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Missy May 03-23-2013 12:55 AM

Can you leave your animals?
I have always had a difficult time leaving my animals with anyone (other than family/relatives) when I went out of town. After a few bad experiences, I just can't bring myself to leave them in another's (non family/relative) care, at all. Obviously, any individual with this "problem" will eventually not be able to attend an out of town family event that they dearly want to attend - not to mention disappoint others..or making them think event "x" isn't "important" enough - when nothing could be farther from the truth.

I am wondering if there are others "out there" w this same "difficulty"? I guess I am wondering b/c I am hoping it isn't terribly uncommon.

soenjer55 03-23-2013 01:06 AM

I am a nervous wreck when I'm away from my animals. Partly because I'm a control freak who only feels at ease when 100% in charge, and partly because they're the only things I'm attached to- I have a really hard time attaching to people, even family.
I usually don't see my animals for about a week, because my mom just got out of nursing school and is working a difficult schedule, so I stay at my dad's house (17 years old, and no car... sad, aren't I, haha.). I cope, but it still stresses me out. Recently I went for two whole weeks without seeing them, and I was just pathetic. I had a knot in my stomach, I couldn't concentrate on anything, I was constantly thinking about whether my animals were okay...
I don't even fully trust my family members to take care of them, but that's due to some issues with them that I have. Overall, I don't fully trust anyone to take care of them and unless I'm absolutely forced, I won't ask anyone to for that exact reason.

MAG1723 03-23-2013 01:16 AM

I love my animals to death but I always love a vacation, but after a few days I start to worry and I am always in contact with the people taking care of them. But I think me and my animals could both use a break every once in a while

SouthernTrails 03-23-2013 06:44 AM


I have only left my Horses in the care of another Horse Person.

Even a family member that does not know Horses is a disaster, imo


Joe4d 03-23-2013 09:49 AM

Im an engineer, food water online cameras, my place is automated.

roseann 03-23-2013 10:29 AM

I have neve had issues with my horses while on vacation. Once though my dog whom is one of those one person only dogs got away from my mother while we were on vacation and they had a lot of trouble catching her. I had gone off on my own for the day and my dog.was looking for me.
However I have four large perfectly balanced and maintained aquariums and it never fails when I leave for a vacation I come back to a nasty mess. I have also had my sisters children do some pretty mean things the fish and that doesnt bode well for thier attitude towards other animals.
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Missy May 03-23-2013 10:34 AM


Originally Posted by SouthernTrailsGA (Post 2000738)

I have only left my Horses in the care of another Horse Person.

Even a family member that does not know Horses is a disaster, imo


Good point, I meant "horsey" family. :-) The bad experiences I have had were w reputable and pricey care. When we had large pastures, I didn't worry so much in summer months when it doesn't require much...and nothing ever happened.

Even automated w cameras, Joe...which is pretty nifty, ya can't get there in 5 minutes from out of state - but I think I could do that in conjunction w a non-horsey family member on watch. But, then there is the dog...

Blue Smoke 03-23-2013 12:03 PM

I have even had problems leaving them with some family memebers. I actually recently had a bad experience with leaving my gelding with a "knowledgeable" horsey family memeber while I was pregnant and on bedrest and was unable to care for him for the whole 9 months plus csection recovery. I paid board and paid for feed, and added plenty for regular farrier visits and deworming. However, after I had my baby, I went to go get him to find he didn't have ANY farrier care the entire time, and instead of feeding him how I wanted, he bought and fed straight oats to my gelding who is suspected IR, so I feed him as IR. I was not happy... Still fixing the damage done to his hooves during that time, and I suspect he had multiple instances of laminitis and/or foundered during that time. Never again. I have a select few people I really trust to care for my animals if I'm away, and they are perfectly fine with doing things exactly how I want them to. Of course, I have feed portioned out into individual baggies labelled with names and times so there is minimal chance of error, and they come to my house to do chores as I have dogs too.

doubleopi 03-23-2013 01:38 PM

I do, because I have to...but I did leave my older cat (she was 13) in the care of a pet sitter....and she died suddenly and mysteriously while I was gone. Then, I left the kitten and puppy with my husband who left them with a friend for a day and they lost the puppy...for two days.:shock: I was a wreck. My horse is always in somebody else's care right now. I have contemplated sending her to a different trainer or moving her to a different barn, but the one's she's with now I know and I don't really know all that many others.

But I always worry and fret before and during the time I'm gone. I make lists and leave cash and instructions and extra supplies...sigh.

Missy May 03-23-2013 04:17 PM

From the sad stories above - see, fears are well founded! I have had 2 experiences that I won't go into b/c to this day they both upset me beyond words. None died, but I couldn't stop thinking about/imagining how they were treated and the fact I had left them w the individuals - well paid individuals, I might add. Thankfully, I have never had a problem w horsey family/relatives, in some cases I knew the care was as good or beyond my own - which is such a good feeling and forever appreciated. But if I can't "know if for absolute fact" they will be treated and cared for well, I just can't leave them for love or money, no.

I have cared for other's horses. I can't imagine not caring for them well, even better than expected. Honestly, people these days.

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