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averylilly 07-22-2013 08:36 PM

Abusive dad..
My dad has always been abusive and still is. I honestly hate him I don't hate people or animals but I do hate him. I don't ever remember him not hitting us ( us being my brother, sister and I) In 7th grade the school noticed bruised and cuts. Child services were call but my mom removed us from our house so the dropped it. But we moved back in a mouth later. He has beat us, told us we were useless and a waist of money and done ever thing he could to hurt us emotionally or physically. He has chipped my teeth, bloody my nose and gave me black eyes. My mom is the sweetest person but I don't understand why she doesn't levee him!! I'm mad at her for taking that kind of **** from him. Thank god he doesn't hurt her but he sure as heck dose us. I now hate men not because I have some pity sob story but they honestly make me nerves. I afraid that I'll get close to one and (like my dad did) they are suddenly some jerk with a thing for beating people. I know I know not all men are like him but most of the ones I have meet are . Any way I done ranting and ya'll don't have to give me you pity comments I just needed to get that off my chest.

Northernstar 07-22-2013 08:51 PM

I'm so glad you got that off your chest, averylilly - no pity comments, but just a few thoughtful words....I don't know how old you are, but if you're still a minor, don't hesitate to go to any trusted adult @ school (I know it's summer right now though), your community, (such as a women's shelter/resource center - free and safe), or the police if you have to. What you describe is abuse, and your mom is obviously too afraid to do anything about it herself. But know this - We live in a Country that protects it's children, and I urge you to (even secretly if you have to!) start making phone calls, (usually all kinds of community #'s in the front of the phone book) and gather information as to how you can get out of that situation....unfortunately sometimes a mother is too 'overwhelmed/feels helpless' to help her children, so make yourself heard to the authorities and accept their offers of advice. Don't be scared. I'll say a special prayer for you! :)

Chiilaa 07-23-2013 07:23 AM

Tell people. Don't stop telling people. It takes an average of 13 times for a child to disclose abuse before someone listens. Don't give up, someone will act on it if you keep at it.

Start a journal, even online. Keep a record of anything that happens, so that when you are asked, you are not trying to remember days that things happened etc. Even if you don't share it with anyone right now, start it this minute. Add pictures if you can of any damage to yourself.

Be strong. You are worth fighting for <3

LilacsBloom 07-24-2013 11:24 AM

I'm glad you shared this.

Talk about what's going on. It takes courage to tell others what's happening. God for you for taking this step and speaking up about the abuse.

I agree with the other posters -- keep telling people. Tell until someone listens. Tell until someone helps.

You have great value and don't deserve this.

LilacsBloom 07-25-2013 09:31 AM

That should have said "GOOD for you....". Hope that makes more sense.

jaydee 07-25-2013 10:11 AM

This sounds really serious to me and not something you should be afraid to discuss
It sounds like you love your mum but sad to say she's neglecting you too by allowing it to happen. She's probably lacking the courage to stand up to him and to cope with life on her own
You must talk to someone about this.
A good start would be someone at school or maybe your local GP who should see any injuries you get and they can alert child services again
You are old enough to speak up for yourself so don't let it get covered up.

NorthernMama 07-27-2013 09:06 PM

Lots of really good advice here for you, Averylilly. I really really really hope you will do as people suggest. By going forward with this you can protect your brother and sister too. The three of you NEED to get out of this situation.

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