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redhorse86 11-18-2012 04:30 PM

My friend keeps making rude comments about my weight.
Ever since my friend lost 40 lbs she has become rude and obnoxious. I lease one of her horses and she basically said to my face that I'm to fat to ride her horse. She has actually asked me what I weigh and that she has the right to discuss my weight because I ride her horse. So I joined her gym with her and all she does is harass me about my diet and she calls me lazy. And she had the nerve to tell my trainer at the gym that my husband is a piece of work and that he is intentionally sabotaging me losing weight. So I stay fat because if I'm not fat anymore he would lose me. Then one day I was talking about taking lessons and she said her trainer would tell me I was to big to ride her horse. Now I know I freaking need to lose weight. I'm not stupid I am 5"3 and weigh over 200lbs I ride her 15 hand Morgan who has a narrow build. She is always throwing that **** 20% of the horses body weight in my face. It is getting to the point that I don't even want to ride anymore. I am seriously considering ending the lease because I am sick of all her crap.

tinyliny 11-18-2012 04:44 PM

End the lease. Yesterday!

gypsygirl 11-18-2012 04:52 PM

wow she doesnt sound like a friend at all, i would get out of there !

Tianimalz 11-18-2012 04:54 PM

Ever try just talking to her? Looking past your side and your obvious hurt feelings, she almost sounds like she is in fact just concerned for you and her horse (not saying she isn't rude.). Could be wrong, I don't know either of ya, just throwing that out there.

Speed Racer 11-18-2012 06:43 PM

You consider this person a friend, why?

If anyone spoke to me that way they wouldn't have to worry about me riding their horse, because they'd find their lease terminated.

Cacowgirl 11-18-2012 07:14 PM

Yep, time to terminate, then I'd show up a few months later-Thinner! Really-there are so many issues when it comes to losing weight-I'm short, too, & put on 10 pounds last June-I barely eat, & have just now lost maybe 3 pounds-it's soooo difficult!

themacpack 11-18-2012 07:17 PM

We must have a different definition of the word "friend", because I certainly wouldn't consider someone who treated me in that fashion to be fitting of the title. End the lease.....and the "friendship"

waresbear 11-18-2012 07:18 PM

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End the lease, don't encourage rude people.

DancingArabian 11-18-2012 07:38 PM

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End the lease and the friendship. She's toxic.

Lockwood 11-18-2012 08:52 PM

I agree with the others. She is not a good friend at all and has no business being so rude.

If you are the type to say something, you could remind her that you are not deaf and heard her the first time she "commented" on your weigh.
And, if 200-ish pounds was sooo terribly heavy for a horse, then I guess most men should never ever ride a horse. At least not any manly ones.
I mean gosh, many "in shape" men weigh upwards of 200, then you add tack and all.... oh my, those poor poor normal sized horses they ride!
And just how in the heck did man ever conquer the west? I guess they all walked and lead their horse against the hostiles, or there were no such things as The Pony Express?
And horses have elvolved to only be able to carry little skinny girls who have no butts and use synthetic featherlight saddles... and... I think you get the picture. :wink:

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