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nvr2many 10-10-2012 10:32 PM

Hope I didn't make a mistake!
Well, we are selling one of our geldings. So, at the same time I fell in love with a Mare. Told myself I would never own another mare and well, she came to live with us yesterday. She is bitchy, pushy and well, I am just a bit freaked out that maybe I made a bad decision. The up side is, we get to try her out for a few weeks before any payment has to be made. She is big and black. Supposed to be a Trakehner (sp?) but is heavy at the moment and looks a bit drafty to me. She stands 17.2 hh. Big girl. Went riding with my husband and him on my baby that I thought was big until I saw this girl and well, she was a bit too quick in the step for me (hope she settles down) and you could tell she was agitated at the fact that my boy was along. Mare tude! Anyway, I guess I just wanted to post to hopefully just get some support that 24hrs is too soon to tell, lol. Its like I know this but I am just worrying because I made such a stink to get her. Gah! I really feel if she would settle in I would be so in love. I just worry that it may not happen. Mares just freak me out, lol. Any advice??? Please no hating, lol.

Spotted 10-10-2012 10:36 PM

she is new, she needs some time to settle and get to know you and your gelding, she is going to be defensive, her wall is up. Give it some time.

waresbear 10-10-2012 10:40 PM

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Well, I have two geldings, but throughout the years, I have always had mares. Evil witches, all of them, BUT they don't cheat you like geldings do, they are honest. I am just too lazy to own a mare anymore. Some mares however, (doesn't sound like the one you got though) act just like geldings but I never have had the opportunity to own any like that.

fkcb1988 10-11-2012 12:22 AM

Give it some time. She could end up being a great horse. Let her settle in and get used to everyone.

I have never owned a mare and probably never will! :|

Jore 10-11-2012 05:54 AM

My mare is only 16hh, but she was also relatively pushy when I first got her. Just make sure to correct her and before too long, she'll likely learn some respect. I made sure to correct my mare whenever she tried nudging me (even though I didn't mind it) and now she behaves quite well for me.

Joe4d 10-11-2012 06:03 AM

I spent years doing the fear the mare thing. Now I own one and board one, granted 2 isnt a very big cross section but I am finding out they are just horses. Ive had geldings that were a royal pain.
Why is it if a gelding acts up its a training issue, but if a mare acts up its because she's a mare ?
But saying that looking at your horse trust your instincts, give her a few days and then decide.

OutOfTheLoop 10-11-2012 09:27 AM

I owned one mare ages ago, and she was a bitch, and as counterfiet as they come. I trained a mare recently, and hated her too. I bougt my daughter a pony mare, and made the decision to sell her as well, hope they come pick her up this weekend. Some people just dont get along with mares. Give her more time before you make a decision.
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nikelodeon79 10-11-2012 09:34 AM

My trainer recently put me up on a mare OTTB that she wanted me to try (I was horse shopping). I'm a bit leery about mares in general (I've only ever owned geldings). Went out to catch the mare, and she laced back her ears and turned her butt. Great first impression.

We did eventually get her caught and saddled. She was "in my space" all the way to the arena. I got on and rode... and she was an absolute DREAM. An ex-racer, not long off the track with very minimal non track training, and she was the most "honest" horse I ever rode.

On the way back from the barn, she was a lamb. I just needed to prove myself to her, and once I did, she respected me for it. Again... pure honesty.

In the end I decided not to buy her, but only because I own a herd of geldings and if I ever end up moving my new horse there, a single mare might cause a lot of issues.

So, hang in there, prove to this mare that you're worthy of her trust/affection/respect, and enjoy the ride!

mls 10-11-2012 10:56 AM

We own 8 mares, two geldings. Only two boarded geldings here out of 30 horses. Mares can't be all that bad.

Mares are honest and demand respect. Good work ethic.

nvr2many 10-29-2012 05:26 PM

Well, you all were right! She is a sweetheart! But dang she is big, lol. She is already my love! Our other gelding went to his new home around the 15th so that has helped. Cannot wait to get shoes on her so I can ride more. Took her out last week and she was suffering on the roads, poor girl. So, my farrier has to get BIG shoes for her and we will be on the road again. This is her in my profile picture.........<<<<<<<<<<<~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

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