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When I go to ride my Appaloosa mare I chicken out and end up not riding. When I do actually get on I end up getting lead around because Im so scared of her galloping off at a buck. I have had her for 3 weeks and have ridden her a handful of times no problem. The first time I rode her she put her head down to buck alot and kicked out, but that was her 3rd ride that day so we took it she was tired. She hasnt done that when I did ride her for those 10 minutes but Im still scared she will.
So what do you think I should do to get my confidence back up again?
:-( Its really tough when your confidence in knocked, I've been there and its not any fun at all. I really feel for you. Did you have her vetted when you purchased her?
I'd suggest getting her tack, back and teeth looked at, just to rule out any pain issues. If all of that is good, then possibly a trainer/instructor, to help you both work together and get you back your confidence.
Do you ride out alone? Maybe she's napping....
I have to agree!
I too feel for you! Confidence lacking is a bummer! You may have to use a trusted mare or gelding to bring your confidence back into play until you get the problem resolved with your mare.
As said above, definately get those things checked! Make sure once your vet and teeth issues are checked and good, check into that tack! If everything checks out alright, time to look at the behavior!
Never fails to amaze me how people will take a horse in and expect them to be perfect without allowing the horse time to adjust to the new surroundings, new people, new methods, etc. etc.... Of course, I'm assuming that this horse was moved when you bought her. I'm assuming that far more than a new owner changed in her life.
That said, why don't you just tack her up and lead her around yourself. Do ground work. Get to know her, her signals for when she's attentive, inattentive, frustrated, being naughty. Tack her up and mount, then dismount. Little steps. Do you have an enclosed area/arena you can ride in? When you're ready, then ride at a walk only in the arena. Move on from there... little steps... communication is the key. She will let you know when she is unhappy before the trouble starts, but you have to know how she is telling you.
I hate it when there are confidence blows, I have a probelm with that some too! Maybe you can ride someone elses horse kinda like your mare but not bad, and get your confidence back well you have a friend or trainer riding your mare with you! But like said before I would have the vet look at her! And if you are scared she will take off with you or buck when you start riding her, why don't you try to lounge her before you ride? Just to get out any extra energy!
She wasnt moved when I bought her. I bought her off someone that agists where I do so the only thing that has changed is the owner. There is a large round yard there that I have been riding in.
She does need her teeth done so maybe that is also making her a bit cranky. Im selling one of my saddles so I can pay for it to be proparly done. I didnt get a vet checked when I bought her because I had only 1 night to decide if I wanted her or not. I plan on getting a trainer/instructor to help me with her but at the moment we cant affored it. I will be getting someone out to get her teeth done this month.
I wouldn't ride her until you float her teeth. How about just hanging out with her or doing ground work with her. If she's in pain you're not going to be able to make any progress or build confidence .
Yes, pain would definitely be an issue. Sounds like now you are closer to being on track again. Looking for causes puts you in the power position again in a way...
Since she hasn't been moved, I agree with whats been posted -- check for pain and take it slow -- for both of you!
Thanks for the advice. I talked to my parents and they said we could get her teeth floated this week.
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