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Incitatus32 09-08-2013 02:10 AM

I am weird: And so can you! A call out to all eccentric people
 
I just wanted to write a bit about eccentricity and how people view it, please forgive me if this is in the wrong place, or needs to be taken down because it's completely out of turn for this website! :) I recently came across a few people who were very down in the dumps because they were odd and ostracized in our community even though they were lovely people! So this one's for people like me and them who need a pickmeup, to know that they're not alone. :-)

I want to start by saying that I was the 'weird kid' at school. For the most part of my childhood I did not hang around with my peers or socialize, and spent my time reading, writing, and of course riding horses. My parents tried for a while to get me to socialize but it failed, simply put: I wanted nothing to do with anyone.
When I hit middle school it kind of hit me that I was weird. I would make small talk with my peers but avoided hanging out and heck, even gave myself lunch detentions to get away from everyone and study! (I put myself in the bully box for bullying.... myself :oops:).
In high school I met a small group and we hung out, but I was still 'weird' and 'unconventional'. I read a lot, I preferred animals to people, I was naive about social cues and references. Heck, I was odd because I liked doing dissections and all kinds of academic studies! I was the odd duck who got a microscope for chirstmas and asked people for blood samples so I could continue the lab we hadn't finished in AP Biology. (Though to ease fears, I was never, EVER unsanitary or uninformed. I'm pretty sure that christmas season I put medical supply gloves out of stock! haha) Yes I was an odd duck. I have couple of skulls in a box so that I could study mandibles and jaws as well as teeth structures in small mammals. I read, wrote and breathed horror as well as science. Yes, in the eyes of society I was, and I quote: "A lost cause".

Now let me move on to my main point:
People by nature have some degree of eccentricity to them. There seems to be an attitude however that anything 'out of the norm' needs to be repressed. A person cannot like studying bones because that makes them a serial killer; a kid can't watch horror because it desensitizes him to violence, etc, etc. But through this all no one seems to want to address the point: do these 'eccentricities' make us unique? Or defile our character? I think that they add to a human's character. Yes there are some people who go round the bend a bit and develop homicidal tendencies but I believe that's a preexisting condition. 'Odd Ducks' are just that; unique and flower into wonderful people who can teach you a lot.

I realize now that I'm an introvert.... as well as several other things that my family genetics gave me. And I'm getting to be more okay with it. For a while there I felt (and still do) like society and my peers have no place for me. I'm an anomaly that shouldn't be in the world because of my eccentricities. Then it occurred to me: Our uniqueness defines us. There is nothing wrong with how you view the world, how you express yourself, and how you explore your world. There is only one you and no matter how odd, and how chastised for that you may be let it shine! Because as I was told once by a wise person: "Odd people like you make the world a better, less mundane place to live."

There you go! I'm cutting it off there because I'm sure no one wants to hear my rambles! :lol:

Missy May 09-08-2013 10:48 PM

What you call an eccentricity I would be more inclined to call an interest. DH wants to be a pathologist. I don't find that eccentric at all, as she has always been very interested in things in that "area" - many of which most people, myself included, do not want to expose themselves to on purpose (e.g., necropsy).

Incitatus32 09-08-2013 10:59 PM

I can completely understand that! Maybe it's just around here then... lol my community is not very accepting of anything outside of their comfort zone. :)

On a side note: I love your profile picture!

Missy May 09-09-2013 11:05 AM

Thanks.

Always pursue your interests - don't worry about who does or doesn't share them. I really liked math when I was young but I was too young to appreciate its real "value", it was just a "game" to me. People don't ordinarily share "excitement" over math, btw. Good thing I did not let that dissuade me.

Endiku 09-09-2013 12:10 PM

I agree; I wouldn't call interests such as yours eccentricities; mostly because yours sound very similar to mine and I don't consider myself to be eccentric at all! Well, ok. Maybe slightly. I find it fun though. I collect animal skulls, I study nutrition, healthy, and abnormalities for fun, and I am absolutely introverted. Still, I don't think that I've ever had someone reject me because of my hobbies. Rather, when I am rejected it is usually because of MY subconscious dislike for my hobbies, because I thought they wouldn't like them (does that make sense at all?) warned people away. It seems like it isn't until we identify ourselves as outcasts or 'strange' that others begin to feel the same way.

Of course as you said there are those few true oddballs out there; those who sometimes have imbalances or who have never been taught to nurse their interests CORRECTLY in non-violent and ethical ways, but otherwise I tend to think that others are only able to view us as well as we view ourselves. The more self confidence you have, the more outgoing you will be, and thus the more people will be attracted to you.

My own introversion causes me to not particularly like being touched by other people, and it makes it hard for me to express emotion. It also makes me always feel like a bit socially awkward or insignificant. Teaching myself to be ok with who I am and to not worry about other's opinions of me has helped me overcome a lot of that though; and while I still prefer the company of animals (or at least animal lovers) to other people, I am in no way or form a social outcast!

Incitatus32 09-09-2013 01:09 PM

I'm glad about that Endiku! I just know for a while there it did seem like I was the only one but then I was like, this is normal for ME. You're a step ahead of me in that department, I struggle to come to terms with the fact that I'm introverted (I think it was the non communication with my peers and feeling out of place). I'm glad to see that there are other people like me!

Zexious 09-09-2013 01:42 PM

I would consider myself eccentric. Eccentricity, by definition, is just unconventional. Society has made the word mean more than that, but I think I still fall under that category.

That's not to say I'm socially awkward--I have lots of friends and function well in society.

boots 09-09-2013 08:17 PM

I thought you could only be eccentric if you were wealthy! That's what my dad used to joke. He'd follow that with, "The rest of us have to settle for being weird."

I very much do my own thing. Quite unconventional, and have I ever had fun! I also have a good work ethic and sense of responsibility, so I manage to stay employed while following my desired paths.

Skyseternalangel 09-09-2013 08:25 PM

Well you're certainly not anything like me, but we are all weird in our own ways. Which is what I really like about people!

I like doing dissections or learning about anatomy and psysiology however I don't collect bones or things like that. I like learning about animal and human behavior, and sometimes "study" those around me.

I used to collect rocks/stones, and statues of animals when I was very young. That put me in the weird boat, but it's something I enjoyed doing.

My dream job as a child was Secret Spy farmer vet... that also put me on the weird boat.

I mean, everyone has their own weird boat moment or quality. Again, it's what makes us who we are.

Now I could conform to what other people are expected to like (certain events, certain sports, certain shows, etc.) but I'm only fooling myself if I don't do or say what I like.

I find you interesting :) Just as I find others interesting.

Eccentric.. eh. Unique!

pbeebs 09-09-2013 08:34 PM

I agree with you, and we sound a lot alike! Everyone is different and unique. one way is not the right way or the wrong way. You just have to do what makes you happy! If that's being a hermit, spending free time forum-ing and being a homebody (thats me!), then so be it!


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