I had an epiphany about my life.....
I had a pretty deep and philosphical epiphany yesterday.
My littlest had to drink some tea yesterday. I am a budding herbalist (excuse the pun) and we have NO medicine here, just herbs. So when my kids get sick, they get tea. Well, my youngest had a bad cough so I had made her some mullien tea, bitter stuff, even with honey (NEVER use sugar in herbal teas, messes up the healing properties, only sweeten with honey.) I noticed she would take a TINY sip, then gag and contort and 'bleuck', then do it all over again, over and over until the tea was gone, (and it wasn't even a full cup) sip by tiny, reactive sip. Later that day I had poured her some orange juice, her favorite beverage, and she gulped down a HUGE glass, gulp gulp gulp till it was gone and wanted more.
What I realised is I do the same thing with life. I gulp down the good stuff without knowin it, chug away and take for granted all the wonderful little things that abound. But when I have a little cup of sorrow, pain or hurt I microfocus on it, almost as tho I am savoring every morsel. And when I hafta drink the bad stuff, it seems like ALL that good stuff, those glasses and glasses of good stuff I chugged down never existed.
In my opinion many of people do that, me included. It's so easy to let all good to go without noticing it but then stick every misfortune. Maybe it's if your life has gone somehow well? I mean that all that good is a truism? Or I don't know how just your life has gone but I assume that it could be one of the reasons why people do that.
But it's great that you noticed that because it's the key to change your attitude.
BTW, how do you rationalize being a herbalist on a personal level and a nurse on a professional one?
Actually, I am a pretty happy person (when I have coffee) but I still tend to see the cup as half empty, rather than just half a cup (or the cup half full). But yes, admittance is over half of the battle of change.
Iride- I seek to conquer from within.:wink:
[quote=DarkChylde;243443]Actually, I am a pretty happy person (when I have coffee) but I still tend to see the cup as half empty, rather than just half a cup (or the cup half full). But yes, admittance is over half of the battle of change.
You made me :-). I see a 1/2 glass, neither 1/2 full or 1/2 empty. Not sure what that says about me other than I tend to simply try to live very much in the moment. I do plan, but I try very hard not to miss what is happening in the now. Lessons I have learnt in life I suppose. :wink:
I too am a very in the now sort of person. I don't look back too much nor hold thoughts or grudge for something that happened last week or last decade. I don't think much beyond today or even the next minute sometimes.
I guess I gulp down the good and the bad with equal abandon.
We never had children (I'm 51) I wonder if that has something to do with it...No sense of continuity in my life :?
my husband says the glass is the wrong size (engineer) :D
My sea-farin family has a sayin. You can curse the wind, or you can praise it, but either way you still gotta trim the sails......
My glass is half empty too. Besides that an adjective "worrier" could describe me well.
Great thread. I think it's human nature to focus on the bad things more or so than the bad. I think the world has caused us to view things and evaluate them that way. I knew I would find some interesting views on this and here is something I thought would be great to post.
Open up your mind to another view :)
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<DIV id=content-wrapper><DIV id=main-wrapper><DIV class="main section" id=main><DIV class="widget Blog" id=Blog1><DIV class="blog-posts hfeed"><DIV class="post hentry uncustomized-post-template">Why do people prefer to be negative instead of positive?
<DIV class="post-body entry-content"><SPAN lang=EN-US>Iím asking this as a psychology student but even more as a human being. It just hit me a couple of days ago, that most of the time people choose a negative outlook on life instead of a positive. Donít take me wrong Iím one of them or at least I have my periods, but it is crazy really. Or is it some evolutionary benefit form going around being negative,maybe? Do we need to be negative to push ourselves forward?
Because to most of everyday tasks it is always possible to choose a positive or negative outlook, and I mean choose, because that is what it is all about. I donít think that most people feel that they have a choice of choosing happiness or sadness but in fact they actually do.
The weird thing is that I even have problems trusting people that are too happy. If someone is too happy I always assume that something is wrong or that they hide a big dark secret, in fact I even find them creepy.
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