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wetrain17 02-05-2013 12:12 PM

New Boarders, Rant
I'm spoiled, I admit it. I'm presently the only boarder where I keep my horse. As a boarder, I'm also easy going. I've been a BM in the past for many years and get what they go through. I help feed, turn out, do stalls, clean up, whatever I can when I'm there, just to make things a little easier on them (family owned and operated barn).

I got a text that 2 new boarders will be moving in mid February. Now I'll put my big girl panties on and be nice, welcoming, helpful. Not the issue. But like I said, I'm spoiled. I know the drama that comes with new, unknown boarders. I haven't locked anything up in a while; in fact, I have a rubbermate container as a trunk. I do have everything labeled with my name or initials. However, we all know the risks with new comers, you NEVER know what you're going to get.

The place I board is very relaxed. Almost everything is shared, but again its just between the family and me. Its give and take on both sides. But, not having to deal with boarders, as a boarder, in a long time, how do I react to the newcomers? Do I offer the same as I do the family (owners). I just dont want to be taken advantage of or have my stuff end up missing. I'm sure I already know the answer. I'll have a talk with the BO and explain to them they are still welcome to use my things if need be and them only. I just wanted to know other opinions.

Speed Racer 02-05-2013 12:15 PM

I don't let other people use my stuff. It wasn't paid for by anyone else but me, so why should other people think it's community property.

You're not required to share.

Skyseternalangel 02-05-2013 12:15 PM

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I think you're kind of making this more of a deal than it should be. New boarders can be fun, not drama. It all depends on how you lot get on. If you aren't welcoming and being awkward, then I suspect it won't be a very nice addition. If you are welcoming and warm, it should turn out to be pretty good.

Best of luck. Keep track of your stuff. You shouldn't share because everything there is easily obtained. If you were in a different country or out where there aren't any feed stores, then perhaps.

With Grace 02-05-2013 12:23 PM

Give it a chance...the new boarders could end up being great people to ride with. Also, remember what it's like to be the newbie. It's scary to move a horse to a new barn, not knowing what the other boarders are like, or if your horse will get the care you hope for. Welcome them in and hopefully it will make your barn even better for you.

Cacowgirl 02-05-2013 12:32 PM

I hope it turns out to be a positive for you. Keep everything labeled-suggest to them they do the same. Is this 2 new horses-1 family/person or 2 horses 2 seperate people? Also-the horses will have adjustments to make.

LadyDreamer 02-05-2013 12:36 PM

Be nice. Take the approach of liking them until you get to know them, and not the typical opposite. Get your stuff in a designated tote in a designated place. Label it, and if you are really nervous, write a checklist of everything in the tote/area and keep it in the bottom of the tote. Talk to the barn owner a out getting a dry erase board for the barn.
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Copperhead 02-05-2013 12:57 PM

I never leave my tack at the barn. Matter of fact the two things I did accidently leave were a set of polo wraps and a horse blanket. It took me 3 years to get my polo wraps back and my blanket is currently being used for a PASTURE HORSE. I contacted the BO immediately and asked her to take it off, as its mine and I don't want it torn or loaned out. My facility has a locked tack room but that won't stop the frustration. The person who took my blanket and used it for her horse would share the tackroom with me. So long story short, I bring everything I need with me to the barn and when I'm done, I bring everything home.

You need to be polite but keep your things safe. Either take your things home with you or get a lock for your tack trunk. If you still want to share with the BO, give them a key and tell them that the tack is for you and them, not the new comers.

Don't leave anything accessable to someone you don't know or trust.

wetrain17 02-05-2013 01:03 PM

I plan on being nice and welcoming. I'm not a mean spirited person and I'm hoping it all works out. However, if I run out and buy locks for everything between now and mid Feb, it would clearly send a message to the newcomers. Again, dont want drama, including my stuff being taken. I guess I'll just wait and see how it goes. As stated I have everything labeled. But I guess I'll go through everything and take pictures, just in case. I do like to prepare.

LadyDreamer 02-05-2013 01:11 PM

It won't send a message if the locks are already there. If you get everything done now before they get there, the new boarders will accept that that is the way it is.
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wetrain17 02-05-2013 01:16 PM


Originally Posted by Skyseternalangel (Post 1879233)
I think you're kind of making this more of a deal than it should be.

Well, I am a woman :wink:

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