalangel 04-30-2012 10:41 PM

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OP I would tread very carefully..

Is your horse being taken care of?

You already said you love the BO and the boarders.. just the busy-ness sucks. Is there a time where you can go do things on your own? It must be exhausting having a bunch of people around you doing their thing but look at your options before you consider moving.

Barns proclaim things to get you to move to them instead... and when you get there it may not be all it is cracked up to be, or worse.. they neglect your horse.

Keep in mind that moving a horse is also stressful.

Really think about it. If your horse is happy and cared for, then you just need to survive summer OR find someplace quiet to ride.

I used to be at a barn with over 200 boarded horses.. that's a lot of people in 3 arenas, 1 XC course, and the state trails. But I budgeted my time and found some peace and quiet. I am sure you can too, if that's the only thing that ails you in this scenario.

Good luck!

hberrie 04-30-2012 10:46 PM

I do like your reply and I think it is quite reasonable. Nobody pushes me out of the arena. It is me that has a hard time with the traffic. I feel like I should wait until everyone who was there before me leaves before i can ride. They are all practicing for shows and important stuff and I am just there for fun. I spend alot of time sitting around waiting for them to be done cause I am relatively new to the barn and don't want ot get in their way.

Spirit Lifter 04-30-2012 10:52 PM

You are very considerate indeed. BUT, you pay for the priviledge of spending time with your horse just like everybody else whether it be for fun or show. Get out there and do your thing!!

petitepyromaniac 04-30-2012 11:00 PM


Originally Posted by SpiritLifter (Post 1480818)
You are very considerate indeed. BUT, you pay for the priviledge of spending time with your horse just like everybody else whether it be for fun or show. Get out there and do your thing!!

I agree with this. You are just as important as every one else! Ride to your heart's content :)

As far as the traffic, remember to pass on the right. If someone is having a lesson, try to stay out of their way in general. If at anytime you're not sure what to do, make a decision and call it out. "I'm going inside" or something like that is always helpful in a moment with too indecisive people ;) The more you ride around people, the more you get used to it and it becomes really easy.

Enjoy the company while it's there, and before you know it, it will be winter again :)

mildot 05-01-2012 04:47 AM

How many arenas does your barn have?

Are any of them set up without jumps?

I can see how it can be stressful to try to share space with people working on their flatwork or especially their jumping if you've never had to deal with that.

kitten_Val 05-01-2012 07:26 AM

I think you should do what you think is the best for you. I used to board in barn with lots of people, and yes, it was quite annoying at times. As others said if it's just about riding in arena and you are trying to be nice (and you are happy with everything else) I'd just ride. But then not everyone likes to ride with the crowd of people (I personally don't).

franknbeans 05-01-2012 07:33 AM

I feel very similar at times, but realize that it is good for both the horse and I to learn to ride in "traffic" and stay focused. I consider it part of our training now. I used to get all upset when he pinned his ears when another horse passed, etc.....he has now gotten over it, and so have I. We are both better for it. As long as everyone knows how to be considerate and follow the "traffic rules", it is all good.

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