*sigh* Parents and respect..
I'm getting so sad now..
I have education on horses, I have experience and I know something..
Daddoesn't. He drove some working horses as a kid. And he willingly admits that I know more than he does and he claim he wants to learn..
But whatever I say, whatever piece of advice I'm giving him, I'm wrong, and he has his own ideas, and thats not right on his horse and so on...
And then there comes someone he has met for maybe 5 minutes who perhaps had a horse 10 years ago, and say the exact same thing I've said before, and all of a sudden he gets all thoughtful and ''Oooooh! Yeah, that's must be it!"
I mean..wtf!? He trusts more on a complete stranger than on his own daughter?! He rather believes in someone who he has o idea what experience they have on horses, than me who he knows has an education and experience?
It doesnt matter what I say.. I say his horses hooves arn't the best quality and it could helb with biotin, and he doesn't believe me. Then two days later he comes in and say 'the farier said I could try some biotine and that that could help! That's great, I should have known that before!"
Ok, the farrier has experience too, but what's with this thing to never believe in anything I say? :(
Why do I even try anymore?
It's frustrating, but it sounds like a case of pride.
He may not be crediting you with the advice, but it sounds like he is taking it anyway.
Fathers are used to being the ones teaching their daughters -- Sounds like he doesn't want to accept that :P
Teaching people that are close to you is the hardest. I used to be a skiing instructor and a good one, but I could not teach my boyfriend then and now I can't teach my kids. Teaching a parent can be very hard because you are dealing with the closeness, and a generation barrier. Try to change the words you use and the phrases. Think old-world; try to understand how it was when he was younger. Ask him about it. If you can understand how he thinks, it makes it easier to explain and also easier for him to accept.
He came and apologized today. Annie had noticed I got sad yesterday and talked to him about it when I wasn't there.
It would be great, it's just that it won't change anything. I know because it has happened before. He still won't take my advices unless someone else tells him the same thing.
Even when our children know more about a subject than we do they are still our children. Please try to put yourself in his shoes. Also, things may be easier if you clearly state how you feel. Maybe he will be able to clearly state how he feels. You know, he may very well have heard what you said but if he's not a horsey person maybe he needed to hear the same information from another person/an adult to verify your advice. He may well have needed to hear the same info from two people even if initial advice hadn't been from you.
You know, my mom is a nurse. I'm a nurse. My mom can tell my dad something but he he'll ask me the same question he asked her. He'll believe me first. Now, doesn't make a bit of sense but, hey, we all have our quirks.
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