Thinking about moving...long.
This is the first horse ive ever had to board, so I've never dealt with barn drama.
My barn is small, about 6 horses.
Everyone is very nice.. Including the barn owner.
Here lies my problem:
I have befriended a younger girl. She is great, and helps me so much with training. The other boarders are not there very often so I only see them on rare occasions. About a week ago I was warned about the younger girl by one of the woman there.
I didn't think much of it at first.. Because she is so nice to me.
Well.. I want to push the point that I haven't seen any bad behavior by the young girl at all, except that she doesn't pick up her brushes and ropes and leaves them all over the tables at the barn
Okay so now to the weirder stuff..
I was at the barn last night because my horse has an injury. It's nothing, just a scrape, but there was a lot of blood...it wasn't the barn owner who called it was the girl who texted me the picture of it, she had gone home before I got to the barn. Anyway, when I was there the barn owners husband told me my horse had escaped a couple night earlier. It felt like he was blaming me for leaving a gate open...which I'd didn't, my husband was with me and he watched me lock the gate. He kept complaining how my horse left hoof prints on his lawn...
Next issue, there are 4 pastures on the property. I was told my horse would have a pasture to run in when I was inquiring about the spot. The other day me and girl let our horses out to run in the pasture, after about 10 minutes b.o. Came out and was pissy about the horses in the pasture. She told me: we'll if you want to let him run go put him on the 40acres of woods but don't expect me to catch or feed him." I was confused because I specifically chose that stable because I was told we could use the pasture, not the woods....
I am starting to feel like being friends with her is making the barn owners not like me...
Last issue: someone is doing mischievous things..
Who let my horse out? Why wasn't I told about it until days later? Why wasn't I notified by the barn owner when my horse got hurt? Someone cut off the girls horses tail and mane. And someone broke into the tack room, they didn't take anything but the door was left open one morning, then I was told an ex boarder who is now a heroine addict, prostitue broke in once before!!!
When my husband found out he is pissed at the girl, he thinks she was messing with my horse and that's how he got hurt. I don't think she would do that... But what if.
I feel like maybe I should just move barns... I'm kind of irritated that I wasn't notified that my horse got hurt and he mysteriously got out of a locked gate. It was a lock that a horse cannot open, you need thumbs.
Move.....tooooo much barn drama......I moved out of my old barn, not because of drama, I tended to stay on the outer circle of it and was a straight shooter with everyone.....:but I did see the drama, from an OCD owner who constantly thought her horse was dying, to farrier drama, people taking hay, people leaving nasty messes....the list went on.....and I do know that one person there was 'sneaky'.....she was removed.
The new barn I'm at has been a blessing, I moved because its closer to where I live and they have lots of turn out.......I'm pretty much the only boarder, the rest of the horses are there being trained by the BO who is a no nonsense, straight shooting equine professional who is a tremendous help and resource to me and offers assistance to me when I'm riding, free of charge. The best thing about my new place is, IM ON MY OWN 95% of the time because I ride as soon as the sun comes up, I have two arenas all to myself and because I've gotten away from the distraction that drama can be - my riding has improved immensely.....just me, my horse, great BO and the cows! I'm still good friends with my last BO, but I just couldn't be driving so much....
I'd start looking for a different barn.......even a private owner/trainer who has an opening just for one or two people.......
I'm boarding for the first time too with my first horse. There is barn drama and then there is Barn Drama. I would move if I were you, way too much weird stuff going on, and not being notified by the barn owner that your horse was hurt is not good. I frankly would be worried about my horse in that barn. I don't know if it has anything to do with the young girl and frankly it doesn't matter at this point. Once you had the thought that someone may be hurting your horse there, you have your answer, move and be safe, why take chances. You'll just worry all the time you're not there. Good luck and I hope you find a great place.
I agree I would move.
I might be moving to another state soon so if that falls through I'm probably going to be looking for a new one.. All other things aside I don't like that I wasn't informed about my horses injury no matter how insignificant it may be, and that I wasn't told he was loose.
There was blood all down his fetlock.. It was a very minor cut, but it looked pretty bad when I got there. If it wasn't for the girl I wouldn't have even known to go wash it out cause I was off work very late that day!
Ya my trainer lets me know everything and is taking a vet tech class so even if I can't get to him I know she will know what to do till we can get a vet or I can get out there.Also her 2 boys are always on it when they see something wrong with the animals. It would worry me that you weren't notified of the events as even if it is a minor cut what if it wasn't?
Right now he has a stall and a turnout which I liked but I would rather have some peace of mind.
Lets all just hope hubby gets a new job and we get to move. Then I will have him at home. :p
If there is animosity and you feel uncomfortable there, you should move. Especially if the barn owner is flaking out on you. Do you have it in writing that you are allowed to put your horse on the pasture? If not, well... there is nothing you can do but be mad that the barn owner is talking out of both sides of her face. If you can't move right away, I would have a conversation both with the barn owner about your original agreement about the pasture, and with this girl about where the boundaries lie. If you have no proof that she was messing with your horse, perhaps you could figure out a way to ask her without being presumptuous?
My horse recently got one of his hind legs all scratched up, from the coronet to the hock, all the way around. It's almost like he was wrapped up in something, or got attacked by an animal, but there is no other evidence anywhere. My BO said he probably just clipped himself rolling over in the stall, or maybe he hurt himself playing with the other horses. It just seems like a lot of scratches for an accidental injury. But! Horses are horses. They can hurt themselves in the weirdest ways. Maybe your horse's injury was just an accident, maybe it was provoked. Unfortunately, you might never know.
Regardless, I'd still move. If things are already going sour, they might just get worse. Just remember, most barns will have their share of drama and oddities. No boarder can ever expect things to be perfect at their facility. You have to weigh the pros and cons and know when to speak up and when to bite your tongue. In my opinion, the safety of my horse and the quality of care outweigh a messy barn or slightly irritating people.
Where are you moving to?
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