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couleehills 09-22-2012 11:02 AM

need help with too much bonding
Hi, new here and need some real help! I just purchased 2 wonderful tennessee walking mares. they are sweet quite and I'm hoping good trail riding horses. Only problem is the are 1/2 sisters 4 years ol and super bonded.. not a good thing.
One is so bolnded to to piont she will not even lead away from the other..
My ?is how to I brake the bond?? Can it be done with out selling one?? Would love to keep both..but I'm feeling right now I'll have to sell one. There is no way I could take one out of the pasture with out the other at this point.
HELP need advice on the safest way to do this.:?

AlexS 09-22-2012 11:13 AM

It really depends on your set up at home. A third horse would be helpful, so it's not just the two of them.
Also if you could pasture them separately, but so they can still see each other. If at all possible, I'd just increase the distance between them.

couleehills 09-22-2012 11:30 AM

I do have 3 other horses.. was thinking of putting one mare in a corral with my 26 year arab gedling.
They could still see and hear eachother

lilruffian 09-22-2012 11:33 AM

I agree with AlexS.
the only other option would to do alot of ground work with them, especially the worst one, and get them confident in you as a leader so that they will be willing & respectful enough to follow you anywhere and pay attention to you and not the other horses.
This will take time.
Selling one might not fix it unless you plan on only having the one horse as a horse who is herdbound like this will often latch onto the next horse that comes to live in its pasture and in some cases become worse than before.
Again, all they need is to feel confident, safe & comfortable in their environment and with their handler and it shouldnt matter where the other horse is.

BarrelWannabe 09-22-2012 11:33 AM

I also agree with AlexS.

You can slow "wean" them from each other by separating them for a few hours per day until they can be without each other for longer periods of time.

AlexS 09-22-2012 12:18 PM


Originally Posted by couleehills (Post 1692907)
I do have 3 other horses.. was thinking of putting one mare in a corral with my 26 year arab gedling.
They could still see and hear eachother

Yes do this. At first make sure they can still see each other. Once they stop screaming and freaking out, move them further apart.

As you have 3 other horses, rotate the horses they are with, so they don't repeat the pattern with whoever else they are pastured with.

Palomine 09-22-2012 05:40 PM

Also, the more you handle them, the quicker this may get better. You need to work with each of them as much as possible, making them listen to you, depend on you, and focus on you only.

couleehills 09-23-2012 03:43 PM

Well looks like my issue has been solved. Lori (good riding bud) came over to see the new mares. She just fell in love with the pinto.
So barowwed my track and trailer and taking her home to see of she works out for her.. I see it as a win win.. the mares will see each other from time to time as we ride togerther alot.. But will be apart most of the time. Loading her in the trailer went easier then we expected!! I'm gong over to pick up my trauck later today.
And see how everything went so far.
The other seems OK. Called a little and went off to the other horses!! My thinking is the other will bond up with Loris other horses too.

Deschutes 09-23-2012 09:08 PM

I think you kind of just evaded the issue, rather than actually solved it.
The problem was the horse being buddy sour. A horse who has his/her buddy away, will bond with othver horses, as stated prior. You will still get the same problem. And I will assume, the problem will probably arise again when the two are reunited.

Deschutes 09-23-2012 09:10 PM

Because for somereason I cannot edit my previous post...

Buddy sour horses can become annoying, if not dangerous. For instance: Saddlebred mare who's been alone in a pasture for some years, going to a heard of horses. She's become extremely bonded to another mare. Can't take her out without her attempting to kill herself, thrashing and kicking and rearing.

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