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JessicaGDA 01-10-2010 02:35 AM

Not Owning A Horse...
Not owning a horse is so rough. This thread may be kind of silly, but surely at some point another horse lover has thought and gone through the same things that I am.
I don't own a horse of my own because of the cost, as my parents can't afford it(I ride lesson horses and have been for a year)... but I love horses so much it's painful to not have my own, and it's literally all I think about and dream about.
Any advice on how to deal with those feelings and thoughts? It's hard to contain them, and it just gets worse and worse. And with not owning my own, my horse obsession(lol) grows and grows. It's crazy! I've never wanted anything SO badly! :cry:

Dani9192 01-10-2010 02:50 AM

I know how you feel! I used to feel the exact same way, after taking lessons for 3 years I eventually proved to my dad that we could afford it, and I would be able to handle the responsibility. You can always wait till you get a job, and can handle it on your own. That's what it would of come down to if I hadn't convinced him!! :)

horsluvr198 01-10-2010 09:30 AM

My family can afford it, but my parents say its too much of a commitment. What's worse, is the horse at my barn that i have been riding for 8 months and finally recognizes me, it now very close to being sold! talk about tough love.....

ridingismylife2 01-10-2010 10:43 AM

I feel exactly the same as you. I've been riding for 12 and a half years and have never owned or leased a horse. Just can't afford to. I would get a job, but I don't speak Finnish well enough (I live in Finland). :(
My biggest dream is to have my own horse.

Jillyann 01-10-2010 11:21 AM


Originally Posted by ridingismylife2 (Post 517644)
I feel exactly the same as you. I've been riding for 12 and a half years and have never owned or leased a horse. Just can't afford to. I would get a job, but I don't speak Finnish well enough (I live in Finland). :(
My biggest dream is to have my own horse.

Are you originally from the states?!

Jillyann 01-10-2010 11:26 AM

I felt the same way!! I thought my dream of owning would never happen. But then i found a barn owner who was willing to work with me, and if i help out at the barn she gave me a huge discount on leasing. Maybe you could work something out like that at your lesson barn?

greymaregirl 01-10-2010 12:23 PM

i know how you feel!
I know exactly how you feel about not having your own horse. many years ago as a little girl my dad sat and explained to me that his priority was to feed the human mouths... our family budget did not stretch to an equine mouth! i worked with horses for a while then reality kicked in , i had my own chilldren and many times i sat and explained to them that our family budget did not stretch to their material desires! I worked very long hours for ten years as a long distance truck driver. i drove round the uk looking at the horses in the fields ... my dream never went away. in time i started my own small but succesful business... and last year at the age of 42 i bought my horse. Chester is a 16.2 irish sport horse. We had a rough start and it took at least 6 months for me to realise i was there. id got my horse and was lucky enough to find the right one first time.
i know for the young ones reading this seems a long time to wait. The things is i earned the money , i bought him and i pay for all his needs.He is my dream and i made my dream come true all by myself.. i have had to wait and i have had to work hard . My mum and dad would have bought me a horse if they were rich enough but they werent. The fact that i had to wait so long means the whole experience is so much richer for me.. and the moral of this story is NEVER SAY NEVER.

ridingismylife2 01-10-2010 12:42 PM


Originally Posted by Jillyann (Post 517691)
Are you originally from the states?!

No. I'm half Finnish and half English and lived in Germany for half of my life.

Equus_girl 01-10-2010 01:59 PM

I know how you feel - I dreamed of owning a horse for 8 years and now finally I'm getting one in the spring. Don't give up! Now that I'm 18 and have a steady job I'm able to afford one myself. Sometimes the wait can make actually getting the horse all the more amazing! I'd suggest trying to get a job if you are able to and show your parents that you are serious about helping to take responsibility for a horse. Learn everything you possibly can about them and I'm sure one day your dream will come true.

Kashmere 01-10-2010 02:03 PM

I don't have a horse either, and yeah it's painful!
But just keep thinking you can do it LATER. :)

My mom couldn't even afford me riding, so I only rode about a year, when I was 12 and then no more.
Now I'm 21, and I do commissions to help support my riding lessons every week.

I keep myself sane knowing EVENTUALLY I will get one :-)

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