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Advice on what to do?
I'm a beginner you could say. I rode when I was younger but that's been many years ago and my confidence is long gone. I feel like I need to learn to ride again at least for balance and hope to take lessons in the spring.
Now to my situation. We have 3 mares, one is Jazz who's stubborn but otherwise easy going. The two I'm not sure about are Grace and Sugar. Grace is the paint walker who's 6 years old, 14.3-15 hands and she isn't really spooky but nervous is the best way to describe her I guess. Needs miles for sure. When we took her out with the other two she wasn't sure about the signs on the street or things she'd never seen before. I just don't want to get hurt and her being nervous makes me nervous.
Second is Sugar. She's 3 and been trail rode all over. She's buddy sour though and won't go out alone and I can't always ride with someone else.
My first thought was to sell both and buy a dead broke horse. That's what I want a horse I can keep for years and years and take trail riding and ride around our place. Jazz is good for that, just wish we had a second that I felt confident to do the same. I need to build confidence and Jazz is the main one I ride right now for that.
I'd love some opinions on what to do. Should I keep one and send it to a trainer or should I keep riding as much as I can with Grace and take her out to expose her to more and more things or try to work on the buddy sour problem with Sugar? I am just lost. I never dreamed searching for my horse would be so difficult. I don't like horse shopping, its so hard to find a good person to buy from. People can be so deceitful.
Help :-) Thanks in advance.
Hope you find a solution with your horses
I would suggest taking lessons on someone's school master. An easy and safe way to rebuild confidence first. Then when you feel confident enough, start working with your horses. Or, you could even have a coach come to you to help you and your horses.
There are many solutions that would solve your problem, but I don't think you're looking for spending a lot of $. I wonder why, if you cannot ride all of your horses, you have 3? Did I read that right--you own 3?!? horses, or two.
Unless you have a knowledgeable trusted and experience horsey friend to guide you, NO amount of money will buy you a dead broke horse (that you find advertised.) Although, in this market, you might have the best chance in our lifetimes. I could recommend some people here who have some good horses for sale.
I suggest that you sell Grace. She is too old to be so spooky, and you are too green, and she'll hurt you.
Keep Sugar, the 3yo, and ground train all winter. Your problem is a respect issue. None of your horses sees you as the leader. The 3yo could be trained to listen to just you and cured of the "herd sour"--it's not "buddy sour"--when the other horses are removed. Get a trainer who will also train YOU, and make yourself a solid mount. THEN, next Spring--when the horse market will still be crappy--you can horse shop for a 2nd horse.
Lessons for sure are a good idea. Always. I've been riding non-stop since I was 2 years old (I am now 26) and while I never had lessons growing up (we just rode!) I have been taking lessons here and there the last few years. It's amazing what a second pair of eyes can point out and what a more experienced and specialized person can teach you. The day you think a trainer can't help you or can't teach you, is the day you should never be allowed around horses again.
On top of the lessons, I think it would be a wise decision to purchase an older, been-there-done-that horse. You didn't say how old Jazz is, but the other two at 6 yrs old and especially the 3 yr old, they are green horses. While in rarity they can be, young green horses are NOT confidence builders. I would look for a horse that is at least 8 years old (minimum). And if you aren't confident to buy one on your own (I agree ... some people will say anything to make a sale), you can take your trainer with you (remembeR? That one your going to take lessons with?) to help you pick out a horse. Or they may know of one that would suit you.
Either way, I think both lessons and getting an older bombproof horse will be the best thing to build your confidence and get back in the horse world.
is there a way you can find a trainer who is willing to teach you and your horse at the same time?
my current trainer works with me and my horses. every saturday i take 3 of my horses to his facility where i do 2 riding lessons, one on 2 horses and the third he is teaching me how to further my ground work skills. within one lesson we will cover my body positioning and my faults and he will explain what i am doing wrong or doing well that is helping my horse. and in return he helps me further train my horses to be "finished" but essentially allows me to do the riding aspect of training. i know its different per area but my trainer charges 50 an hour per session with each one of my horses. we work over the hour and he doesnt charge extra just requires me to work it off by working one of his horses or doing manual labor :)
i think if you could find someone like that it would be your best bet. you know how to ride, your horses know the basic, a trainer/instructor who can help you and your horse progress together will also help you figure your mares out better and will give you the confidence to know what to look for and what goals to have.
as for goals. i would concentrate on small goals :) thats just the person i am, i hate setting myself or my horses up to fail. take your time and don't rush it. each small lesson/burden you face just adds more experience to your plate and makes you a better horseperson :)
Grace hasn't done anything to make me feel as in danger as Sugar has. Sugar nearly dumped my husband when I was leading her away from the herd. Grace has never done anything like that. I just don't feel remotely confident on any of those two.
Jazz is 8. I looked at a gelding this weekend, someone who was interested in trading for both Grace and Sugar and he was 13. He had some issues of his own but would have been a good swap in my opinion. He's definitely been around the block enough and was much safer.
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