Letting someone else show my horse? :/
As many of you know I am in the process of moving from Colorado to Texas (which... may fall through ._., in which case Gator would move home, but that's besides the point), and I am keeping him at a Hunter/Jumper facility there. I am allowing the trainer at this barn to use him for lessons at no cost. It is worth it to me that he gets exercise while I am gone.
I was out to visit earlier this year for a few weeks and was able to ride/lesson. He had picked up a few bad habits, but that is to be expected while being used as a lesson horse for a few different riders. Aside from this, things have worked out very well. The trainer/BO is professional and keeps me updated.
So yesterday, with my e-mailed invoice, the trainer/barn owner gave me the usual update. In this update, she essentially asked if one of her students could take Gator to a show. She would be showing in pre-childrens, so nothing big. There are other horses she could bring, but prefers my horse.
My immediate thought is no. I feel like I have worked too hard (I am a full time college student, and work full time to support Gator) to let someone else show him.
So... How do I say this tactfully? How would you feel about someone else riding your horse/taking your horse off property without you being there? Am I being selfish? I certainly feel that way, but the answer remains no... :x
Your horse, your decision. Period.
If it makes you uncomfortable, just be honest & straightforward.
(ps I wouldn't give permission for it either...)
Just say it, haha. Am I reading correctly that you are paying full board for your horse, and yet the trainer gets to use him for lessons? Or are you keeping him at her barn for a discounted price without charging her extra for lessons? If you're still paying for him she's already getting a gift from the heavens, so she should not be offended if you decline. I would just say that you're not comfortable with him being taken off of the property, and that you appreciate her asking your permission. If the girl likes your horse so much suggesting a half lease that allows for some showing privileges might be an option for you ;)
Moral of the story- he's your horse, and if she's not paying for him, you don't want him to be shown by someone else, and you're the only one that has any say over where he goes and stays!
Thanks, friend. I guess I just don't want to step on any toes, or come across as selfish or ungrateful for everything BO has done for me. I'm not typically one to say no...
As was indicated the horse is yours so the final decision is yours, however, just a thought. Good school horses in and of themselves are invaluable due to their temperaments and willingness..not all horses make a good school horse. If a rider is doing very well on a particular school horse, a show with good results can go a long way to giving them more confidence. Depending upon your goals, a good showing is also going to increase your horse's worth especially if it is a rated show.
In this situation I would allow the show but would have set expectations as to trailering protection (boots, wraps, head bumper etc), a SIGNED agreement that the trainer/barn would handle any and all medical issues related if they came up, etc. Essentially getting a guarantee that the trainer/barn takes 100% responsibility for the horse for the entire show process. Also add in that any and all fees related to the show are strictly the responsibility of the rider/trainer/barn. If they won't agree to that than no, I wouldn't allow. Given that the barn is using the horse for lessons without paying you, I would also consider requesting a show fee tack on to reduce your board..in other words, "you can use the horse for showing for a $50.00 reduction in board for the month per days of show. Three days showing, they take off $150.
^I should have mentioned that I show this horse myself. She would be showing at a rated (I'm not sure /which/ rating, as I didn't get the details xD) show in the pre-childrens. It is a single day show.
I show in the B and A circuits in either Schooling Hunter or Green Hunter divisions. So, the value thing doesn't really apply, but is a good thought if I didn't show myself!
^Oh, that's something I didn't think of! But, no, I don't even plan on selling him. I got him as a senior, and he will spend the rest of his life with me as his owner. So, marketability really isn't all that big of a concern to me.
I could see saying no for possible safety concerns, but it sounds like your saying no because you don't want to give another person the satisfaction of showing him because you can't.
Of course at the end of the day its up to you. If it were me an I knew the person doing the handling/shipping and I knew my horse wouldn't likely do anything to cause a problem I wouldn't have a problem with them using him/her. Also, contract, contract contract.
At the end of the day if you feel that strongly though I fess upfront and honest would. Be the best.
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