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Critter sitter 03-22-2013 12:10 PM

Major delima and upset and my Perfect barm :(
 
I have been Stressing out all week !!!My BM is leaving and I am scared am the horses Future at our current barn. I think I may have to go too.:cry: I don't want her to go and I don't want to go. I may have total dislike of the Owners But I love the barn and Most of the boarders. I had such a sweet deal with the current BM I pay $110 per horse instead of $270. In turn my daughter and I help out and do chores and feed when needed. I have 3 options that I see.

#1 Stay and pay full board.
I really don't have the $$ right now for this and also the owners are a$$es although live out of state and just come to visit and boss around every so often.

#2 leave and go to new barn that is further away from home but could be less $$. Here is the link to that place I still need to go look tonight or tomorrow
http://riverviewarena.com/index-5.html

#3 Offer to become the new BM and have to deal with the owners and there non Horsey stupidity. And control freak ways. If I did that I would either get the same deal on board or get my board free, plus make money off the other boarders.

What would Ya'll do?

UUUUG I am sick to me stomach over this.. My poor horses I worry most about them..

What to do what to do? :((

barrelbeginner 03-22-2013 12:21 PM

OH MY GOSH! my jaw dropped when I saw that possible boarding place:( I want!!! Sorry I can offer no ideas...:) Hope you figure something !

Critter sitter 03-22-2013 12:38 PM

It is a nice Place yes But farther away and well Not where I am now :(

Ozzys mum 03-22-2013 12:40 PM

Well maybe because I'm not emotionally involved (and had a hard two weeks at work) I think its kinda obvious - your going to have to move.

The reason I say its obvious is you have no regard or respect for the barn owners, and even if they are oblivious to horse needs and are micro managers - they still are the ones that coughed up the money to pay for the property.

Twice in your post your description of them was less then positive. So that means you won't trust them to make the right decisions for your horses and you will have to pay more for that lack of trust with option #1. I suspect if you choose this option you will be on this forum often complaining about your circumstance.

Option 3 is kinda silly if one of your main problems is the owners - So now you are going to be the mediator between other boarders and the owners. And again I point out - they OWN the property. So even as the BM your powers are limited, but by being the BM - its your responsibility to enforce rules and policies that you may not believe in. So now your not the BO friend, and your "friends" at the barn now see you as something other then just one of their friends and fellow boarders. Your in essense the barn cop.

The only way this would work for all involved is you and the owners can work well together, or you can put aside your dislike for the owners - come at this from an honest open perspective, sit down and are able to truly mediate and explain to owners why it is to their benefit that let you run with their property. And by benefit - I truly mean that, they don't care if its you or joe blow that is boarding there. So you need to have the ability to show them you can
1. Save them costs - whether it be in upping board, decreasing power bills, etc..
2. Increase their property value - with no cost to them - by creating a reputation that THIS is the barn that people want to come to and have a wait list.
3. Eliminate all headaches for them - so they don't have to do anything, but nor do they have to worry about anything. So if they come by to inspect the place and see fences chewed down, piles of crap everywhere, damages or potential liable risks - thats not eliminating the headache.

And my final question - why did the current BM leave - if it was because of the owners - what do you believe you bring to the table different then your liked BM.

Wish you luck in your decision - I know moving barns is never a fun or exciting thing, but sometimes change is good :-)

Critter sitter 03-22-2013 12:46 PM

my barn now

http://i1245.photobucket.com/albums/...1/650a645b.jpg

http://i1245.photobucket.com/albums/...1/dce23281.jpg

http://i1245.photobucket.com/albums/...1/33b0a4e7.jpg

http://i1245.photobucket.com/albums/...1/1f07539e.jpg

Critter sitter 03-22-2013 01:08 PM

Ozzys mum;1990977]Well maybe because I'm not emotionally involved (and had a hard two weeks at work) I think its kinda obvious - your going to have to move.

The reason I say its obvious is you have no regard or respect for the barn owners, and even if they are oblivious to horse needs and are micro managers - they still are the ones that coughed up the money to pay for the property.

Twice in your post your description of them was less then positive. So that means you won't trust them to make the right decisions for your horses and you will have to pay more for that lack of trust with option #1. I suspect if you choose this option you will be on this forum often complaining about your circumstance. I am not one to come and complain so this would not be happening.
Yes I don't really care for them But I do respect them. And them being off site most of the time is a plus

Option 3 is kinda silly if one of your main problems is the owners - So now you are going to be the mediator between other boarders and the owners. And again I point out - they OWN the property. So even as the BM your powers are limited, but by being the BM - its your responsibility to enforce rules and policies that you may not believe in. So now your not the BO friend, and your "friends" at the barn now see you as something other then just one of their friends and fellow boarders. Your in essense the barn cop. Again I would only be dealing with the owners in email mostly I have pretty much been assistant BM for the last 8 months.


I do agree with this next bit.
The only way this would work for all involved is you and the owners can work well together, or you can put aside your dislike for the owners - come at this from an honest open perspective, sit down and are able to truly mediate and explain to owners why it is to their benefit that let you run with their property. And by benefit - I truly mean that, they don't care if its you or joe blow that is boarding there. So you need to have the ability to show them you can
1. Save them costs - whether it be in upping board, decreasing power bills, etc..
2. Increase their property value - with no cost to them - by creating a reputation that THIS is the barn that people want to come to and have a wait list.
3. Eliminate all headaches for them - so they don't have to do anything, but nor do they have to worry about anything. So if they come by to inspect the place and see fences chewed down, piles of crap everywhere, damages or potential liable risks - thats not eliminating the headache.

And my final question - why did the current BM leave - if it was because of the owners - what do you believe you bring to the table different then your liked BM. The main reason she is going is that she is moving with her BF who lives 45 min away. He has property and can house her horses. She wanted to stay on as BM but 45 min one way Is Alot of extra miles.


Yes we have issues with the BO's But who doesn't have issues with a Boss? unless your your own boss.

Wish you luck in your decision - I know moving barns is never a fun or exciting thing, but sometimes change is good :-)

mls 03-22-2013 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Critter sitter (Post 1990625)
I may have total dislike of the Owners

I had such a sweet deal

I really don't have the $$ right now for this and also the owners are a$$es although live out of state and just come to visit and boss around every so often.

Offer to become the new BM and have to deal with the owners and there non Horsey stupidity. And control freak ways. If I did that I would either get the same deal on board or get my board free, plus make money off the other boarders.

What would Ya'll do?

I'm not sure if you realize but you sound very negative and very 'me'.

Critter sitter 03-22-2013 01:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mls (Post 1991569)
I'm not sure if you realize but you sound very negative and very 'me'.

well I am worried about my horses so not all "me" MLS How else should I be this is about me and my Animal I have to make sure my Animals are happy and healthy.
but yes I am negative cause "we" have done so much for the barn as a whole

I am prob one of the most Positive Happy Helping anyone people I know. But when it comes to my dogs kid hubby or horses I get Really worried and yes some time negative.

nvr2many 03-22-2013 01:49 PM

I have issues with my boss a lot! And I am my own boss, :lol:

Critter sitter 03-22-2013 01:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nvr2many (Post 1991937)
I have issues with my boss a lot! And I am my own boss, :lol:

Me too!! :lol:


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