i had my 3rd horse who was a tenn walker. i was only 13 when i lost him. i showed him in gaited classes, jumping, poles, games, and even did lessons. and trail rode. but on August 7th 2004 he had to be put down as he was having kidney problems and had had a stroke. i did not know that he had to be put down until i got a call from the vet in 2008 saying he had the ok from my parents to kill the horse as he said. he also said he would sue me for slander as i had told 2 or 3 people of what had happened. he is very blunt and not a very good vet. Titan had had complications on Aug 6th the vet was notified and he said he would come to the barn that evening but never did show up. not even a call. he did not show up until the evening of aug 7th. by then the horse could not be saved. therefor he had to be put down. this was a very devastating time for a shy teen to loose her only friend. it had only made me draw back more and not communicate well with anyone for that matter.
i have cried every year on this day. as i try to forget i remember. but i remember all the good times we had. but i do kick myself more and more for not taking more pictures of him. i really wish i had a picture to share but i have none to do so.
thanks for taking the time to read
I know how you feel as I had a similar experience and I'm so sorry for your loss.
thank you so much. when i start thinking that i no longer feel that way it just brings everything back again. but im slowly learning.
I'm sorry for your loss, it's never easy when you lose a beloved equine friend. ((((Hugs))))
I'm sorry for your loss, losing a friend is always hard
It's been 9 years and you're still crying over a horse you lost that long ago? Maybe you need to see a therapist. That kind of grief simply isn't normal.
It's okay to feel sad and maybe get a little misty eyed on the anniversary of a much loved animal's death, but after 9 years I'd think you'd have learned to live with it. My heart horse has been gone 6 years, and I actually forgot the anniversary of his death this year. That means I'm healing and moving on, which is how grief is supposed to work.
I also have my doubts that a vet would call a 13 y/o girl and tell her that her parents said it was okay for him to 'kill' her horse, or that he was going to sue a child for slander. That simply doesn't pass the smell test.
i can assure you that the vet did call and tell me that. i know i didnt daydream about it. and i am very sure that it happened. this vet is an awful person. i dont really know how is still in business to this day but whatever.
maybe i do need to see a therapist but as i am a stay at home mom and i have no insurance it would be pretty expensive. plus the only therapy i need is teaching my son to ride and being at the barn.
trust me i know how grief is supposed to work. i have been through enough grief in my life.
Titan was not just my first horse but the only thing i looked forward to during the day. since i had no friends because i was judged in my school for being who i was and who i still am today. how about not being so harsh. just saying.
Wow good for you. Speed Racer sounds like a very uncaring individual.
I lost a horse almost 6 years ago and I still feel the pain, I lost another one 4 weeks ago and I am sill in shock. Both of these horses meant the world to me. I still have 2 more and I know that unless they outlive me there will be more pain but on the other hand I would not like to live my life without them. They are all special, so are my dogs and cats and each time we lose something we love it hurts.
I try to stay focused on the great memories, sometimes they make me smile and sometimes they make me cry.
this horse was my world. i have lost other horses. but this one horse really hit me hard.
animals are like family in my house and Sachmo sounds like yours is the same.
So sorry for your loss, even after all this time. RIP Titan.
I miss a horse that I grew out of nearly 10 years ago, she may or may not be dead now, I don't know. But, I still miss her and cry about her. Your grief is fine as long as it is not taking over your life. We all grieve differently and at different rates. Getting tearful over something as important as this is no big deal and actually healthy I think.
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