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JazzyGirl 07-06-2012 04:39 AM

Ever Felt...
Ever felt like your horse is too much for you?
Like you cant handle how much its going to take for you two to make it in to competition, or even out of the round pen?
You think that maybe you should sell your horse, like some others suggest, but you cant because you love your horse too much?
And the power to prove them all wrong, and that you can do it, you can make it with this horse is too demanding in your heart?

This is how I've felt. Im a 15 year old with her first horse, who happens to be a green broke 6 yr old paint. I know others think "She is too inexperienced, she should get a been-there-done-that horse"

Some times I think I should do it, hell I'd be better off right?

Sorry to you experienced horsemen/women out there. Ill be right there in the spot with you guys some day, my time to shine will come, with THIS horse,

With my first and only horse.

Anyone ever feel like me?

Skyseternalangel 07-06-2012 05:33 AM

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Yep! But we're slowly getting to a good place :)

It was rough rough rough at first though.

Susan Crumrine 07-06-2012 05:40 AM

I have been riding for over thirty years.
I won't do it. If I am uneasy or nervous, I am not having fun.
I am in horses for pleasure. Even though I show locally and ride on a drill team.
I want to enjoy myself., if I feel like I am in danger or even that the horse isn't with the program, its no fun to me.

Laineylou 07-06-2012 06:38 AM

I was that person plenty of times. I got my horse when I was 15 and she was six years old so I was in the same boat.
You'll overcome those hurdles as you build confidence. When I first got Dolly it was tough, I wasn't really sure how to take to her and she wasn't sure how to take to me.
I took it slow, mainly because I was just as happy off her back grooming her and letting her graze by the barn.
You'll figure each other out and it'll get better. c:

dbarabians 07-06-2012 08:10 AM

If anyone ever tells you that they are comfortable on every horse DO NOT believe them.
I have been riding for over 46 years and was given a very green broke 13 YO Arab gelding that was in a pasture for 8 years.
We are restarting him from scratch and sometimes I think he is too much for me.
I like a hot horse and have a few here that are very highstrung.
Get help.
Don't be afraid to ask and do not compare your abilities with someone who has years of experience.
All that will do is frustrate you.
Good luck and be patient. Shalom

AnalisaParalyzer 07-06-2012 08:24 AM

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I felt like this with my first lease horse. She was a fresh off the track ottb, and it was up to me to retrain her. She was ornery, and sure of herself and independent and it took me six months to get a good w/t/c. But with that experience, I've been able to train multiple other ottbs with no issues. Naughty horses teach us lots. If you really feel in danger, maybe selling would be the right decision. But if your set on making this work, Be patient and keep fighting :) stay dedicated to being a good team, make small goals you know you can accomplish and tell all the doubters to wait and see.
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DancingArabian 07-06-2012 09:18 AM

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Part of it is the pressure you're putting on yourself to reach your goals. Relax! You know you'll get there one day and that "one day" isn't tomorrow. What you do today affects the "one day", true, but in all ways, not just training. Frustration carries over and builds, leading to bad feelings. Just as to have your own internal goings on to deal with, so does the horse!

Youll get to where you want to be as long as you keep working on it. Just remember to have fun along the way!
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Remy410 07-06-2012 10:24 AM

Me, me, me!! I'm like this with my 5 year old. Especially when I see others the same age as my boy who are so much further ahead in their training. I get frustrated, decide I can't do it, decide he needs a better rider......then I go home and sleep on it and change my mind!

And as my trainer reminds me, we have all the time in the world. We'll make our goals eventually. So will you. Young horses take time and patience.

As long as it's a safe match, hang in there. And get help when you need it.

BarrelBunny 07-06-2012 10:53 AM

I have! I was 8 years old with a 4 year old mare that liked to buck. Guess what? I'm 16 and STILL have her. (She's not my main girl anymore, but she's still my go-to horse.) Now she's teaching my younger siblings how to ride. It was a rocky ride to make it to where we are today, but we made it! Definitely don't be afraid to ask for help and don't give up! You'll get there!

Iseul 07-06-2012 11:42 AM

I can't say I've ever felt that way..Since I started riding, I was put on the problem horses almost right away, occasionally riding my friend's "perfect pony". I was always told that as long as I was confident I could do it. I've been put in a few positions where I was told that I shouldn't take the horse somewhere because he got too excited and reared..I didn't listen, but when I came off (emergency dismount after I sat down behind the saddle and lost stirrups/reins), it didn't knock my confidence at all, even when BO told me "I told ya so". I knew personally that I could handle just about anything that horse could throw at me, and he never once got me off doing something naughty. While everyone else thought that horse was a waste of time, I put him on barrels, fixed his rearing issue (never reared again from what I've heard), and got him running 19-20s on a 17-18 second pattern at shows.
I know quite a few people talk about how I waste time on horses and how I shouldn't be riding half of them, let alone showing them. But I truthfully couldn't care less. I know that the horses I ride and train will be successful and competitive (or child-safe), and everyone who's said something about me wasting time or not being a good enough trainer will see what I can do at some point or another. I've seen the looks on a few of their faces after I've placed above them at shows and had a better behaved horse than them both in and out of the arena. It's a good feeling when you see them realise you proved them wrong, at least I think it is. I know my best friend (who owns the "perfect pony") tells them good things abou me whenever they say something, and all I have to do is keep doing what I'm doing; nothing more, nothing less.

If you can handle it, don't listen to anything people have bad to say about you or your horse. They'll eventually see, and you can feel 10x better about how far you've come when they realize they were wrong the whole time.
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