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Kaylastacy12 08-06-2013 11:54 AM

Grumpy Horse Please Help!
I have had my horse for about a week and every day she acts completely different. Sometimes she is very sweet and likes to be petted and brushed and other times she is just so hateful I am a little scared of her. She had been doing really well and I rode her yesterday just for maybe 15 or 20 minutes and I thought she did really well besides the fact she didn't seem to be comfortable with her bit at all so I took it off and rode her with just her jaquima (she's a paso fino) then today she acted like a completely different horse. She wanted nothing to do with me, ran away from me in the field whereas the day before she would follow me around and she even offered to bite and kick. I'm just not sure what I'm doing wrong here. Could she have been sore from not being ridden in a while? I am just feeling lost with her.
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waresbear 08-06-2013 12:07 PM

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If she is young, she could be shedding her baby teeth and maybe retained some caps. Some mares have Jekyll & Hyde mood swings when they come into heat.
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Kaylastacy12 08-06-2013 12:19 PM

She is 11
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tinyliny 08-06-2013 12:21 PM

just stay consistent in what you expect from her, regardless of her mood.
If you expect her to move over when asked, you expect it no matter her mood. if you expect her to NOT bite, then never allow it.
her coming to you or not coming is harder , but even that can be disallowed. I mean you can work on catching her in the pasture so that she knows that running away from you there is not ok.

there are lots of threads here on how to catch a hard-to-catch horse.

AmateurOwner 08-06-2013 01:45 PM

I know exactly the attitude you are describing. I've experienced the same with my Paso Fino! With my horse I've determined she has trust issues. The longer she sees me sticking around, the more I feel us bonding. Mine is a one human horse too. She'll tolerate my MIL who has to feed her on occasion, but she doesn't show her any of the affection she shows me and rejects any attention anyone else tries to give her. My advice -hang in there :)

waresbear 08-06-2013 01:49 PM

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Also, don't ever act afraid of her, you are always the boss no matter what her mood or heat cycle is otherwise she will get your number (lower than hers!) and keep you there.
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Palomine 08-06-2013 02:09 PM

In a nutshell, you are letting this horse run the show and she is now showing you that she is the leader.

Quit spoiling her, and quit babying her, or you will end up with a horse that will hurt you.

They are not dogs, they do not react like dogs and they do not do well with humans who baby them.

Horses do on have "moods" per se. And trying to assign human emotions to a horse does you no good in terms of how to be a horseperson.

Unless you quit the Dr. Phil thinking, you are headed for trouble and fairly quickly I expect.

Horses are herd animals, they have a leader as well as a distinct place in the pecking order. That means they know who is the boss of them. And they know who they are the boss of. They rarely challenge a horse higher than them, and will make the lives miserable of those lower than them at times.

You need to be the leader here, not the horse.

If not? The type of things you are seeing now, will be minor compared to what is coming.

Kaylastacy12 08-06-2013 02:38 PM

What can I do to show her I'm the leader without making her hate me?
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Speed Racer 08-06-2013 02:49 PM


Originally Posted by Kaylastacy12 (Post 3272145)
What can I do to show her I'm the leader without making her hate me?
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Stop with the, 'I don't want her to hate me' stuff. What you want from a horse is RESPECT first and foremost. Without respect, affection is completely useless.

She's a horse, not a human being. She's not going to 'hate' you if you discipline her and show her that her place in the herd hierarchy is under you. In fact, that will put her mind at ease because she'll know her place and won't have to guess at it.

rox 08-06-2013 05:26 PM

I was in the same boat, I was afraid to hurt my horses feelings, I wanted her to love me lol but I got tough! not mean, but firm, shes still my "baby" we just had our 1 yr anniversary. shes 13. I give her mare magic everyday! some people say it does nothing for them but I disagree, when I ran out and hadn't had a chance to get some for a several days, she got away from me and kicked me! didn't feel good, but wasn't that bad. she gets it everyday and hasn't attempted a kick since.:lol:

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