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TimWhit91 08-18-2013 05:37 PM

Am I being too picky?
 
I finally met a nice guy. But of course I found things wrong with him. He is too nice. Agreeing with everything I said, trying to do everything for me, being kind of clingy. I'm sure he was probably nervous, but I don't like those traits. He also showed up with long shaggy hair and a bushy goatee. I like clean cut guys. I feel like I am being too hard on the guy. I have mentioned the being too nice thing to him, he said he would try to relax a little. Should I mention the other things too? I don't want him to change for me. But I'm attracted to clean cut guys. Other than those issues, I really enjoyed being with him. He knows horses, my dog loved him, he is smart and funny. He does have PTSD, he was in special forces and saw some scary things. I don't know what this post is even for. I think Iam just making.things up now to avoid getting hurt again. Sorry about the confusing post, I am a confusing person.

Dreamcatcher Arabians 08-18-2013 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by TimWhit91 (Post 3391402)
I finally met a nice guy. But of course I found things wrong with him. He is too nice. Agreeing with everything I said, trying to do everything for me, being kind of clingy. I'm sure he was probably nervous, but I don't like those traits. He also showed up with long shaggy hair and a bushy goatee. I like clean cut guys. I feel like I am being too hard on the guy. I have mentioned the being too nice thing to him, he said he would try to relax a little. Should I mention the other things too? I don't want him to change for me. But I'm attracted to clean cut guys. Other than those issues, I really enjoyed being with him. He knows horses, my dog loved him, he is smart and funny. He does have PTSD, he was in special forces and saw some scary things. I don't know what this post is even for. I think Iam just making.things up now to avoid getting hurt again. Sorry about the confusing post, I am a confusing person.

Either you like him or you don't. ie long hair, goatee, fashion disaster, etc etc. I personally can't handle clingy, nice and wants to do things for me, great but ......... is it a control thing or truly nice? or are you being too picky? or is he a loser waiting to happen?


Go with your gut.

Skyseternalangel 08-18-2013 07:17 PM

The best thing to do is put him to the test. Do something you love, that may be something others aren't readily happy doing (like going hiking, go-karting, trail riding, to a baseball game, etc.) whatever it is that you want.. and just see how it goes.

Take him (and you) out of your comfort zone and see if you like spending time with him. If not, then it's likely your gut knows this isn't someone you want to be with.

TimWhit91 08-18-2013 09:31 PM

He shaved for me
 
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He is too cute for his own good. I will give him a few more dates to see how we like each other.

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toto 08-18-2013 09:38 PM

I wouldnt force it if you dont like some things about him- you might never-- and its good to be picky! ;-)

Skyseternalangel 08-18-2013 09:44 PM

I wouldn't post his photo on the internet without his permission...

TimWhit91 08-18-2013 11:02 PM

I got his permission actually. Kind of strange asking someone to use a picture, but I did. And he wanted mine for something. Maybe he's asking his buddies about me

gunslinger 08-18-2013 11:05 PM

You young gals crack me up...

You don't really have a clue what you want, don't know it when you find it, and then complain when you run these young fellows off.....

I guess it's been that way for generations though hasn't it?

You're over thinking all this....IMO

Skyseternalangel 08-18-2013 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by gunslinger (Post 3394514)
You young gals crack me up...

You don't really have a clue what you want, don't know it when you find it, and then complain when you run these young fellows off.....

I guess it's been that way for generations though hasn't it?

You're over thinking all this....IMO

I agree with you.. but in the case I had happen (I'm not even 21 yet).. I wish it were that simple :/

TimWhit91 08-18-2013 11:14 PM

I know I don't know what I want, I'm horrible :/ And most the guys I have "run off" were losers who I shouldn't have gone out with anyway. This guy is different


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