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Golden Horse 08-20-2013 02:42 PM

What not to wear when out and about, spin off from riding clothes thread.
This is prompted by this thread

I am wondering about things that we worry about, don't worry about when it comes to affecting others. The thread I linked to started off discussing wearing barn clothes when shopping etc, but then other people were talking about other annoyances, so where do we draw the line?

Confession, I shop in barn clothes, also in my tatty farm clothes and dusty when I'm busy in harvest or seeding season. Now my husband will happily mix with people who are barn dirty, but has reactions to people who are wearing a lot of perfume. I have a friend who cannot stand being around people who are smokers.

There was a school that I heard of that asked that not only did the kids not bring peanut butter to school, but that they didn't eat it for breakfast and come to school, to prevent allergic reactions in others.

Where do we draw the line in being respectful of others.

AlexS 08-20-2013 02:45 PM

I don't much care how anyone is dressed. I assess people based on how they behave rather than how they dress.

Mochachino 08-20-2013 02:47 PM

I really don't care what people think. I often stop downtown to get some groceries after going to the barn. Dirty hands, jeans, probably hay on my clothes....maybe I should care more but I don't. If what I do does not adversely affect the health of other people around me and I feel comfortable with it then fine. Peanut butter/peanut products or perfume is not allowed in all of our schools and some public places as these allergies can be deadly and I understand that and agree with it. For some people it means the difference between life and death. One girl at a school I taught at had to wear a full ventilator mask she was so allergic to all fragrances.

tlkng1 08-20-2013 03:04 PM

There is a difference about isn't so much the fragrance itself, unless as Mocha pointed out the allergy is that sensitive, it is how much people put on. People don't get the hint that the idea is to dab it on lightly..not take a proverbial bath in the stuff.

As for the peanut allergy, I understand the idea of not wanting to isolate a kid with a peanut allergy but peanut butter in and of itself is a protein today's economy many families rely on it or use a lot of it; it is a standard allowable item on things like WIC and food stamps. If a child is honestly that allergic to peanuts/peanut butter that just the smell of it could set off a reaction (ie having someone eat it for breakfast and then come to school), then other accommodations should probably be made. What happens when the child is taken out in general public? To the doctor or dentist's office's? For something simple like clothes shopping?

demonwolfmoon 08-20-2013 03:17 PM

I had a friend as a teen who would sweat buckets. His shirt would soak through, and the towel he put on the back of his seat in the car. He smelled, and didnt feel the need to change. He, with shirt soaked, like he got hit with a hose, would try to force me to hug him on the spot. Thats a bit much.

I've got no problems going to the store in sweats and flip flops, though we never did that as kids. Screw it, theres nothing wrong with Pjs either. ;)

I will NOT go in public covered in horse, dog, food, or workout sweat.

My mom is one of those people who thinks a ton of perfume covers up everything, including cat smell (she is a hoarder). IT DOESNT. In her case, you could smell both the too many cats/cat pee, as well as having the pleasure of getting choked out by her perfume.

As for how people are dressed, I never cared. Im from SoCal, five minutes from the traditionally um, flamboyant area. I feel like as long as no one has a view of the goods, you're golden.

Sahara 08-20-2013 03:23 PM

To each his own. I don't expect anyone to change anything about themselves for me. Free country, as long as it's not illegal, do whatever you want.

Having said that, I do wonder if some people have mirrors. Like young girls who wear clothes 3 sizes too small.

As for people shopping straight from work, thank you for working so my taxes don't pay for your welfare.

Golden Horse 08-20-2013 03:30 PM

LOL, good point Sahara, I would rather have a barn dusty person, who has their whole selves inside their clothes, than a person displaying their butt crack and muffin top.

The peanut butter thing, I totally get not taking peanut based items to school, while also wondering if peanut allergy is a new thing, but not to allow people to eat it before coming to school is crazy. What happens if I buy a peanut based treat and eat it in a public place.

As a whole do we have more allergies than we used to?

demonwolfmoon 08-20-2013 03:30 PM

Anyone ever see Gone With the Wind? Rhett Butler makes Scarlett wear a bright red party dress to her ...sister by marriage (?)'s deathbed. It was scandalous behavior.

I personally dont really care what people are wearing, again, but do we still have real lines and ettiquette where dress is involved? OOC, as long as the individual feels good about what they are wearing, does it matter if they look "good" in the traditional sense?

SouthernTrails 08-20-2013 03:37 PM


Originally Posted by AlexS (Post 3408962)
I don't much care how anyone is dressed. I assess people based on how they behave rather than how they dress.

I take exception to that on one note, many years ago when I did purchasing in a Manufacturing Shop, I had two salesmen selling Welding Supplies, one came to our office in his 800.00 fancy suit, the other came in with work clothes on, I always purchased from the guy in work clothes.......:lol::lol:


Golden Horse 08-20-2013 03:47 PM

Now here's an interesting one, the hospital that I was taken to after the accident, the attending Doctor gets some bad reviews, yes I did check RateMD's :wink: mainly because of his attire. This guy also farms, and tends to turn up to surgery or the the hospital in jeans, T shirt and trainers, rather than a shirt or tie, he is also alleged to have turned up smelling bad and with cow **** on hos trainers. I can confirm the jeans etc. but not the smell or cow ****. He seems to be a competent, caring and capable doctor, so should he be judged on his dress code?

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