The Stupidity of People and lots of self doubt ~A Rant~
When I first started riding at the age of seven I began taking lessons at a little farm. I knew nothing in the beginning and was just happy to be around horses. As I grew and my knowledge of horses grew I began thinking that maybe it wasn't the best farm around, but I learned to ride there, I worshiped (stupidly) my instructor and all of my friends were there. Despite the negatives it was my home away from home.
My dad kept trying to tell me that maybe it wasnt the best place for me, that sue (the owner/instructor) maybe wasn't the best person around and maybe I wasn't learning as much as I could being there. But I wouldn't listen, It wasnt until I was 18 and left for college, taking my horses with me, that I realized how horribly wrong I had been about that farm and the people there.
A bit about this farm. The horses are kept in small dirt paddocks, 5 or 6 in space meant for 2 or 3. They are all given the same cheap grain, despite age, exercise levels and such. They are all fed about 4 flakes of hay a day (2 in the am and 2 in the pm) regardless of temp. and they are all kept outside 24/7. They didnt even have runin sheds until about 2 years ago. And she'll use her horses in lessons all day, hard lessons, in the dead of summer, lesson after lesson.
Everyone outside of the farm agrees that the horses aren't well taken care of and that sue is a complete wacko. I feel so stupid for not realizing it until I left. Maybe I didnt want to see it, but now I feel so bad for ever keeping a horse there. My horse Liberty was almost sent to Slaughter by Sue, because he was "useless" I took him in and turned him into a wonderful hunter.
The other thing, Sue never taught us anything, and most of what she did teach us was wrong. I never knew how to wrap legs, braid, wraps tails, give dewormer, etc. until I left and went to a new farm. I feel so stupid not knowing much about conformation, or how to tell if hay is moldly. I have been riding for 16 years and I know less then people who have been riding far less then I have. And its all sues fault, she never taught but I worshipped her and trusted her to teach me right.
Apparently the rescue I volunteer at had to go take a horse out of that property about 2 months ago. And sue did everything in her power to keep him from getting on the trailer, including spooking him.
I'm not sure what the point of this rant was, lol but I needed to get it off my chest.
Sorry for your experience......people suck (thats why horses are so great)
She is the one who should feel bad not you, she took advantage of a younge girl. We all make mistakes, you live...you learn....and try to help others with what you know.
I did not get on a horse till I was 34 and as a newbie I can tell you that almost everyone I run into has a opinion (that they are all to happy to share)
take the good and forget the rest........ranting is good.....get it off your chest
good luck, in the one year I have had my horse I am on my 3rd barn (learning as I go and I am not afraid to say.....that is not good for my girl and I'm outa here....sorry about your people!
I guess I just need to buy my own place so I be sure things get done right :)
No other thoughts?
I'm sorry you had such a bad experience there. There are all kinds everywhere. Don't let it ruin your horse experience, though. It's never too late to learn, so you still have time to learn things the correct way.
It is good to get things off of your chest, though. And for many, it helps to write it all out.
Don't beat yourself up - just live and learn. This isn't rare. I think there is a barn like this in every town. When I was growing up, we knew which barn it was and it is still there today and everyone who isn't associated with it openly wonders how they haven't gotten sued or had a serious problem yet. Just saying its name raises eyebrows and smirks.
The only people who don't seem to know how bad it is are the people who ride there. But barns are, rightly or wrongly, their own little worlds and kingdoms and sometimes it take leaving to see the problems. If you've never been taught or exposed to what is correct, how can you see the forest for the trees.
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