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MapleAir 10-22-2012 06:41 PM

I'm sure I'm not the only one... What do you say?
Hey everyone,

I was in a situation the other day that still makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up.

I'm a 4-H leader, end 20's and have been riding for 20+ years. I'm always trying to set a good example for the kids at 4-H (wearing a helmet, showing them extra stuff, showing off good horsemanship etc) and we were discussing different types of saddles the other day.

I have a few new kids in my group which I think is great because naturally, the ones who have been in 4-H longer help them out and everyone advances together. Anyway, here I am, showing them my English and Western saddles of different makes and styles and discussing the differences, what they do while riding etc. One of my older kids recognized my brand new English saddle and pointed out that this was the saddle we used when I led them around on my own horse. One of the present mothers squeeles (not in delight) "You don't seriously ride, do you?" Me (in that moment just a bit baffled): "Of course I do. Why do you think I'm a 4-H leader and have 3 different saddles?" With a disgusted look, the mother snorts: "Well, being a leader, I thought you'd have more common sense than to park that huge arse of yours on a helpless horse." Only for the sake of the kids could I manage to stay calm and not hurt anyone.

For real? Talk like that in front of a group of 8-12 year olds? Your won 2 kids amongst them? To someone who donates their time to educate your kids?

I'm sure others have experienced comments like that as well. What do you say in a situation like that?

waresbear 10-22-2012 06:50 PM

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Ok I am not a plus sized rider, but if I heard someone make a comment like that about somebody else, I would've sucker punched them right in the yap. That's rude!

BarrelracingArabian 10-22-2012 06:55 PM

I am not a plud sized rider either however that is not ok for anybody to ever say, especially in front of inpressionable kids and to the lady teaching them! i give you props for keeping your cool as i would not of had that kind of self control.
However if I were you I'd explain that you did not appreciate her rude comment and to please keep them to herself. If she has a problem she can take her kids elsewhere.
People like that get under my skin.
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themacpack 10-22-2012 06:56 PM

I am so sorry - what a rude woman (nicest term I can come up with at the moment).

franknbeans 10-22-2012 06:59 PM

Wow. Just wow. Let me guess.....blonde, dressed to the nines, even in the barn, fake boobs and says the horsey hurt his arm? I know the B!$ch. lol. Seriously. Around here-you would be a breath of fresh air.......our 4-h leader has called a mom friend of mine a *****! In front of the kids! I just cannot believe some folks.

Prinella 10-22-2012 07:00 PM

I would have been pulling her aside after ( or have someone else doing it) and point out that is NOT ON. It sets a bad example for her children as well as others and its just plain
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Dreamcatcher Arabians 10-22-2012 07:06 PM

I'd have had her by the arm dragging her to the side so fast her head would have spun. I'd have also been calling the 4H director above me to witness the tail chewing I'd have given her and I've have told her to take her 2 children home because I would no longer be working with them, BECAUSE OF HER RUDE BEHAVIOUR.

And then I would have gone back to the group and explained that the 2 kids had done nothing wrong but that their ill mannered parent had gotten them tossed.

littrella 10-22-2012 07:21 PM

Bless you heart for staying calm. I'd woulda beat the witch

FlyGap 10-22-2012 07:27 PM

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You did great! Don't let that ungrateful hussy ruin your day!

I would have said:
Ok kids new lesson plan... SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST!
and then beat her within an inch of her life!!!

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QOS 10-22-2012 07:45 PM

Wow...sham wow at that. :evil: What an idiot...and what a horrible example for children.

I do believe I would have gave her my very best Aunt Rita FROZEN expression where my eye brow is hovering about 3" over my head, my lips are a straight line and when I speak the voice is so soft people have to lean over to hear me.

My kids know when I stop screaming or hollering and speak softly they had better drop their ass and RUN.

I do believe I would have said "and I would have believed you would have had more common sense than to be rude to the 4-H leader that was here to teach your children."

And then I would have froze her out like a ice storm for the moment - then had her and her children removed to another group. Sorry, I don't do rude and that was just flat out mean, ugly and uncalled for. I was in 4-H as a kid and loved it. Thank God for people who gave their time to teach and mentor children.

I am so sorry that this ungracious heifer was rude to you. I am indignant on your behalf.

So what happened after that? Inquiring minds would like to know.

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