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huntergrl 06-21-2012 07:23 AM

Bad Economy Story
I live in a little coastal town in NC and my neighbors who have treated us like family own about 10 acres and 2 houses, one of them their own house on the land. Part of it is a field my husband and I got married in right across from our house. I feel so lost because I just found out they put it all up for sale the other day :( Not only that, but it just stinks that my husband and I can't even qualify to buy anything right now so we can't even buy it. It would be so perfect for us because I want my own land to put my horse on. The saddest part is that when they sell it they will be moving :( Since I lost my mom this year I feel real comfortable with my neighbors, but everything is so hard with jobs. I don't feel as close with my other family members. Its time for me to move on and go get a good job too because even if I could qualify my job sucks! I had to go back to an old job of mine at a gas station as a cashier. My husband makes an average amount but I don't so we are not doing as well as we used to. I have been thinking about federal law enforcement so quite some time now and I am pursuing that idea. Although I'd love to own a large spread and have a nice paying job I guess I would still miss home a little bit. I do love other areas of the country though. This I have to consider because if I go into said career they will move me somewhere else. Thanks for listening, please share if you have similar storys.

Skyseternalangel 06-21-2012 07:37 AM

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That is sad news.. hopefully they find a way to build back what they've lost.

My father lost his job back in 2004, it wasn't until 2005 that he found a job in the States. We were living in England at the time. I was going on 12. Had to leave all my friends behind and it was quite the stir.

But it was a good decision.. we've had some rough times but we're always able to bounce back :)

dbarabians 06-21-2012 08:28 AM

This is a good time to set a goal of being able to buy your own place.
Life is about change. The secret to success in life is how you deal with the changes you will encounter.
Just because the neighbors may move doesn't mean the relationship will end. It will just evolve into another phase.
Good luck with the future property you will Purchase if you plan for it. Shalom

huntergrl 06-21-2012 08:15 PM

Thankyou for the kind replys, you're definately right it is time for huge changes and deal with them. I was helping my mom so much and trying to balance my married life in my 20's. Now all I have is my horse with my spare time and it seems there is so much spare time without her. I am definately ready to commit to a professional career and get a fresh start now that I'm 30, it feels like its the first chance to get a second chance, if that makes sense.

FlyGap 06-22-2012 05:37 AM

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Ouch. Keep up the dreams and set some goals, you can do it!

In 04, sheesh that's a long time ago! I graduated college, had an AMAZING job, built a beautiful home on my own, was engaged and getting married in the fall of 05, and was conquering the world...
Then the company I worked for went bankrupt, got hit by a jerk and was almost sued for $50,000, found out my contractor had used my money on other properties and the lumber yard tried to put a HUGE lean on my house, AND I GOT PREGNANT with my Fiance, Fiance totaled his car (his fault), and all this went down in less than two months.

We regrouped, had a shotgun wedding, sold his house so we could survive, fought the legal battles and won minus attorneys fees, I worked as a cashier at his family's shop for $7 bucks an hour (couldn't exactly get a new big job preggers), and we made a plan...
Move out to the middle of nowhere, turn a well house into 1 room cabin and crash in it with a newborn baby, only have 1 truck, build a world renowned business for his family and throw parties for over 40,000 people a year. In a recession.

We did it! And we bought a farm!
It's taken us over 8 years of back breaking work, sleep? What is sleep? Debt, yeah, we have a little itty bitty bit, and most everything but the farm paid off. I think that's pretty good considering I'm just 32!

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING. Even if it sounds completely insane! All it takes is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and few years that FLY BY.

dbarabians 06-22-2012 07:49 AM

Believe in yourself and in your dreams.
That is the recipe for success.
It is going to take time and planning but doesn't everything?
Make goals, set a time line for each one, start taking action to make those goals a reality. Good luck. Shalom

huntergrl 06-22-2012 10:29 AM

FlyGap that is an inspiring story. I was thinking of all the people that I've heard of getting somewhere early in life and then falling flat on their face with job failures, divorces,etc.. So glad yall have gotten through it. I definately think things couldve been much worse for me. I'm sure the struggles aren't over, but that whole move out to the middle of nowhere (lower cost of living) is something we are definately considering as long as I get a career going then whatever happens happens and we got to make the best of it. Thanks for sharing

FlyGap 06-22-2012 06:18 PM

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You can do it!

We struggled so bad. Lived on less than $20,000 for over 5 years until I started expanding my freelance, I stayed home and worked for the business for free, didn't have internet or cable, used space heaters and didn't have AC, and for two years we barely had water. I had to haul buckets full up from the river to water the horses. There are a few years and bad months that I've completely blanked out! One year we had the entire thing riding on a fest and hurricane Ike blew us away! We made it through by the skin of our teeth.

I think working SO hard for our goals brought my hub and I closer together. It was him and I against the world. We were/are young, and so are you!
Just think, in 5 years you'll only be 35! A lot can happen in 5 years...

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