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Angelhorsegirl 11-11-2009 02:57 PM

Lauren's Dream... (Please Take A Few Moments To Read.)
For as long as I can remember, I have ridden horses. My life has completely revolved around them. For some people, horseback riding is a hobby, for me, it is life. I cannot even begin to imagine a world without horses, they are such a enormous part of me. I would give anything, trade anything, do anything, in order to own my very own horse. I would walk to the ends of the Earth and back get the point. :P

Unless you have spent many Saturday mornings mucking out an entire barn of horse stalls, or listening to the friendly nickers as the horses call to be brought inside, you will rarely understand the admiration for these fascinating creatures. It goes beyond love, to a new level, it becomes life. For some of us, we are blessed with the ability to own a horse, for others, it is all we can ever dream of. I am one of them. My parents will never be able to understand just why I love horses so much, and I will never be able to tell them or make them understand. It just is that way. They teach you so many things, they allow you to experience so much, but those experiences can only go so far when you do not own your own horse.

I often recall the long vacations I spent riding my cousin's horses. While she was away at college, I would train them, ride them, care for them. I would give up everything just to be around them. There was always that era of sadness though, why couldn't I have my very own horse? Was I not meant to be happy? Hmn...and what about Saturdays? Each and every Saturday, rising, bright and early, to go to the local horse stable where I volunteer. I have worked there, determinedly for the past four years of my life. Learning everything about these magnificent animals that I possibly could, riding all the lesson ponies, but never learning the most amazing lesson to be ownership. What about all those endless trail rides with Nicole when I was younger? My best friend from Elementary School, we used to go on so many trail rides around our area. More importantly, to this day, the countless, extensive research I perform on horse tack, breeds, and care information, not to mention the actual hands-on experience. What about that? It's not an infatuation... it's just life.

How can my parents sit there and say I'm not dedicated? How can they say it's just a passing phase? I love them, and there is one thing that separates me from all the girls down at the barn. I'm down-to-Earth. I understand the issues with the economy, and how money is tight. I respect that, and I wish I could do something to help, but it is out of my control. The girls at the barn take everything for granted. They don't understand just how lucky they really are. I would be willing to sacrifice anything to own a horse, I would make time to be with him/her, I would invest every penny I made...

I am not asking for a million dollar animal, just a best friend. I understand the cost, the commitment involved. I will work to get discounted boarding, I will work to maintain veterinary bills and feed costs. I will do everything possible in my power to assist my parents if they allow me to live my dream now. How can I show them? How can I tell them? Horses, my life, my everything. I don't want one, I need one. I need to be set free, I need to be complete. Whole. Please give me any advice possible, how did you get your first horse? I don't want criticism, I've heard it, by giving up now, I'd be giving up on my dream. I'm not a failure, I'm a survivor. With persistence, my dream will come true. The time is now, I know it, I feel it, just like I feel my love of horses running through my veins. Never ending.


luvmyperch 11-11-2009 03:01 PM

Lauren, my heart truly goes out to you. I completely understand. My parents had the same mind-set when I was young. It took everything I had (many years) to convince them to allow me to take lessons. Does your stable have any horses available to lease? Perhaps if you eased them into a lease or half-lease situation, where they are not responsible for unexpected expenses like vet care, they might be able to manage it a little easier. It can be frighteningly expensive and I'm sure they don't want to be in a situation where they couldn't afford to heal your best friend if he got sick.

Angelhorsegirl 11-11-2009 03:08 PM

Thank you for your response. I am currently riding this horse Cody, one or two times each week but it just isn't the same. They don't pay for it as I work it off, but he might be sold soon. That would be devastating to me, and after so many years, why don't I get to have a horse too? It's just all so painfully upsetting. =/ Do you own a horse? What is it like? <3

luvmyperch 11-11-2009 03:16 PM

Actually, I do not have one right now. I started riding just before I was 10. I rode for a year and worked at my barn. When I was 11, I started leasing one of the barn horses, but it still wasn't quite the same. The following year, a girl from my barn left for college and my instructor talked to my parents about buying her horse for me. I have to say that she was the best friend I ever had. No horse would ever compare to her again! She was my whole world and I would have done anything for her. A time came several years later when my trainers convinced us that I needed to move up to a bigger and better horse if I was going to continue competing. We decided to sell her and I was broken hearted. No other horse was ever quite the same. When I was 20, I joined the working world and couldn't afford to do anything with horses. For the last 10 years there has been a small but noticable hole in my life. Recently, my fiance encouraged me to find horses again and I am currently searching for my new best friend. I cannot wait to find my new horse, but I know that it'll take some time to find the right one.

The experience you're gaining by riding and working with different horses truly is a wonderful thing. I really do understand the yearning for a horse of your own, but give it some time and enjoy the horses that are in your life. You day WILL come, and you'll be so happy you waited for the right time and the right horse!!

Angelhorsegirl 11-11-2009 03:30 PM

Oh my gosh! Thank you, that was heart-touching. You are so lucky that you got to experience horse ownership at such an early age, and it must of been horrific to sell your girl. I am not ever going to give up on my dream, it will come true, it is just a matter of time. I love horses, they mean everything to me...and I truly could not live without them. I don't believe my trainer is ever going to be able to convince my parents that they should buy me a horse though. :P

luvmyperch 11-11-2009 03:35 PM

I'm not sure how close this is to you, but I found this on Craigslist...

Horse for lease

Amazing, show ready, trail safe horse for lease

English TB Mare for lease 5yrs old

**Partial lease 8yo Appendix 16++ hands**

I'm not trying to override your parents' decision, but they might be wiling to at least learn about lease options for you. There are many different types of leases with different things they allow and charge for. Good luck!

Angelhorsegirl 11-11-2009 03:38 PM

They are all sort of far, the first one REALLY got my hopes up as she reminded me exactly of Cody. I have never heard of a Buckskin past 15hh, but apparently there is one! If I ever purchase a horse, I want it to be a Buckskin that is 16hh+, but that horse is more than three hours away from me. I am located in Boca Raton, Florida (Southern Area) if you want to try to narrow the search down a bit, I appreciate it!

luvmyperch 11-11-2009 03:44 PM

Keep checking Craigslist, Horsetopia, Dreamhorse, and There are tons of different lease situations. If you find the right one that your parents are comfortable with and confident in their ability to include in their budget, you just might get a way into having your own buddy!

Angelhorsegirl 11-11-2009 04:10 PM

I guess I will try to look around a bit more, I never have much success but who knows??? I will keep on trying! I haven't found anything within driving distance yet but we shall see soon! <3

luvmyperch 11-11-2009 04:21 PM

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