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December 05-05-2012 05:11 PM

Selling my horse, the right thing to do?
Hey all,
So this is one of the hardest things I will probably ever have to do. 2 years ago I bought this lovely mare, and I have loved her to pieces since I've had her and we've done so well and our bond is one of the most amazing thing I have ever felt. However my family is going through a lot. I can afford her financially but lately time has been an issue I am only at the barn 2 days a week granted I have a 2 week leaser, but my barn is also and hour away and every time I ask to be driven out my mom doesn't want to, or doesn't have the time to, my barn is no where near a train or bus I'm thinking about selling my mare, just because she has so much potential, and I don't want her to not become something great because of me. I don't want to hold her back. She is also my first horse and I don't know how to explain it, its just really hard for me I've gotten so attached but if it's what's best for her I would rather sell her to someone that can put the time and energy into her. I'm not writing this for pity, I guess I just need to know I'm doing the right thing...:-(
Thanks so much

ThirteenAcres 05-05-2012 05:44 PM

Is there a chance of finding board closer to your home to make it easier to go see her?

waresbear 05-05-2012 06:34 PM

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You might consider leasing her until some of your time frees up.

Saskia 05-05-2012 08:14 PM

Your horse doesn't care if she becomes "something great" or not. In fact, her ideal life would probably be sitting in a grassy paddock with a couple of horse friends eating grass all day and never being ridden.

There are many, many horses out there with loads of potential to do a variety of sports. It doesn't matter if your horse becomes an Olympian or a paddock puff really, as long as she is being cared for.

So don't do it for her, do it for you. Do you want to have a horse still, even if you don't see it so often? Perhaps you're feeling a certain way about horses now, and you're looking for an excuse? Be honest with yourself about your feelings.

If you are that attached to a horse, she has potential and you have a good bond with her I have no idea why you would sell her unless you have to. Seems a little strange to me.

Sharpie 05-05-2012 08:31 PM

Selling a horse because she has unmet 'potential' sounds silly to me. I don't think I know a single horse who is meeting their real potential...

That is not to say that selling her is the wrong thing to do. Your horse does not care if she meets the 'potential' us humans think she might have. She cares that she has food, a consistent environment, herdmates, safety and is free from pain. Most horses just as happy being a lardbutt as a three day eventer, maybe happier.

If you WANT or NEED to rehome her for whatever reason, then do so! If you just have too much going on and need one less thing, selling her may be a very good option. And so long as she goes somewhere with food, farrier and vet care, safety, and someone who will care about her well being, she will do well and be happy.

Skyseternalangel 05-05-2012 08:32 PM

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That's a sweet gesture for your family, bringing their feelings into this.

But what about you? And your horse?

She has a brilliant home with you. As soon as you sell her, it's out of your hands and she may find a good home or she may not.

If you love her and have such a great bond for her, I'd keep her. Try leasing her out, that would be better for all parties involved, and maybe have a friend drive you now and then to the barn in exchange for lunch or something.

Don't give up.

yadlim 05-05-2012 08:34 PM

Honestly, if you are thinking of selling her only because you can only see her once or twice a week - you will reget it for the rest of your life. Craigslist is full of ads of people who sold thier beloved horse and years later they are searching for that horse.

If you are actually ready to move on and out of horses, that is fine, but if it is guilt that you are 'holding her back' don't do it.

My horses see me once maybe twice a week. Do we all wish it was more often? Yes. Has it been in the past? Yes. Will it be again in the future? Yes. Will I sell them because right now I can't give them as much attention as I wanted to, over my dead decaying body. I know that things will get better and that these bad times will pass, but I will never be able to replace these specific horses.

SlideStop 05-06-2012 09:57 PM

Why not look for a free leaser? This way you have the bills covered but still retain ownership of the horse. I'm sure you can arrange a contract that can fit your needs! Then in a year or two or three when you have your own means of transportation you can continue with her.
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myhorsesonador 05-06-2012 10:16 PM


Originally Posted by yadlim (Post 1487272)
If you are actually ready to move on and out of horses, that is fine, but if it is guilt that you are 'holding her back' don't do it.

This! I say don't do it. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't have sold my horse, but there is nothing I can do to change that now. She's gone it's over. I may never see her again.

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